I'm 57 years old, my girlfriend has been with me for 40 years, we're not married, she's my only "lucky female angler"

Narrator: Lin Xiaofan, 57, director of a trading company

01

I am 57 years old, and I have not lacked peach blossom luck for most of my life.

This stems from the fact that I inherited my father's good genes and had a face like a mixed Chinese and Western child.

Coupled with being active at the sea from childhood to adulthood, the sun gives me bronze skin, and the sea gives me a height of 186.

Many people think I'm a West Asian, but I'm actually a proper Chinese.

When the family was poor, his father took his mother to Hong Kong and made a living from the sea.

My mother gave birth to five of our siblings, and I was the third.

My two sisters went out to work at a very young age, so the responsibility of taking care of my younger siblings fell to me.

It was also at that time that I subtly grasped some of the characteristics of girls' lives and thoughts.

Coupled with more and more superb cooking skills, I was once invincible on the road of "bubble girls".

02

When I was 15, I liked my 2-year-older sister.

She was one head shorter than me, and I felt that I was standing a little too strongly, so I deliberately pulled a stool to sit down and raised my head to confess to her.

She looked me up and down several times, constantly questioning my age, and told me that children should not be patted and dragged.

But I was adamant that I was the same age as her.

Knowing that she likes to eat eels, he brought her braised eel rice for a period of time.

In the morning, I exchanged two eggs for my younger sister and let them endure it first, and then they could make up for it when they had time to go out to sea to fish.

After three weeks, my sister could not resist the temptation of my stalking and food, and finally became my "bag".

03

The first love was really beautiful, so beautiful that I accommodated her.

I didn't force her to do anything reluctant, and even every time we met, I just held hands and kissed her lightly on the lips.

One day she told me that she was pregnant and that if I could be his father with the baby, she would love me forever.

Looking into her somewhat pitiful but unguessable eyes, all I saw was disappointment.

What right does a leg-splitter have to say "eternal love" in front of the other person?

Moments later, I proposed to her to break up and never saw each other again.

The heartache after the breakup is certain, after all, it was the first girl I fell in love with, and I took the initiative to pursue, but because I only took half a year to shoot, it didn't hurt much.

04

As I grew older, my appearance and height began to become clearer, and I swam in the middle of the sea from an early age, like a fitness instructor.

When I wasn't paying attention, many little sisters slammed notes into my hands, leaving their contact information and addresses, and even confessed to me in public with red roses in their hands.

The old don't go, the new doesn't come.

At that time, I was full of vigor and spring, and I could not refuse.

At the highest record, I made 6 girlfriends at once and was very busy.

Especially on holidays, it is necessary to carefully plan the time, place, and every one of them cannot be ignored, and each one cannot be bumped into.

I thought I was bad at one point, but you can't guarantee that your girlfriends aren't like first love!

Such thoughts counteracted my shameful heart.

05

Until the age of 17, his father died of liver cancer, and the family's economy suddenly lost its balance.

I had to start my part-time job to comfort my sad mother.

When I first stepped into the society, I realized that I was surrounded by elite people, and that low education was easy to be eliminated, resulting in me enrolling in night school while working, and I didn't have much energy to spend on the relationship between men and women.

And gradually feel that this kind of stepping on several boats is not the result of what I want to maintain.

So I suddenly proposed to all my girlfriends to break up.

As expected, they immediately agreed, and quickly found my stand-in.

06

When working for a trading company, I knew Mina.

A woman like Wang Zuxian, 173 in height, stood with me and attracted much attention.

Everyone says we're like a natural pair of people.

And Minna patted the work, and her seriousness attracted me.

And with her help and encouragement, I was promoted to 4 levels in a row, and I was not only grateful to her, but also loved.

I want to have such a hostess in my future life.

07

The first time I fished in the sea, I was afraid of being rejected by her.

Unexpectedly, this beautiful woman who was not squeamishly agreed very cheerfully.

After I tied her bait and taught her how to maneuver with the fish, she sat quietly next to me and waited for the fish to catch.

On that day, the harvest of me and the boatman was not very large, it was some small fish, but Minna's bait attracted a dragon with more than 60 pounds.

At that moment Minna was almost pulled into the sea by the fish, I put my arms around her, took the fish wire, and pulled the dragon onto the boat, and the excited expressions of each other filled each other's faces.

I could no longer hide my emotions, shouted at her, and faced the sea:

"I love you, Mina, to be my girlfriend?"

Without hesitation, she shouted to the sea, "Good! ”

In this way, with no roses, no diamond rings, only the sea and fish, we came together.

