It is said that the sunshine is always after the wind and rain, please believe that there is a rainbow.
Many people insist on not coming to the sun, so they give up.
Because the wind and rain are so painful, the body hurts and the heart hurts.
When some girls are redeemed, when they face their boyfriend's disgust, cold response, or unreasonableness, their mentality is often easy to collapse and choose to give up.
But in fact, if they choose to continue to persist in the right way, the result will be completely different.
In psychology there is a Pygmalion Effect, which says:
People's emotions and ideas will be affected by other people's subconscious to varying degrees.
People unconsciously accept the influence and hints of people they like, admire, trust, and adore.
And share with you a story of Pygmalion's dream come true.
Pygmalion was a Cypriot king in Greek mythology who excelled in carving.
Because he did not like the mortal women of Cyprus, he decided never to marry, but he used his magical skills to carve a beautiful ivory maiden.
In his work day and night, Pygmalion gave this statue all his energy, all his passion, all his love.
He caressed her as he did his wife, dressed her up, named her Galathea, and begged God to make her his wife.
Aphrodite, the goddess of love, was impressed by him, giving life to the statue and marrying them.
Although this is just a myth, it shows that persistence can produce miracles.
And persistence requires confident support.
Psychologist Rosenthal did an interesting experiment:
He randomly selected twenty classmates from a primary school, and these twenty classmates all had similar academic performance.
He said to the students:
"I have measured the IQ for you, and I have measured that ten of my classmates have a very high IQ and are very smart, and the other ten have average IQ and are ordinary people."
Then he told their principal and teacher about the same words.
A year later, he came to the school again.
It was found that the grades of the students with high IQs he said were generally significantly higher than those of students with average IQs.
But in fact, the IQ of these students is similar.
What does this mean? Illustrate the importance of faith.
As long as you are full of confident expectations, as long as you really believe that things will go smoothly, things will go smoothly.
Conversely, if you believe that things will be constantly being resisted, those resistances will actually arise.
Successful people know how to cultivate a confident attitude and believe that good things will happen.
There is a famous saying:
If you want to fly, you have to believe you can fly.
Therefore, we must have confidence in ourselves.
Know that the problem between you took a year, two, three years, or even more to break up.
So it's a fact that we can't solve these problems all at once.
Don't think of saving the mentor as the last straw.
On this point, we must be mentally prepared in advance, that is:
Resolving the contradictions that have accumulated over a long period of time will take a while.
As everyone on the Internet says:
"You don't eat a fat man in one go, so how can you expect to eat less and become a thin man again?"
So, for redemption, please don't give up lightly.
Because giving up is simple, but the price of giving up is regret.
If you can afford to regret it, then give up, drink the water of forgetting, clap your hands, and move on.
If you feel that you can't afford it, then try to find a way to persevere, as the literary scholar Longfellow said:
"Perseverance is a prerequisite for success, and if you keep knocking hard, someone will answer."
But I want you to use "ingenuity" instead of "brute force."
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