Soon to enter the year of establishment, it is inevitable to be nagged by the elders of the family: we must seize the time to find a partner, otherwise, we will end up alone in the future.
Every time I nod my head and say yes, I will unconsciously think, "Must it be miserable to live a lonely life?" ”
Perhaps because of the increase in singles now, film and television creations on related themes have also come into being. Some time ago, a Japanese drama with a very special name immediately attracted my attention - "The Recommendation of a Living Woman".
· When a person grows old, he can also have a lot of fun
"The Recommendation of a Living Woman", adapted from the essay work of the same name by Asai Ma Yumi, is first starred by "Golden Supporting Actor" Tokuko Eguchi.
▲ Tokuko Eguchi, who starred in "Proofreading Girl Etsuko Kono" and "Naoki Hanzawa 2"
Douban score 7.9, a total of 12 episodes, each episode averages about 20 minutes. So far, only more than 6,000 people have watched it, which is a relatively unpopular next meal drama.
The title "Living Alone" means that it refers to the activity of being alone.
In the play, Tokuko Eguchi plays an employee of a publishing house, May, who is 40 years old and has no children. Every time she arrives at the clock or leaves work early, May will arrange a program for herself, and then go to various places alone to enjoy precious personal time.
It could be a man's roast, with all his heart and soul focused on a piece of beef tenderloin in front of him...
Or go to the amusement park to sit in the screaming facility, and after trying one, you will start to review it in your heart: whether you like it more or be afraid of it, this is a very important question...
Or is it the first time in your life to explore the couple's hotel, but you have to desperately overcome your own desire to retreat at any time...
May's daughter Hui, played by Tokuko Eguchi, is a strange and a little cute cold-faced aunt. Don't look at her "wooden mouth wooden face", in fact, I don't know how many times "heaven and man have fought", just like us who are full of complaints in our daily lives.
Each episode of the show recommends one or two good places: such as the affordable no-one sake house, the hot air balloon resort in the suburbs, the black hot spring public bathhouse, the showa factory sightseeing ship, and so on.
There is no love talk, nor is there a short parent, just a simple and refreshing one-person line.
Who said that the world of middle girls can only circle around the stove and children?
Trying to eat and exercise in order to experience the excitement of the world and see more scenery is not equally admirable.
The reason why I have a good feeling for Japanese dramas may be because even small things about individuals deserve to be valued and explored, and not all stories have to go to grand or perfect narrative propositions.
· There is more than one path in life, and it is rare to seek common ground while reserving differences
When chasing this drama, what impressed me deeply, in addition to the lonely and self-consistent May female hui, there is also one thing:
In "The Living Woman", all kinds of sentient beings, whether it is strangers encountered when living alone, or colleagues in the company, everyone maintains a respectful and understanding attitude towards the lifestyle of May, does not speak of right and wrong, has a sense of boundary, and is also a group of "immortal colleagues".
At the same time, under the unconscious influence of May's female hui, colleagues have also tried to "live alone", which is simply going to Qingqi.
Who says that living alone can only be the exclusive preserve of being single?
In real life, even people who have already had a family and a baby will have the normal need to move alone or be alone.
In this play, the ideas that were once rooted in our heads and were ashamed of "acting alone or living alone" have long since dissipated.
Sometimes I am glad that I was born in this era, and everyone gradually has a more inclusive and open mind about different lifestyles. Even if it is only a short-term dream on the screen, it also makes people see the possibility of more diversified values coexisting.
This is also the warmth that Japanese dramas have always conveyed: there are always some good creators like Yuji Sakamoto, who constantly give the ordinary people the warm power to live a good life with ironing brushstrokes and angles.
▲ y1s1, the Japanese drama painting style is really good "philosopher per capita". I feel that if i don't have a little philosophy, I am embarrassed to say it...
· In fact, everyone will end up alone
Recently, I have seen a previous interview with Shu Qi, and when she talked about the role of Nie Yinniang, a lonely person without the same kind, the conversation suddenly changed:
"But for me, everyone is like this, who isn't." In the dead of night, when you are lying in bed, do you think you have a kind of person? No, you are yourself. ”
At this point, the delicate and sensitive heart of the actor is revealed.
I have always felt that Shu Qi is a big grinning, mischievous ghost horse of the Taiwan sister personality, wherever she goes, will be everyone's favorite favorite, I thought she was so cheerful.
And when she inadvertently revealed the sad side of her heart, people could not help but sigh: in the face of loneliness, it turns out that we are all the same.
Therefore, instead of thinking that "lonely old age" is a terrible ending prepared only for single people, it is better to say that "lonely old age" itself is the path that everyone must go through, and it is a subject that we have to face in our lives.
It can even be said that it is a generous gift full of meaning given to us by time.
Throughout human history, because of the eternal motif of "loneliness", many touching masterpieces of art have been born: Van Gogh's paintings, Pessoa's poems, Tchaikovsky's music, Vivian Meier's photographs...
Van Gogh, The Yellow House, 1888
Man, after all, you still have to have some of your own hobbies and persistence in order to survive the long winter of life.
Perhaps, this is the meaning of the play "Living Alone":
When we can explore the world as much as possible, experience the diversity of life, enjoy and focus on every moment of the moment, just like May Girl.
Perhaps "lonely and old" will become a beautiful thing in the world.
- The End -
Also attached is the author's "Guangzhou Solo Live Recommendation"
Tianhe Midnight Shokudo Izakaya (Shinjo Minamigai No. 8)
Retro Deli (tea is recommended)
Liwan Wu Cai Ji Noodle House (recommended fried wonton)
Yuexiu Jia Uncle YuMaru Wang & Strange Uncle Gourmet Shop (Bowl Cake)
Haizhu · B.R.O (recommended steak) & favorite baked (recommended cheese baked mussels)
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Let's talk about it, what is the one-time recommendation in your mind?