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May: "But we are still amazing, so much love to study, unlike me, who has not even graduated from high school in China." It's not like a mother at all. ”
Mother: "Don't say this in front of your children in May." ”
May: "It's all right, the kids get it." Their mom didn't study well and dropped out of high school. I couldn't stay at home, so I went to the ramen shop, where I worked well, was taken in, and married my father. So I often talk to my children, don't be like my mother, go to school and go to college. ”
Eldest sister: "May, you have to say so, in the future, no one will inherit that store." ”
May: "The ramen shop is enough for my whole life, I only have the ability to do physical work, and I never feel that the work is very hard." But I don't want my children to live like this. In this era, there are many ways to make money easily. ”
Eldest sister: "I am not afraid of retribution when I say this, it is not easy to do business so well in such a place now." ”
May: "Sister, you are married to a white-collar worker, in front of a casual housewife, how can you appreciate how hard my daughter-in-law in a ramen shop works?" You also don't understand the troubles of the in-laws (the eldest sister does not live with the mother-in-law). Are you a nobleman? ”
Mom: "Really, having given birth to these five daughters, Yayoi (the eldest daughter) has solidly qualified as a nurse." Fumiko's (third daughter)'s school is a national university. Leaf (the fourth daughter) also graduated from a university in Hawaii. Even the eldest son (youngest daughter) went to a private women's university and will graduate next year. I just didn't get May to graduate from high school, and I regretted it all my life. ”
May: "Mom"
Mom: "Yayoi and Fumiko have met good people and have a happy family." Only you marry into that kind of place. ”
May: "Why is it coming again, my mother said this whenever she saw me, and it was my own decision to marry into the Kojima family." I didn't graduate from high school, and I think it's better to go to work than to study. I know, I've got Mom and Dad worried. I think the decision was right, it's just that children should have their happiness. ”
Dad: "Everyone's understanding of happiness is different, as long as May feels happy, it is really happy." ”
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Although May said that she was not good at studying, she did a good job as a ramen shop. But in her heart, she still hopes that her children can study hard, and like their sisters, they can enter a big company and earn brain money.
It was actually the same idea as her mother, who couldn't bear to work as a laborer at a ramen shop in May, and didn't even have a day off. Even if the family gathers, it still depends on the face of the mother-in-law.
In fact, every mother hopes that her children will have a career and that their children will be happy. In fact, this has nothing to do with whether you work hard or not, and it has nothing to do with whether you can get into college or not.
Instead, society equates studying well and going to college with having a good job and a good future, equating it with happiness and living a good life. Ask a mother who doesn't want her child to be happy.
Therefore, from May's mouth, she will say something similar to her mother, she does not want her children to do hard work like herself, she hopes that children can study well and have a better future in the future.
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Our parents, ourselves, are not like this. Although I know that I am not the material for reading, I even have a headache when I see books. But as soon as you see that the child is not studying well, it is angry. There is a saying on the Internet that says, you watch TV all day long, why ask your child to study hard.
There are many people who agree, but I don't. Parents urge their children to learn, which is a higher kind of love, the most selfless giving emotionally.
It is not difficult to understand why some parents would rather eat and wear worse than enroll their children in cram school. In fact, it is not that children are unwilling, every child has the impulse to learn, which is actually nature.
It's just that you don't know how to express it. You want your child to understand that you are not urging him to learn so that he will be more successful in the future. It is a kind of love of parents, a good wish to make you live better, live more freely, and be more relaxed.
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May said that she only has the ability to do physical strength, and she does not feel that it is very hard to do physical strength. In fact, this sentence is not wrong, because everyone has their own best, and everyone has their own direction of love.
I envy people who are capable of doing a good job and who love that business. But not everyone is so lucky, some people love that business, but not the ability.
For example, one of my cousins likes to sing very much, and the family is annoyed, so he runs to the field to sing, which is taken as a joke by the villagers. But you really say how well he sings. To be honest, being a singer is really hopeless.
My cousin knew that too. So An Anfen worked in the factory, which was just a hobby of his. Every time I see him, he's happy, has a steady job, has a nice hobby, and has a super mentality.
And some people have the ability to do that job well, but they're not interested. Like a friend I know. The family had been making wood carving for the previous three generations, and his father felt that he was very talented in this area and hoped that he would inherit his craft.
He was reluctant at first, but at the request of his father, he gradually took over the family craft. Relying on this craft, the money is not less earned, but it is not happy. Playing cards with a group of fox friends all day, I lost a lot of money. A while ago, because of this, his wife was clamoring for a divorce. Every time I was with him, it was he who was unhappy and asked me to accompany him for a few drinks.
In fact, learning has a similar truth, not everyone is interested, not everyone has the ability to learn it well. We treat such children with more understanding than to blame. I'm not saying that children shouldn't learn, normal learning will help them no matter what they do in the future. I'm just saying don't be too demanding, grasp a certain degree.
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Dad said that everyone's understanding of happiness is different, as long as May feels happy, it is true happiness. I think Dad is very reasonable, but only if you are happy. So what is happiness?
In the eyes of parents, for a girl, having a stable and decent job, being able to start a family, and having a loving husband is happiness. And Mango feels that happiness is the people who love you, and there are people you love.
And study well, go to college, get a good job. Just a means to improve yourself and attract the attention of better people. It's just one of the ways to learn how to love someone.
Mango respects parents who would rather save money than give their children better, and more respects parents who give their children love and teach their children how to love. Dedicate this article to all parents who love their children. I wish you a better relationship with your children.
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