A few days ago, there was a special original song "I am just a child" on the Internet screen, although the author is only a 9-year-old boy, but many people have listened to it and sighed, "Really sang my heart!"
【I'm just a child】
Lyricist and composer: Yue Can
I have my weird temper
But the children with strange tempers are kind
I have my silly breath
But silly children are honest
No careful machine
Adults often don't understand
I thought I was just a puppet
Because of puberty
We're going to be very welcoming
Don't think I'm just fooling around
I'm just a kid and young and ignorant
I don't know much about what you call it
I'm just a kid but not an idiot
Not used to the fools you call them
I'm just a kid, but I also have a mind
Not quite sure what I mean
I'm just a kid who doesn't know much control
Behave like you want it to
I have my bad temper
But bad-tempered children are upright
I have my little childishness
But the little and naïve children are straight
Lots of little secrets
Keep in mind and don't travel
Slowly wait for the strength that has not sprouted
All unhappy
Throw it into the air and go on a long journey
Don't think I'm not going to cry
This song cried parents in the background, the singer Wu Yaojie is a 9-year-old primary school student, what did he sing and hit everyone's heart?
"I didn't dare to sign the exam paper because the score didn't meet my father's expectations; I knew that I had to work hard, but why should I compare with others... I'm just a kid..."
The words are childlike, the sentences poke the heart, and the music comes down, and the hearer is moved.
Unfinished homework, unfinished key points, unfinished papers... During the day, I came out early and returned late, and at night I picked up the lights and fought at night. For today's children, the situation is very "grim"... Especially under the comparison of "other people's children", it is even more stressful.
Some time ago, Wu Yishu, who was only 17 years old and the champion of the second season of CCTV's "Chinese Poetry Conference", was escorted to Peking University!
In the brochure of Wu Yishu's alma mater Fudan Attached Middle School, Wu Yishu was marked as the class of 2019 of Peking University.
That is to say, this girl with a reserve of 2,000 poems has been admitted to Peking University in the first year of high school.
"The father can still fear the future, and the husband should not be young." After this battle, Wu Yishu circled countless fans.
Many media will say: Wu Yishu satisfies all mothers' fantasies, but have we found a problem:
Many parents love to compare "other people's children" in order to give their children a goal of struggle and effort, but in fact, it is not only difficult to play a motivating role, but also damage the child's self-esteem, self-motivation, and even affect the child's trust in the parents, resulting in the child's indifference to the parents.
Parents should let their children "compare themselves" instead of "comparing with others", for example, comparing their children's current grades with their last grades, comparing their children's strengths and weaknesses.
In addition, if you really feel that other people's children are worth learning from their own children in a certain aspect, then it is best to praise and affirm the good performance of their children first, and then objectively analyze the aspects of other children's better performance, and then suggest how children learn from others' strengths on this basis, so that the child's psychology will be more acceptable.
Respect differences and let children compare themselves with themselves.
Due to family background, growth experience and many other reasons, each child's development rate, cognitive ability, life experience, learning style, etc. are different, so there is no advantage or disadvantage to the child's immediate and explicit behavior.
The best education is that every child in school, whether cheerful or introverted, whether strong in hands-on or strong in language, has the opportunity to choose and act in a way that they like and are good at.
However, the current primary and secondary schools may not be able to respect the child's differences and personalities, so parents please do not put pressure on the child, when the person closest to them also feels that other people's children are better than themselves, the child's self-confidence and self-esteem may be permanently hurt.
Smart parents never compare their children to other children when they praise them, but rather to their children's past. For young children, their sense of self is initially gained through adult evaluation.
For older children, parents can discover their children's unique features, which will make children full of gratitude to you in the process of growing up.
Whether it is a teacher or a parent, for young children, they should squat down to observe the child, discover his unique abilities and characteristics, give appropriate praise and affirmation, and for young children, parents and teachers should let him see his own progress.