At lunch a while ago, a friend weChat said to me: Do you want to tell you an unfortunate news.
I said: Say what you want, don't say it if you don't want to!
He didn't say.
At three o'clock in the afternoon, he said: Tell you an unfortunate news, this time without asking for my consent, he directly sent a message "*Jumping off the building and committing suicide."
Hua * is his little brother and a boy in '92.
A few years ago, we had 2 meals together, but we just knew each other, not familiar. A person who loves to talk and laugh, let me suddenly think of Hu Jingjing, who jumped off the flybridge to commit suicide in the first episode of "I am very good in other places".
They are all people who look optimistic and bright.
What became the last straw that crushed them, how desperate they were, would they have so much courage to die without fear of ending their lives.
After hearing this news, I was very shocked, very sorry, and a little sad, and I was uneasy all afternoon until I went to sleep, and I kept thinking of him.
Why committing suicide, what about his family.
He was divorced a few years ago, with elderly parents on the top and younger sons a few years old, what do they do?
The cause of his death, now are speculation, also unclear, the day before his suicide with the noon with friends to borrow money to say urgent use, in the evening sent a message to friends said: by their own too stupid *, cheated by online loans, this life money can not be repaid, the next life, he has no face to live in this world. Then it disappeared, and when I heard it again, it was the news of suicide.
Another young man who was forced to despair by online loans to commit suicide.
I often see the suicide news pushed on the social news, and I feel sorry, but it is far away from myself, so there is nothing else but regret.
This is someone I know around me, so it touched a lot.
After returning home from overtime, it was almost 12 o'clock at night, and the eldest sister had not yet slept, and told the eldest sister what she had heard and thought today.
The eldest sister said: The pressure on young people now is too great, the most lost and sad at that moment, and there is no one around to pull him, and they can't think about it for a while. If someone else happened to be pulling around, maybe it wouldn't be like this. Live in the moment, don't put so much pressure on yourself, be a physically and mentally healthy person, even if you encounter something big, you can take the right attitude to face it, don't go to extremes.
Life and death are two major events in life. Respect for life, but also respect for death.
Normal death is beyond reproach, we must establish a normal concept of life and death, live well when we are alive, and face it normally when death comes.
Life, this life, is very easy to be born, and we passively come to this world without our consent. Death is also easy, and we are free to choose to die.
Life is not easy, otherwise the Buddhist family always says: Born to cross the robbery, the sea of suffering is boundless.
>> What does the Buddha mean by talking about suffering? General scholars say that the Buddha's view of the world of social life is pessimistic, which is the way of people who talk about philosophy. The Buddha only tells you that everyone lives and suffers in this way, and he does not mean that he is originally suffering; he has a method, he teaches us to practice, to jump out of this suffering, to attain bliss, which is the purpose of the Buddha.
In "The Beginning and End of Life", Master Nan Huaijin wrote: A person who lives a lifetime is three sentences - born inexplicably, living helplessly, and dying without knowing it.
Finally, it comes down to one sentence: stay away from online loans, cherish life, live well, and live in the present.