Girls are "wild" in order to grasp their own steering wheel and control their lives.
Author | Leaf yay
A few days ago, I got together with my girlfriend to talk about the baby, chatted and talked about the children's summer vacation plan.
My girlfriend and I proposed that we could take the kids out together.
Who knew that the girlfriend immediately waved her hand and refused:
"Your family is silently a boy, it's okay to go out and play more, my family Sisi is a girl, go out to run every day, what should I do if I play wild?"
Listening, I couldn't help but roll my eyes.
Many parents, like my girlfriends, think that girls are synonymous with being well-behaved and sensible, and girls who are obedient, clean,and docile will be more popular.
So I couldn't help but go with the flow and follow these standards to raise my daughter.
But in fact, the highest realm of raising a girl is to make her "wild".
The girl who is "imprisoned"
Can't withstand the wind and rain of the future
In life, there are many parents who want to raise their daughters as "good girls".
Once the daughter is more playful and active, or has a little personality, the parents will interfere:
"Look at you, there's nothing like a girl at all!"
But they overlooked an important point:
A girl who is "imprisoned" is difficult to live confidently, self-reliantly, and to meet the storm of life.
Remembering her former classmate Yan Yan, she almost never went out with friends when she was a child.
Because the parents stipulate that "you must go home before dark" and "you can't go out alone" for fear that your daughter will be taken by others, she has raised her mind to be "wild".
She grew up without washing clothes or even going into the kitchen because her parents felt that their daughter should "not get into fireworks."
During the holidays, when her peers are traveling or working part-time to earn extra money, she can only stay at home to study, read, and write.
The consequences are obvious, so that she was raised into a "good girl", after entering the society, she seemed particularly helpless:
After going to college, because I couldn't find a dormitory, I was in a hurry to tears;
During military training, he cried all the way because he was trained by the instructor;
Even the position of the student union that I liked was too shy to speak on stage and fight for...
After entering the workplace, in the face of the criticism of her superiors, it is difficult for her to digest herself, who has been protected since childhood;
Because it is too introverted, it is completely impossible to integrate into the circle of colleagues;
Because of timidity, the credit that belongs to him at work has also been replaced...
When in love, because of the personality of the blank paper, she suffered cheating and emotional injuries, and was once depressed, so that for a long time, she was in depression and could not come out.
One day, she couldn't help but cry in the circle of friends:
"I always thought I was growing up, but I didn't.
I just found out now that I can't do anything without home, and I can't do anything well! ”
We only care about raising our daughter into a flower in the greenhouse, shielding her from the wind and rain, and hoping that she will be well-behaved, gentle, beautiful, and ladylike.
The end result is that they are not only physically weak, but also have a cowardly and angular personality.
When the tribulations of life are greeted, there is no resistance at all, and it is even difficult to have the power to save oneself.
Once encountered by the wind and rain, those well-behaved girls completely lost their ability to rely on themselves and the courage to fight.
Girls "wild" a little
In order to have a good life
In The Book Raising Girls, it is said:
"Girls should be self-reliant! This idea should be deeply rooted in the girl's heart and should be part of her personality. ”
Li Jianjian in the TV series In the Name of Family has been a wild in other people since he was a child.
When he was a child, his brother Ling Xiao was bullied by the bear child next door, and Li Jianjian did not say a word, so he rushed up to help Ling Xiao beat the bear child fiercely.
The bear child screamed and screamed, and later did not dare to bully Ling Xiao and Zi Qiu again.
When she grew up, she was still a "domineering" and "not easy to mess with" image.
Once, Qi Mingyue, who was raised as a well-behaved girl by her mother since childhood, was surrounded and robbed by small in the park near the school.
Li Jianjian and the second brother Ziqiu passed by, and immediately saw the righteous courage and rushed to help Qi Mingyue.
Li Jianjian did not have the girl's weak fear at all, and while rushing over, he threw his school bag at the robbers, scaring the robbers into freezing.
In the end, the three brothers and sisters joined forces to scare away the little gangsters, and also saved the "well-behaved girl" Qi Mingyue, who was frightened by the robbers and could not speak.
It is also such a "wild" personality, Li Jianjian, who has no mother since childhood and has been counting down, finally became the happiest girl in the whole drama, and has a happy life of career love double harvest.
"Wild girls" can not only protect themselves, but also use positivity to illuminate the people around them, such a girl, will never live her own life badly.
Remember the little sister who flew the plane, Xu Fengcan?
She drove a helicopter to complete the graduation exam, got a full score, and her heroic appearance left a deep impression on countless netizens.
After becoming famous, many people asked Xu Fengcan's parents how to raise their children.
Xu Dad just said a particularly crucial sentence:
"I have never deliberately planned my child's life, I have always been 'free-range' and let nature take its course."
Writer Bing Xin once said:
"Naughty boys are good, naughty girls are clever."
In fact, as long as we observe carefully, most of the girls who live wonderfully are not so "peaceful and self-kept".
