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I often hear people mention the four words "Murphy's Law", and I often see people writing things on the Internet using these four words, they think that "Murphy's Law" means: if you have a premonition that it may be wrong, it will inevitably go wrong.
I have never studied this law carefully, and I think that since so many people say this, this should be what it means. It wasn't until I saw the provenance of "Murphy's Law" one day that I discovered that many people misunderstood, many people were misled, and even more tragically, people who misunderstood blindly spread and misled more people.
"Murphy's Law" originated from the American engineer Edward Murphy, when doing a rocket deceleration overweight experiment, it is necessary to install two wiring for sixteen sensors, and once it is reversed, it is impossible to read the data normally. As a result, when the sensors were installed, the wiring of the sixteen sensors was all reversed.
The result of his reflection is that when he designed the sensor, he could not read the data just because he knew that the wiring was reversed, but he did not think that someone would really reverse it. He went on to laugh at himself: "If something is likely to be handled in the wrong way, then eventually someone will definitely deal with it in the wrong way." ”
Seeing this, it is not difficult for us to find out how outrageously some people understand Murphy's law: the work of wiring the sensor is not Murphy himself, it is arranged for others to do it, others do not know that the reverse will not be able to read the data, he did not think that someone would reverse, and certainly did not remind the wiring person to pay attention, of course, in this case it is easy to make mistakes. But this is by no means the same as saying , "If you have a hunch that something might go wrong, you're bound to go wrong."
The correct understanding should be: if you overlook a link that is likely to go wrong, it is likely to go wrong. Moreover, the more people involved, the greater the probability of error, because there will always be people who are careless or careless.
For example, the following woman's encounter contains her misunderstanding of "Murphy's Law":
"I once heard someone say that on the day of the wedding, the marriage room was occupied by the mother-in-law, and it has been very miserable since then. I was worried that I would have such an encounter, but when I thought of "Murphy's Law", I didn't even dare to worry about it, I was afraid of responding to the phrase "afraid of what is coming", I think I don't worry, that kind of thing should not happen to me!
But what I didn't expect was that on the day of my wedding, the marriage room was still occupied by my mother-in-law, and I think it must be because I couldn't help but worry about the result before. Since I have learned from the past before, other women who have been occupied by the mother-in-law in the marriage room have not been divorced and unhappy, I can't go the wrong way they have taken, I must divorce, so as not to cause misfortune, since the mother-in-law likes to occupy the marriage room so much, let her live with her son! I went back to my mother's house to prepare for a divorce! 」
It is not difficult for sane people to find that her encounter is not influenced by "Murphy's Law", but that she misunderstands Murphy's Law, and it will be clear from our analysis.
First of all, others have had such an encounter, although she may also encounter this matter, but this kind of thing should not just worry, but should find out why other people's marriage room is occupied by the mother-in-law, is it really the mother-in-law who occupies the marriage room, or the daughter-in-law makes a big fuss and makes a misunderstanding?
Secondly, even if the encounter of others is really the mother-in-law occupying the marriage room, what preparations should you make to avoid this kind of thing happening to yourself? How should I communicate this possible problem with my partner?
Obviously, she did not do these preparations, she just worried for a while, escaped for a while, did not want to think of a way, and still bored in her heart and did not communicate with the other party, in this case, with such an encounter, absolutely can not arbitrarily say that it is the mother-in-law's problem.
In fact, her mother-in-law is really fine. Her so-called "mother-in-law occupied the marriage room", only because her mother-in-law was sent to the toss too late that day, there was nowhere to go, and decided to stay overnight for the time being. When she came up, she was not inferior to her mother-in-law, and when her mother-in-law said a few words to her in a hurry, she was even more convinced that her mother-in-law was not a good person, and she was even more convinced that she was "afraid of what came."
This kind of thing is very sad, and this kind of person is even more sad!
Combining her experience with Murphy's Law, I would like to remind everyone of two things, and I hope that others will not make her mistakes.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="19" > reading must be intentional, do not be hollow. </h1>
In the book "Augmenting the Sages", it is said: "Reading must be intentional, and a word is worth thousands of gold." "It is to understand the meaning of reading from a positive point of view, saying that by understanding the essence of the book with your heart, you can learn the real skills and apply them to life to benefit yourself."
And some people don't read at all, and like to take Tao Yuanming's "good reading does not seek a solution" to deceive themselves, they do not know, Tao Yuanming does not seek to understand the unimportant content, for the important content, is "every time there is a will to forget to eat."
Take "Murphy's Law", you can't just listen to other people's random interpretation and believe it; you can't just read a book and see other people's misinterpretations and believe it to be true, you have to be really interested, just go and figure out what's going on. Otherwise, if you keep using the wrong understanding to mess with Murphy's Law, you will only be bad for yourself.
As the saying goes, "it is better to believe in books than to have no books", which requires us to have our own independent thinking, and only by thinking independently and synthesizing the opinions of others can we find out what is going on, which is good for ourselves.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="24" > Murphy's Law is revelation, not superstition. </h1>
If you misunderstand "Murphy's Law" and think that "if your premonition may be wrong, you will inevitably go wrong", this law has become a superstition, a pessimistic tone, so that people can't think, otherwise bad things will happen at the thought of it.
As can be seen from the provenance of the "Murphy's Law" we mentioned earlier, it is only a reminder that people pay attention to the two sides of things, which may become better or worse, and we must be able to look at the problem comprehensively, analyze the possibility of getting bad, and thus prepare for work and prevent work.
It's like there are two roads in front of you, A and B, there is no problem in taking A road, taking B road will cause accidents, we do not take B road, and prevent bad things that may occur on A road, the probability of bad things happening will be greatly reduced. This means that we should not be blindly confident, but we should know how to prevent microaggressions.
Looking back at the woman's encounter in the previous article, if she had been defensive, if she had been prepared for work, she would not have had that kind of encounter, even if the mother-in-law had lived down and knew what was going on, she would not have thought about it.
The so-called "fear of what comes" and "premonition that failure will definitely fail" is not Murphy's law, but the "Wallenda effect", because I want to succeed too much, I always worry that I will fail, and the result is that what should be done is not done well, so it leads to failure. I don't know whether some people have read the book in a string, or blindly insist on the wrong understanding of Murphy's law after hearsay, hoping that these people can be sober and correct their inherent wrong ideas, otherwise adding mistakes to mistakes will only ruin themselves.