Wen 丨 West Wing has feelings
Time is not long, may you be in my words, see you not too late!
In "Red Beans" sung by Faye Wong, there is such a lyric: "Sometimes when we get together and leave, nothing will be immortal..."
It is true that love is not static, time is changing, two people are changing, and love is naturally changing.
The other day, a reader asked me, "How long does it take to leave someone?" "Her question reminds me of a relationship I once had.
At that time, I also thought that I would hold hands with him for a lifetime, but I did not expect that he left so quickly that I was even a little caught off guard.
He was my first love, and at that time I didn't know what love was, and I always wanted to "tie him around". But it was because of my distrust that he had the idea of fleeing and quickly left me.
That was the first time I knew that even if I had loved, I could leave so quickly. I thought he would be more or less reluctant in his heart, but later I found out that I thought too much.
Returning to the reader's question, she asked me, "How long does it take to leave someone?" ", because she always can't let go of that relationship, obviously it hurts, but she still doesn't want to leave."
John Gray mentions in the book that the male and female minds are not presented differently in love, and this has led to significant differences between men and women in many ways.
So, how long does it take to leave someone? There is a big gap between the answers between men and women. Ximei hopes that after reading this article, you can know more about how to love and how to say leave.
Situation 1: Betrayed by the other party
Loyalty is the cornerstone of love, if you want your love building, in the face of strong winds and waves will not collapse, you must lay this cornerstone.
Don't betray your lover in a relationship, or it will bring great heartbreak to your lover.
Now that you have chosen a person, don't be half-hearted, don't look around. Sink your heart to treat this feeling of yours well, and love is enough.
For a man, if his partner has betrayed him emotionally, then he will often choose to leave his lover quickly.
Because, in the eyes of many men, his other half is more like a treasure that belongs to him after marriage. The rest of the men couldn't see or touch it, let alone sneak out the treasure itself.
For a woman, if she suffers emotional betrayal, she may continue to stay in the relationship.
Because a woman's heart is very soft, she often chooses to find some excuse for the man, rather than believing that the other party's heart that loves her has deteriorated.
At the same time, women often choose to compromise when it comes to family and children.
Many women do not want their hard-earned families to be broken, afraid that they will no longer be able to give their children a complete family, so they choose to blind their eyes in exchange for their children's future.
Situation two: not trusted, the other party is always suspicious
Tennyson once said, "Love is free, and free love is the most real." ”
If you want your lover to be unfettered and uninhibited in a relationship, then you should never restrict the other person's social interactions too much.
There are too many people who, due to lack of security, often doubt the ghost in a relationship, and doubt whether the other party has a new love.
And such doubts will make you unrecognizable, no longer the sensible lover.
If a man's partner is constantly suspicious of him, it will quickly wear down the man's good feelings for her and usher in the shattering of feelings.
And if a woman's lover often doubts whether she has a new lover and wants to possess her at all times, the woman will often show understanding and choose to offer her free hands for the other party.
Because, for most women, her lover is above all else.
Situation three: the three views are not in harmony, and there are often big fights because of some very small problems
It is undoubtedly painful for two people with different views to be together, and they often quarrel because of different opinions.
And such quarrels are actually very harmful to feelings, but in the face of such a situation, men and women react differently.
For a man, if his lover and his three views are not compatible, he may reduce the quarrel between the two by talking less to the other person.
After all, the man does not care too much about how the two feel after communicating, he cares more about how his lover treats him with actions.
For a woman, the discord between the three views is undoubtedly unbearable. Because women prefer communication than men, and they also value the sense of experience of communication between two people.
If two people often don't talk about going together, then after a while, the woman will despair about it and leave her lover.
summary:
How long does it take for men and women to leave someone? It depends on the performance of the other half, and the experience of the whole love.
Women tend to value a relationship more than men, and they tend to take every argument between them and their lovers as very important and pay more attention.
So, it takes longer for a woman to leave a loved one, but once she lets go, she will never be missed again.
And men often appear more casual in their relationships, which is not that he does not cherish the relationship, but that they often do not think too deeply and do not care about the consequences of things.
So, it doesn't take too long for a man to leave someone, but after separation, he realizes how important that relationship is to himself.