Byron said, "Love is hard, and you can't expect it to come out like a dream." ”
When we first start to establish a relationship, we often feel that this is a lifetime. In the days to come, as long as they love each other enough, they can withstand all the wind and rain, and can make this love more smooth and happy.
When love reaches a certain stage, we slowly begin to understand that love is not smooth sailing. Although our hearts are so expectant, reality often beats us back to the original form and lets us see the hardest way of love. At this moment, we finally understand that love is not a dream, and it is not how we understand love, how it can continue.
In love, women love to listen to men's sweet words. Sometimes there are some disagreements on some things, and women will compromise because of a few rhetorical words from men, and also begin to immerse themselves in this "beautiful" love.
In "Children of Qiao Family", Qiao Simei is a woman whose love is supreme, as long as she falls in love with a person, she can boldly pursue this love. Even if the other party's attitude is very cold, as long as the other party has a slightly beautiful word, she can be happy for a long time, and directly ignore the other party's indifferent attitude.
After getting married, her husband Qi Chenggang habitually betrayed the marriage, and even though Qiao Simei knew these things, she finally accepted his apology because of Qi Chenggang's few words of assurance.
However, although she believed Qi Chenggang's words, in the end she did not let Qi Chenggang accept her heart, and the two eventually divorced.
In the matter of love, Qiao Simei has done her wholehearted work, but she has not met some people who treat her sincerely, which is indeed a sad thing.
Tennyson said: "As long as men and women truly love each other, even if they do not become dependents in the end, they are still sweet." ”
In love, although women will hope for a perfect ending, the most important thing is to meet someone who truly loves each other. In this world, not all people who love each other can go to the end, but those who do not want to love, it is difficult to have a happy ending.
When encountering love, women must remain sane. You can imagine that you will have a happy future, but in addition to imagining, you must not let yourself become blind, no matter how much you love him, don't believe these "love words" he says. Compared with those cheap love words, practical giving is the best proof of love.
01 "I only love you alone in this life"
When encountering a love, women will hope that they are the most important person in the eyes of men, even in the future, men will only love themselves alone. No matter how beautiful and attractive women you will meet in the future, men can also do it without distraction.
It is normal for a woman to have such a thought, but women also have to understand that love comes and goes very freely, and that he loves you, just that he loves you now, and no one can guarantee that he will always love you. You can hope so, but you don't have to keep demanding a future that hasn't yet arrived.
Even if men often tell you, "I love you alone in this life," you don't have to take it as an inevitable thing. Women can be happy to hear such love words, but do not have to really believe it. Smart women will see reality clearly, rather than immerse themselves in such love words.
02 "Next time I will definitely take you there" or "Next time I will definitely buy it for you"
In love, women will want men to give more practically. A man's ten sentences of "I will buy it for you" are not worth a man who really does it once. However, women are often confused by some of men's love words, even if men do not do it, in all kinds of rhetoric, they can also coax women to be dizzy.
As Balzac said, "Fake love is more perfect than real love, which is why so many women are deceived." ”
Women have to understand that if he truly loves you, he will do what he says. The promises made to you will definitely find ways to fulfill them, rather than blindly relying on sweet words to coax you.
Men often say "next time I will definitely take you there" or "next time I will definitely buy it for you", and while women will be happy to hear it, they should also be sane and see if men can actually do it and not be deceived by such words.
03 "I will never do this again"
In love, a woman's heart will generally be very soft, as long as a woman truly loves a man, it is easy to let herself trust a man unconditionally. Even if a man makes a mistake, the woman will feel that he is just confused for a while, as long as he is given a chance, he will definitely change.
Just like Qiao Simei's marriage to Qi Chenggang, even Qiao Sanli often reminds Qiao Simei that she must pay attention to Qi Chenggang, but Qiao Simei always trusts Qi Chenggang unconditionally and thinks he is a good man. Even if Qi Chenggang kept deceiving her later, as long as Qi Chenggang said that he would not make any more mistakes in the future, Qiao Simei could believe him again and forgive him.
But in the end? As Qiao Yicheng said, few people in this world can achieve "the prodigal son does not change his gold", and most people are "difficult to move by nature".
Women should be clear that no matter how much you love him, you have to polish your eyes to see if he is the man who deserves your love and trust, rather than being cheated and hurt countless times by such love words.
Emerson said, "In the end, love is a reflection of one's self-worth in others." ”
The woman should know that if he really loves you, he will give you nice love words, but at the same time he will prove his love with practical behavior, rather than always making verbal promises and never fulfilling his behavior.
No matter how much you love him, be clear about his nature and see his heart clearly. When you meet an unworthy man, women should learn to be rational and decisive, and don't waste your time because of an unworthy relationship, and finally gain more than you lose.