Growth refers to the process of things maturing and getting rid of immaturity.
This process must be accompanied by pain and joy. For good things do not come alone, they come with all things. Just as without experiencing darkness, the dawn will not come, and without the baptism of wind and rain, you will not see the beauty of the rainbow and half of the sky.
"Bi Shumin's growth class", Teacher Bi does not talk about big truths, but real cases and their own feelings to share with us, with 7 games of soft shell, wrapped in the hard core we need to explore what kind of person we really are, leading us to use the power of consciousness to grow better. In addition, she herself likes Teacher Bi's writings very much, and feels that she is a wise and gentle woman, and her works show warmth and warmth between the lines at many times.
After reading the book, I felt that the harvest was not small, and I shared it.
Teacher Bi said that health is a three-color flower, which is composed of physical, psychological and social functions. We should pay attention to the growth of each petal in order to produce the most healthy color flowers.
Seven heart games: my five things; who is your important other; what kind of person I am; your support system; choose your parents again; write down your epitaph and lifeline.
These seven mental games are the seven compulsory lessons for everyone's growth.
"My Five Things" allows you to see clearly what the most important thing in your life is, and the last one left after making trade-offs will also be the first existence that you will cherish in the future.
Although this is not the first time I have seen a similar mental game, it is the first time that I have taken this game so seriously and seriously, to think about the deeper meaning of the game. At first, I felt afraid, timid, afraid of choice! Because there are only five options, each of which represents the loss of something, what is left behind is more important in your heart and more important to you. Because taken seriously, the mind needs to be empty, not the choice made under the measurement of various gains and losses or avoidance, from the heart. This is a great need for courage and perseverance to truly face the true self and the true order of choice.
The "order of the five kinds" allows you to see more clearly about yourself and what you really want. It can make you a bottleneck or be at a loss in the future, it will help you make a choice, let you see the most important thing in your heart, then the answer to the choice does not have to be entangled too much. It's good to take the light and the heavy.
"Important others", everyone's life has such a person, or many, that affect you deeply - good or bad. Even after years, his/her words have long grown into a towering tree in your heart, deeply affecting your life and destiny.
As in Teacher Bi's own example, the unintentional words and unconsidered behavior of teachers with long braids have broken the throat of a child's singing and pronunciation. The impact of this incident on Teacher Bi was like a red scar, and decades later, it would still emit scorched green smoke in the depths of her soul, leaving an indelible wound in the depths of the child's soul at that time.
Of course, there are examples like Oprah Winfrey, whose father's words caused her life to take a big turn, to struggle from a decadent, dark life, and become a great figure later.
Oprah Winfrey's father told her: "Some people let things happen, some people watched things happen, some people didn't even know what was going on. Oprah Winfrey chose to do the former — to be the one who makes things happen, to be in charge of wealth, to be committed to philanthropy.
The "lifeline" represents our entire life course. "The most precious thing about life is not its length, but its breadth and depth. If we can live every minute wonderfully, then the sum of these minutes must also be wonderful. "Draw the length of your life on white paper, and then mark the major influences of the past by age, with happiness and happiness above the lifeline, and trauma and pain below." This allows us to see our past at a glance, and better summarize and think about our future lives. We can identify in the unaccompased lifeline what we want to do in our lives, clarify the goal, and let this lifeline become your compass in the future, guiding you forward...
"A good support system is a gift of time, it contains vicissitudes and true feelings." Life, strive to grow, transform into a better self, even if it is pain and vicissitudes, it is also accompanied by warmth and harvest.
Albert Einstein said, "It's more important to ask a question than to solve one." "And, our life is a process of constantly encountering problems and then solving problems, which is called growth."