Author/Tongyu
What is the specific manifestation of true love?
This, in fact, is an abstract and broad question. Because different people will finally say completely different answers according to their own situations.
Many people, especially girls, are most susceptible to emotion, like to look for traces of true love in an intimate relationship, want to prove that the person in front of them really loves themselves, and sometimes try to go to others to find answers.
He is not willing to spend money for me, does he not love me?
He doesn't want to marry me, doesn't he love me?
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In fact, in real life, from the standpoint of girls, I have seen the conditions they use to measure true love, and the most frequently mentioned are indeed these two, one is whether the boy is willing to spend money on you, but whether he can marry home.
This is not the case.
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Of course, in intimate relationships, whether boys or girls, to a certain extent, can use money to measure the authenticity of this relationship.
However, the role of money should not be overemphasized.
I often hear some girls in life say that boys only want to spend money for themselves, they really love themselves, because where the money is, if he is not willing to spend money for you, this love is just lip service, which cannot be proved at all.
In fact, there are many ways to express love, and money isn't the only way. And, in the eyes of some, the upper limit of spending money is too high. For example, I saw a boy on the Internet some time ago, complaining that his new girlfriend of more than a month wanted him to buy a bag of nearly 20,000, and although he had enough financial ability, he was not willing. His girlfriend got angry because of this, saying that he didn't love her.
When girls use the standard of "willing to spend money" to measure boys, boys naturally use this standard to reverse judge whether girls are worth paying for themselves.
No one's money is blown by the wind, and it is normal to be cautious before a person's personal conduct is not clear.
Moreover, they may be more willing to use money to buy a worry-free way than some boys who are not so poor.
Under this premise, the more easily they meet some of the requirements of money, the more it may prove that they are not careful, just a playful mentality, and continue to change to the next one when they are tired.
Therefore, for those girls who want to seriously find the other half, do not blindly be brainwashed by the phrase "men don't spend money for you, they just don't love you". You need to analyze on a case-by-case basis, what kind of person he is, you need to slowly discover in the details of life, and then draw your own conclusions.
According to my observation, many of my good friends around me are looking for husbands, after marriage are good men type, when two people just met, are not the kind of people who spend too much money on each other, but there will be some measurement, and then with the deepening of the two people's interaction, they slowly open their hearts, and no longer care about money.
As a girl, if you use money to judge everything at the beginning of the two people's acquaintance, it may be easy to attract people with ulterior motives, and those men with really good character are also easy to retreat.
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I once heard a girl say that a man who is willing to marry you home must really love you, which is why it is so.
She said this because she had been in love for four years and originally thought that two people could enter the palace of marriage. As a result, the boy suddenly did not change, repented, separated from her, and married someone else a month later.
In her heart, she believes that marriage is the highest mode of expressing love, so she regards the willingness of boys to marry girls home as the highest expression of love.
Not really. Many people's marriages in life are actually with a certain degree of utilitarianism.
When two people enter a marriage relationship, there will be many practical factors to consider, such as economy, family, parents, work, etc. About the ranking of love, often few people really put it in front. Boys, in particular, are more sane than girls in this regard.
Therefore, marrying home does not mean true love. In some cases, it can only mean that this woman, as a wife, has the highest cost performance and the strongest competitiveness.
Whether you accept it or not, it's just that realistic.
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In fact, most of the really beautiful relationships often occur in an unconscious state.
That is to say, when neither of the two people bothers to dwell on the twists and turns in this love, but focuses on living the present life, the love in this state is often the most natural and the most real.
Any love with doubts, speculations, and temptations, even if it is proved at the time that the other party loves you, may slowly become the love in the process of seeking results in the future.
Many times, it is useless to think about it more.
True love or not, do not go to the last moment of life, in fact, no one can understand, including themselves are not clear. The love said in the previous second is true, but the change in the next second may also be true, and this change is not in one's own expectations at all.
Such cases abound.
I think of a couple I used to know, they were very passionate when they were in love, and they both loved each other deeply. It can be said that at that time, they were willing to give their lives for each other.
However, in the end, they got married, divorced more than a year later, and the betrayal plot without dog blood is the difference in the living habits of the two people, and the quantitative change causes qualitative change, and slowly they are not willing to live.
The so-called true love can often only occur for a period of time, and it is difficult to seek eternity.
So, don't try to find evidence that the other person really loves you in any intimate relationship. Because no evidence is enough to be evidence, love between two people is fluid, changing, and involuntary. You just need to live every day in front of you, manage your feelings well, and be ashamed. If both people can stick to their hearts, true love will naturally flow out in the passage of time.
True love doesn't need to be proven, and it doesn't need to be sought.
True love also has no standard answer, instead of listening to what others say, it is better to treat a relationship with your heart first, in this process, you will naturally understand a lot of things.
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