Those girls who grow from "wild" to large are always more resolute and courageous, stronger in their hearts, dare to accept various challenges, and are not afraid of difficult failures.
In fact, the world has been secretly rewarding those girls who are not bound and spread out the "wild".
Raising a girl, only by letting her go wild can she have more possibilities in life and have a happy life.
The family has a daughter
"Wild farming" is the most far-sighted love
As life becomes more and more exquisite and the pressure of learning becomes greater, there are only a few opportunities for children to run outside and play freely.
What we need most is for children to insist on learning at the same time, but also have time to freely "wild" for a while.
This summer vacation is the best time to temper a girl and make her "wild".
If we want our daughter to be physically stronger, more optimistic, and more abundant in life, we can try to take our daughter to do these 4 things:
1. Take your daughter to the mountain
In "The Teenager Says", Xu Zhuoyuan, a first-year girl, once confessed to her father in person.
She thanked her father for taking her up the 5,000-meter snow-capped mountains, seeing the Yellow River, going to Tibet, and seeing so many magnificent landscapes when she was a child.
She also agreed with her father:
At the age of 18, I want to climb Mount Everest with my father.
And Dad also replied that all the companionship was only for the future that she could spread her wings and fly alone.
This is the right way to open a daughter.
This summer, take your daughter to climb the mountain together, go outdoors for a walk, will definitely make the child's vacation full of vitality and energy.
When they finally climb to the top of the mountain, while looking at the undulating mountains under their feet, while blowing a cool wind, a sense of happiness is born, which is the best nourishment to nourish children.
This sense of conquest and accomplishment in the depths of her own heart is the most missing thing for girls who are kept in captivity at home.
2. Exercise with your daughter
Some time ago, I was "handsome" by a little girl.
The little girl jumped down on the skateboard, the wind blew her hair, and the cool smile made her whole person seem to emit a dazzling light.
There has never been a sport in this world that is only suitable for boys, but not for girls.
Just like the caption of the video:
"How cool can a girl be?"
"Boys can do things, girls can do too."
Skateboarding, kicking, running, weightlifting, swimming, cycling... Take advantage of this summer vacation, be sure to take your daughter to experience the feeling of sweating in sports.
Let them forge their own bones and bones in sports, strengthen their bodies, and also let them develop a gritty and brave mentality in sweat.
As a dad said to his daughter:
"Physical fitness, especially for girls, is important.
One day in the future, when the escalator at the airport breaks down and you can carry your own box and easily walk up the stairs, you will thank yourself for your own strength;
When one night in the dark alley, you use your explosive power, so that the bad guys chasing you can only look at your back in a daze, you will thank you for your usual exercise. ”
3. Take your daughter to work in the countryside
Li Yapeng once posted a group of photos of his daughter Li Yan returning to his ancestral home in the countryside on Weibo, and wrote: "Summer vacation is coming, all the way back to the countryside ancestral home by high-speed rail for a few days." ”
He took his daughter to ride on the country roads, took her to the ground to experience the labor life in the countryside, and let her see another world outside the bustling city.
Children who have lived in the city of reinforced concrete for a long time are accustomed to a life where electronic products are not in hand.
This summer, you may wish to take your daughter out of the bustling city, go to the countryside for a walk, take a look, play.
Let's go to the side of the road to dig wild vegetables, go to the field to do farm work, go to the creek to fish for shrimp, go to the field to catch loach... Experience the most simple life together, and feel the giving and reaping in the labor.
A girl who has been educated in the countryside, a girl who has been tempered by labor, will have the spirit of being able to bear hardships.
We never have to worry about her lack of self-reliance because she can take care of herself in any situation.
4. Take your daughter out of the house once
Remember the post-90s single father who rode for 71 days, crossed more than 4,000 kilometers, and took his 4-year-old daughter all the way from Dongguan to Lhasa?
The most touching thing is that along the way, the little girl has a bright smile on her face.
Therefore, good education is by no means to let children be locked in a small world and unable to see the vastness of the sky.
Raising a rich daughter is not to give her good living conditions, but to take her to feel the world.
During the summer vacation, you can take your daughter out of a long way to take a family trip full of expectations.
Accompany your children to feel the greatness of mountains and rivers, the distance of heaven and earth, and the beauty of exotic places, and you can stop with your children in this hurried era to taste the beauty of this world.
Girls who have seen the world wide will definitely be more confident and brave in their hearts.
In Love and Independence, it says:
"There are only two lasting legacies we can give our children: one is the root, and the other is the wing."
Every girl who lives a free and dashing life must also stand behind her parents who encourage them to be "wild".
The family has daughters, and since we can't be their "umbrella" for a lifetime, teach them to run in the wind and rain!
Let them grow freely and savagely, strengthen their bones and bones in the wind and rain, and forge their souls, which is the best armor for children.
I believe that this special "wild" nature will make her stand out from tens of millions of people, be invincible, and achieve the best life.