When I first watched "Snail Residence", I felt that Song Siming had died a hundred times, Guo Haiweed had no children, no womb, and it was good to live a clean life abroad. The only thing that is incomprehensible is that Mrs. Song, who was chased for debts in the second half of her life.
This woman is really stupid enough to tolerate her husband's cheating, selling her mother's and brother's property to pay off debts, and tying her daughter's life to a man who is also notorious after death.
It wasn't until many years later that she understood that from the beginning she had never thought of leaving.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="11" > the three words "child's father", which is enough to make women give everything</h1>
Mrs. Song is not Song Siming's first love, and the woman's first time has also been given to other men, but she has the identity of a second generation official, and she has a deep affection for Song Siming.
This marriage, which did not start out in a good sign, lasted more than a decade and finally destroyed the family.
From the fact that she has an independent income, can take care of the family, and even takes care of Song Siming's family, she can be concluded that she is a traditional woman in her bones.
She and Song Siming naturally have feelings, but their feelings cannot erase Song Siming's inner obstacles.
In the face of a cheating husband, the wife generally has two reactions; one is to divorce resolutely; the other is to be patient.
She happened to choose the second one, the title of "Mrs. Song" alone, which certainly could not soothe her wounded heart.
When people reach middle age, only children are a woman's biggest weakness.
In the original work, when Song Siming took Guo Haiweed to a public party, she thought that she would vinegar and make a fuss, and even prepared to let go as long as she did not go too far.
But she didn't, and when Song Siming said, "This is just a scene, why do you have to worry about an irrelevant person", she half pushed and half acquiesced.
In fact, she knew that not only Guo Haiweed, but even more ignorant and fearless women would come from front to back, and all she had to do was to guard this man.
Because only she is Mrs. Song, and only her daughter is song Siming's child.
This became her biggest reason to convince herself.
In fact, when people reach middle age, what love and love are naturally a lot lighter, and it is the most important thing to keep a good child and a complete home.
However, she is still wrong, because in marriage, you blindly pay without a bottom line, and you can only be looked down upon and inched forward.
After all, a person's life is still a person's carrier, not attached to anyone, not pinned on anyone, in order to grasp what you want to grasp. Just as some things are obviously healthy, but some people just don't like to eat, preferring to eat junk food, which is all due to human nature.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="161" > the word "illegitimate child" is enough to destroy everything about a woman. </h1>
Loving and being loved are two extremes, for a bad person, the more you give to his love, the more pain you will gain.
In fact, when she learned that Guo Haizao was pregnant and still a boy, she was already on the verge of collapse.
Thinking of her as a perfect wife who is financially independent and repays her grievances with virtue, what she waits for with her own beauty is not the return of her husband, but the irreparable start-up.
For a married woman, the biggest punishment in marriage is that her husband has illegitimate children.
Regardless of whether marriage begins with feelings or not, what cannot be escaped is that feelings will become more and more weak and indifferent with the length of marriage.
As far as real marriage is concerned, marriage can become brothers in three or five years, and if the economic conditions are worse, the husband and wife can only get along with each other; those with better economic conditions are mostly bound by interests.
Especially in middle-aged marriages, most of them are the best choices made after weighing the pros and cons.
Therefore, as long as the home is still there, the process is not so important.
But the bastard is different, he is a new impactful life, and his existence is bound to split a complete family.
That's the case with Mrs. Song.
Although on the surface she asked Guo Haizao for the 5 million life-saving money, in fact, in her heart, she did not allow any child except her daughter to appear.
It's like a speeding car, which could have followed the route and gone down, but suddenly found that the road under his feet was missing, not to mention the direction of his efforts, and even the road under his feet did not know whether he had gone wrong.
Su Xin said, "Marriage is like a double dance, I go further, you take a step back, so that you can continue to dance beautiful steps." ”
Mrs. Song's marriage not only became a three-person dance, but even the only identity of her daughter was not preserved.
Women, originally can not be too sensible, too understanding, too tolerant of humiliation, over time, all the efforts will become taken for granted. It is not impossible to make a proper work, make a fuss, be lazy, and be willful, and it is also good to brush the sense of existence.
Otherwise, your connivance and appeasement must be a catastrophe in your life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="168" > from "orphanage" to "falling fetus", she changed from Mrs. Song to Song Siming</h1>
When I looked back at "Snail Residence", I understood that Mrs. Song's unintentional action of causing Guo Haizao to fall into the womb hid the humanity she did not want to face.
