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The main reason why people crave intimate relationships is because they are too lonely.
People who can endure loneliness will enjoy loneliness and enjoy the time that belongs to one person. And people who can't stand loneliness will be very afraid of loneliness, when they are alone, their hearts are extremely lonely, and they always hope that there is someone around them, even if they don't talk, they won't feel lonely.
Therefore, many people will be anxious to fall in love, get married, is to hope that there is a person around to accompany, do not have to be lonely again, after work home is no longer a person facing an empty home, weekends do not have to stay at home alone.
However, the matter of love is about fate, and many times it is not said that you can achieve it if you want, especially those who have a pursuit of their partners and life, they will not easily be a person who is not so liked.
This has led to a lot of people, to the age of thirty or alone, sometimes in the face of those anxious to fall in love, anxious to get married of the same age, will feel very anxious inside, will worry that they are all old, there is no suitable object to marry, will not be lonely in the future.
In fact, in our era, there are especially many people who are still alone at the age of 30, because everyone no longer takes marriage as a task to complete as in the past, and treating the matter of finding a partner is also a mentality of Ning Que, but sometimes the heart will feel a little worried, worried that they will be left behind, worried that they will become an outlier.
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In fact, 30 years old is still single, there is no need to be too anxious, there is no need to be in a hurry, because single may be a reward from heaven.
I believe many people have heard a saying that single is the best period of appreciation for a person, whether it is past or present, or the future, I will firmly believe in this, and regard singleness as the best period of appreciation.
Why? In fact, the reason is particularly simple, because compared with people who are in love or married, single people have more time than they do.
For people in love, they always have to date, so after work, or on the weekend, they have to set aside some time to go on a date, go shopping and watch movies, and accompany their partners to play everywhere to enhance each other's feelings.
If it is a long-distance relationship, it will also take a lot of time to call, chat, and get along with each other, so it is necessary to spend time to deal with contradictions and digest negative emotions caused by contradictions. These are very time-consuming and labor-intensive.
For married people, there is even less time, my friends after having children, they are often too busy to touch the ground, sending them messages for a long time before replying. Because they are busy working during the day, they rush home at night after work to take care of their children, do housework, etc., and it is late at night after they are busy.
For both of them, having their own time is a very big luxury, not to mention taking the time to improve themselves, and being able to squeeze out half an hour a day to play mobile phones is already a great luxury.
You see, for people with objects and families, they don't have that much time to think about personal appreciation, because their personal time and energy are heavily squeezed.
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When compared with people who are in love or married, you will find that a single person, part-time is the monopoly of time. The same is the eight-hour work day, romantic and married people, most of their time does not belong to themselves, while single people can completely freely dispose of these eight hours.
Eight hours of time, you can do a lot of things, you can give yourself a higher education, college can study a bachelor's degree, undergraduate can learn a master's degree, or study business administration and so on.
In addition to upgrading academic qualifications, you can also use these times to develop a side business, some people to do part-time work, to do a second job, some people to do some small business, some people to use hobbies to make money.
There are many people who use their after-work time to add value to individuals, they learn hobbies, do what they like, and improve their abilities in all aspects.
Some people have developed a second career outside the main job, some people have done a side job better than the main business, and when the time is ripe, they quit their jobs, develop the side business into the main business, and become an entrepreneur, and some people rely on these hours after work to learn a new skill.
This is the benefit that time brings to them, because there is no partner, no family, so there is no need to spend time on them, have more time of their own, make good use of the wealth of time, and engage in personal development.
So if you are still single at the age of thirty and have not found the object of your choice, there is no need to be anxious because of this, take advantage of the fact that you have more time now, develop yourself well, read a book, learn new skills, travel to increase your knowledge, improve your abilities in all aspects, and add value to yourself.
Singleness is the best period of appreciation, and you should make good use of this time, not to worry about how you haven't found someone yet. Believe in yourself, improve yourself first, be prepared, your fate will come one day.
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Article illustration | Stills from "The Leftovers Are King"