08

In the past 20 years, in order to live, for Minna, I have been a mass actor, a dancer of the stars, sold a house at the peak of Hong Kong real estate, and opened my own material company.

Finally, at the age of 39, I owned my own house in Hong Kong, which belonged to me and Mina, full of the fruits of our years of hard work.

Although we did not have children and did not get a marriage license, after so many years, there are still many women pursuing me, but I still only love her.

Two years later, I was asked back to the company as a director by the former owner of a foreign clothing firm with a high salary.

There are only Saturdays and Sundays in Hong Kong, most of the time in the mainland, after work, when bored, often with friends to drink in bars.

One night I met Zi Qing, she is a hot woman, with her present, no one is unhappy.

She always liked to talk to me, and after we danced together for a while through wine, we were fascinated by her drunkenness that night and had a relationship with her obsessively.

09

At first, I would feel ashamed of my girlfriend, but as I became more and more involved with Ziqing, I got from her the passion of my youth and the yearning for the freedom of life.

This caused me to return to Hong Kong, not only to communicate less and less with my girlfriend, but also to get tired of talking to her.

I would even scold her for helping me put away my swimming glasses and scold her to the point of bloodshed.

She kept saying "I'm sorry" to me very aggrievedly, and I covered my heart and stretched my face all the time.

I would have liked her to give in first and offer me a breakup.

But to my surprise, she cried and knelt down in front of me and pleaded:

"Don't abandon me okay?" I have been with you for more than 20 years, I am reluctant to this feeling, do you really have to give up? ”

At that moment, my heart ached, and I didn't know how to choose for a while.

On one side is my girlfriend of more than 20 years, who has spent many spring and autumn with me, how many hardships and twists, and a smooth transition under her encouragement;

On the other side was my beloved new girlfriend, almost all of whom I had in mind, and we envisioned the future every night.

10

When I was hovering between the two, once late for a date because of work, Ziqing suddenly threw a tantrum at me, demanding that I immediately quit my job and break off my relationship with my Hong Kong girlfriend.

He also said that in the days to come, my task is to accompany her, as long as I do these two things properly, she can give me a villa and give me 20,000 yuan per month.

Her words subverted all my expectations and hopes for her.

Growing up, I had a strong sense of male self-esteem, a woman I identified, I would protect and would find ways to make her happy.

Instead of turning each other into a master-servant relationship, one side has to compromise the other unconditionally.

Ziqing and I had a fierce fight because of our different views, and because of this fight, I completely and simply broke off my relationship with her.

11

That night I couldn't sleep all night, looking at the night sky, a little starlight was shining, and the bits and pieces of my Hong Kong girlfriend for many years came to my eyes.

She never restricted me from doing anything, and she was always by my side when I was at my lowest point and most difficult.

Even when she sensed that I had something else to love, she didn't force me to cut off my relationship with Ziqing, she just begged me not to leave her.

Her generosity, it was only in contrast that I deeply realized that her power against me was so huge.

What moved me even more was that when I was lost by Ziqing, my mother suffered a stroke and was admitted to the hospital, and Mina did not ignore my mother because of the crisis in our relationship.

She would go to the hospital every night after work to take care of her as a sign of my filial piety to my mother.

It was a woman I had never given her a name for, but she had done her duty as a daughter-in-law.

12

When I returned to Hong Kong that week, I knelt down in front of Minna with an apologetic body and confessed everything, apologized to her, and took out all my savings and let her take charge.

She asked me with tears in her eyes:

"Aren't you afraid that I'll take your money and abscond with other men?" We're not married. ”

I looked into her still clear eyes and smiled and tearfully said to her:

"Don't be afraid, because you won't. Our feelings only owe that piece of paper, when you want it, when I give it! ”

At that moment, she smiled like a blooming white orchid, elegant and vulgar.

After escaping this peach blossom robbery suspected of peach blossom luck, I soon welcomed a colleague who was 25 years younger than me to pursue.

I refused her without hesitation, only because I had only Minna in my heart.

No matter how young and beautiful people are, dangling in front of me, I will only smile.

Because love is not just young, not just beautiful, not just a momentary passion, it encompasses more tacit understanding, tolerance, and respect.

13

Today is the day that Minna and I have known each other for 40 years.

We still don't have children, we don't have a marriage license, but we trust and love each other.

We will always face the sea and witness the tide of love that never retreats.

Minna has always had good luck, and every time she fishes in the sea, there are always dozens of pounds of big fish on the catch.

I have to admit that she is the favorite and only "lucky female angler" in my life.