Introduction: Is a virgin's marriage necessarily happy? Can a divorced woman spend the rest of her life miserable? No kidding, how can it be that a virgin's marriage can also be run in a mess, and a remarried woman can live a happy and sweet wonderful life.
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A while ago, I was overwhelmed by two messages, and I thought about these two things all day. One is the death of the talented son Li Ao at the age of 83; the other is the announcement of the marriage date of Prince Harry in the United Kingdom, and the marriage of his fiancée, Meghan Markle, on May 19, 2018, and the refusal to sign the prenuptial property agreement.
One sorrow and one joy, the world is uncertain.
Many people's impression of Prince Harry is still stuck in the character of the rebellious young man. For a while, the news was overwhelmingly publicizing Prince Harry's nostalgia for nightclubs, and when he appeared on camera, he was a bad boy image, and compared with his brother Prince William, who looked like a civil servant, he was characterized as a bad teenager.
The bad boy of that year grew up, served in the military, killed the Taliban militants, loved charity as much as his mother, and was a carrot like his father.
How many times have prince Harry been watched standing next to his brother and sister-in-law as a searchlight for Prince William and Princess Kate, how many people have broken the idleness of gossip about his marriage, and how many people have loved and hated him, loved him cute, hated him unintentionally.
It was Prince Harry, born in 1984, who was ready to marry his American sister In 1981, Meghan Markle.
Who is Meghan Markle? A mixed-race American, of black descent; an actor who plays small roles with a few lines; and even married, a second marriage with Harry.
As early as 2016, when the relationship between the two men and women was disclosed, the whole of the United Kingdom, so that the melon-eating masses abroad were not optimistic about the relationship, and they were looking forward to the early breakup of the two. As a result, he got the news yesterday that Prince Harry not only wanted to marry Markle's sister, but also refused to sign the prenuptial property agreement, which caused a lot of discussion for a while.
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Many messages said, what happened to Harry, why should he marry a divorced woman, such a woman is not worthy of the title of princess.
Seeing such a comment, I laughed, what is the second marriage of the princess, the queen of Spain Letizia is also married, throughout the Western royal family, many crown princes are married to divorced women, still happy life.
For a long time, our Chinese concept of marriage was in a deformed state, many girls think that marriage is unhappy because they are not a virgin husband, and some girls think that I am a virgin and married to her husband, so my husband cannot be sorry for me.
Know a big sister, call her Sister Ju, when she was young, she looked good, her grades were good, and I met my ex-husband in college. Sister Ju is the kind of woman who is typical of the idea of a virtuous wife and a good mother, does not have a relationship before marriage, and maintains a virgin body and marries her ex-husband.
After marriage, the two worked together to raise a family and raise children, but Sister Ju thought that she was a virgin and her ex-husband married, so the ex-husband should care for her for a lifetime, love him, spoil her, do not allow her ex-husband and other female colleagues to talk, there are many family rules, a quarrel is "I think I was a virgin with you." ”
Over time, the ex-husband was upset and wanted to escape when he saw Sister Ju. After the marriage came to an end, the ex-husband went out of the house, for fear of being embarrassed in a work unit with Sister Ju, took the initiative to resign, and said to Sister Ju before leaving, "You are very good, I am very bad, don't tangle in the past." ”
Sister Ju was seriously ill, and after the illness, she always had mental problems, and often asked others, "When I was married as a virgin, I said that I would love me and take care of me all my life, how can men say that change will change?" ”
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My cousin, who is beautiful and highly educated, had a 7-year-long relationship when she was young, and finally broke up.
The cousin got married at the age of 31, and the mother-in-law looked at the conditions of the cousin's family and the cousin's work, but the husband was a little reluctant, and finally the two married under the mediation of both parents. After marriage, my cousin was not happy, and her husband was not considerate.
After learning about my cousin's marital status, my mother came to a divine comment, "Hey, your cousin didn't know when she got married or she wasn't a virgin, or why didn't her husband care about her like this?" ”
After listening to a mouthful of old blood did not spit out, yes, in my parents' generation, even many people's thoughts are, women are not virgins, divorced, have children, more than 30 years, etc. are not worth it, at this time all the injustices and injustices suffered by women are self-inflicted.
But do you realize that these people who think they are of a tradition of thought are an insult to women's human rights? There are many factors to whether a marriage can be managed, and does the marriage of a virgin ensure peace in life? Of course, self-improvement before marriage is the right thing to do, but you can't push all the problems in marriage to the "virgin" side.
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We have a female colleague who got married when she was young, and after marriage, she found that her husband was not good for her at all, and watched her mother-in-law bully her without saying a fair word, and her husband was single-mindedly training her to be a paid nanny, but she did not listen.
After the divorce of the two, the colleague concentrated on running his own business, the career was thriving, and he dressed up beautifully every day, and there was no longer the embarrassment of being gray-headed.
If the sequelae of divorce are also there, female colleagues have made several friends, but they dare not enter the marriage state again. She said, "If you get married, just have a boyfriend." When you get married, you have to be a housekeeper, you have to be responsible for household chores, and you have to face your in-laws and mother-in-law, and now you have love like this, and you can live your own life well. ”
You see, people are divorced and don't want to remarry.
Back to the beginning of Prince Harry, the future of his marriage with Markle needs to be jointly managed and maintained by the two, Harry is not perfect, markel also has her superiority.
I can't help but think of Harry's father, Prince Charles, who married the beautiful and young Princess Diana, so what? After maintaining a relationship with Camilla for decades, the two finally remarried, and even Prince William and Prince Harry accepted Camilla's existence.
When the old lovers got married that year, someone commented, "How can it not be separated for decades, and I actually think that this is love." ”
What kind of love and marriage is happy, which probably has little to do with whether she is a virgin or not, whether she is divorced or not. Happiness ultimately depends on whether two people love each other, are fit, and are able to work together to manage each other's love.
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