In fact, her marriage has a lot of "political factors" branded.
Originally a high-ranking cadre, she has seen a lot of the world since she was a child, and she is accustomed to the management of interpersonal relationships, and whether it is from the style of behavior, or the way she talks and behaves, she should not be an air bag.
Moreover, since Song Siming's accident, she was able to sell her parents and brother's house smoothly, which shows that her mother's family's interests and Song Siming's interests have long been tied together.
If in marriage, you can't be happy with each other, or involve the interests of the whole family, then you can't summarize it with love, but she has always been willing to fight.
When she already knows that her husband has cheated and betrayed and used herself as a pawn, she also has to take the money subsidy of her mother's family, which can show that she, like Song Siming, is a demanding personality.
However, song Siming will act arbitrarily in marriage if she asks for her affection; and she will also have no scruples when she asks for the benefits of her mother's family.
Of course, I would like to believe that she loves Song Siming deeply.
If she had not been negligent and caused Guo Haiweed to fall into the womb, if Song Siming Fufa had been imprisoned, she would still be Mrs. Song, or even a good wife who was responsible for sending food to prison.
It's just that she was never a weak person who let people ride on her neck.
It is said that after a long time, people will become more and more like, and I think the "image" here is not only external, but also carved in the bones.
She already knew her husband's heart knot, and she knew even more about his importance to blood, but all this had nothing to do with her.
This is why she can tolerate cheating, but she can't tolerate having illegitimate children.
She is complex, whether it is the family background or the marriage she manages with her heart, it is the same inexplicable.
Similarly, Song Siming is also complicated, this man who climbs up from the bottom has both a desire for power and money, and a reluctance to be persistent, otherwise, he would not have any emotional bondage.
Two people who base their demands on others, whether deliberately or unintentionally, the tragic ending has long been rehearsed, because the "cause" of the world has long been buried in the "effect" you continue to create.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="169" > the saddest part of marriage: continued entanglement. </h1>
If a woman is stupid, this stupidity should be reflected in entanglement.
In cost theory, the more you pay, the more reluctant you are to let go.
If she had decisively abandoned the marriage when she first found out that her husband was cheating, perhaps her end would have been much stronger than later.
Just as in marriage, how many people will be able to maintain the original enthusiasm all the time.
It's just that some people don't have a chance, some people have a chance but don't do it, or don't dare to do it considering the cost, and maintain the status quo.
In fact, when people reach middle age, whether it is a man or a woman, they have long had mature living habits and circles of friends, and stability is the greatest pursuit.
It's just that men need freshness and excitement more than women, but they won't divorce easily, and thinking more is just a dream that both sides have.
And women, they also know that they can't give, so as long as the man can go home, the child has a father, and the family is complete.
Just like we mourn Mrs. Song's misfortune and anger at the same time, looking at the marriage in reality, men and women who are vigorously married and divorced will also have moments of exhaustion.
As long as they can live a long time, most of them will choose to live like this.
Marriage is not beautiful, only two people entangled together have a deep understanding, whether others are persuaded or persuaded to leave, it is difficult to sway any one of them who is unwilling to let go.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="166" > the biggest reconciliation between a woman and a marriage: being yourself</h1>
In the final ending of "Snail Residence", only Mrs. Song chose not to let herself go.
Because whether she meant it or not, a life that was about to come to life was buried on her body, and at the same time, she also directly led to the suicide of Song Siming and the loss of Guo Haizao's ability to reproduce.
This woman, who had endured most of her life, did something that was very pleasing to outsiders in the end.
However, it also firmly trapped itself.
She has to face the debt that is still outstanding, the look of confusion in her daughter's eyes, and the uneasiness in her heart.
She really punished herself, and chose to bear the consequences alone, how speechless?
We all know that no matter what kind of marriage, I first do my best to have an imaginary marriage, but there are too many women who are obstinately confused.
Sincerity is exchanged for sincerity, and paying is exchanged for return, which is called luck; sincerity ushers in unscrupulousness, and giving ushers in no scruples; should you cut off your liver and intestines, or should you get lost and return?
This should be a place where many women can't see clearly and don't want to see clearly.
For marriage, this long-term career, we must be vigilant at the moment, whether we have forgotten our original appearance, forgotten our original vows, and abandoned the beauty of the past.
Try to reconcile with marriage, it is only an important part of your life, but it cannot replace your long life.