Nowadays, many sad cows and horses have to solve the endless marriage urging at home in addition to work, and even some can't resist the nagging cows and horses, so they simply choose not to go home.
If you don't face it, you can reduce friction, but in ancient times, not getting married was really a sin of old age, and women over the age of 13 and 14 would be called old girls, and most of the ancient women who got married were about 13 years old.
Not only the common people are like this, but the royal family is also like this, just like Queen Shangguan was already married when she was 6 years old.
The eldest grandson queen is 13 years old, to be honest, a woman of this age is still a little girl in all aspects of her body, and she does not meet the criteria for marriage at all.
But in ancient times, women of this age were favored, and a sentence of marrying and obeying the husband and the husband and the son of the husband and the son hastily explained the life of the ancient woman.
Why did the ancients stipulate that they should marry at the age of 13 or 4? Are girls who marry at this age happy?
1. The low status of women
The ancients said: A woman is virtuous if she is not talented, but if a woman charges into battle and surpasses the great achievements of men, she will be detained as a chicken Sichen and forced to retreat to the back house.
In ancient times, the status of women was very low, and after birth, the father had the final say, and after marriage, the husband had the final say, and after giving birth to a son, they had to listen to each other.
It can be said that it is a life of ruthless control, and in addition, the ancient patriarchal thinking is extremely serious, and it is completely based on fertility to treat women at a price.
Men reading is a sign of progress, while women reading is a big rebellion, so many women in ancient times were illiterate and could not read, and were trapped in the back house and did not see the light of day.
A sentence of xx is their name, and there are only a few words about their lives, and they are forced to rely on others to live.
This is a man-made phenomenon of dodder flowers, cutting off their way to read and hyphenate, trapping their feet, and cutting off their eyes from seeing the world.
Using men to bind their lives, the ignorant age was educated into a stereotypical appearance of only knowing how to be obedient, and in many ancient families, the treatment of daughters and sons was very different.
The daughter is like a tired livestock, working day and night.
The boy should be carefully raised, of course, this behavior is also related to the policy at the time, after Han Gaozu became the emperor, the world was not prosperous, everything had to be considered in the long run.
So he introduced a policy, that is, all families who have sons can be exempted from taxes and military service for two years.
In the face of real benefits, more people have joined the ranks of having sons and only want sons, which has invisibly aggravated the idea of patriarchy.
Do you think the princess will be spared? Even if she was born in the royal family, she can't talk about freedom, as long as the princess reaches her age, she will either send her out and make peace, or she will entrap the ministers.
There are very few people who can really get the favor of their father, most of them are just tool people, and the age of marriage is also 13 or 4 years old.
There is nothing special in the slightest, it is consistent with the people, and over time, early marriage has become a custom, and people have adapted to such a life.
The age of marriage for women is not lower than the minimum age, and they are also worried about divorce if they can't have children, as well as getting along with three wives and four concubines.
Of course, the treatment of courtiers cannot exceed that of the emperor, and the maximum number of concubines is already nine in the sky, and the vast majority of them are two.
Even so, it is a blessing for all people, and the ancient class system is very strict, and the living environment of women will only be worse.
For example, if a woman is looking at her feet, she wants to marry the man who looks at her feet, and a little ambiguous rumor can take people's lives, or the pursuit of chastity archway.
2. Weak vitality
In ancient times, the medical conditions were not more advanced than those of modern times, and in ancient times, the population was labor, especially men, and men were all involved in farming and fighting.
It can be said that in ancient times, the male labor force occupied a comprehensive area, so the ancient people were also forced to give birth to boys.
In addition, in ancient times, a small cold could kill people, even in rich and noble families, not to mention poor people.
If you don't have money to buy medicine, you can only resist it, and the life expectancy of the key ancient people was very short, and forty years old is already considered an advanced age, which is not at all comparable to the modern lifespan of seventy or eighty years old.
The emperor is not exempt from vulgarity, and he often drives the crane west in his thirties after working day and night, and it is precisely because the probability of premature death is too great that he will regard the rest as a top priority.
The age at which women get married has also been greatly advanced, with 13.4 years old in ancient times equivalent to the modern twenties.
The most popular sentence is that unfilial piety is the greatest, and the current urging of marriage is also an anxious thing for ancient people.
Inheritance has become the primary task of every family, so the marriage age is much earlier for the continuation of the bloodline, in order to ensure that the incense continues.
It is worth mentioning that in China's thousands of years of history, countless dynasties have been born, and the change of dynasties is very fast, and the strength is not strong and is destined to go long.
Therefore, for the development of the country, childbirth has always been an eternal goal, and having a boy has also become everyone's expectation.
After all, the number of people lost in a war is huge, and if it is in a state of insufficient productivity all the time, it is not a good thing for the dynasty.
Ancient kings would encourage their people to have more children, and if they wanted to develop more, population was a necessity.
3. Go to jail if you don't get married
In today's society, the age of marriage is very reasonable, considering the physical development of men and women, the age of 20s is just right.
It is not feasible to be under the age of 20, because childbirth is a harm to the body itself, and it is natural to develop completely to reduce the harm.
In fact, in ancient times, it was not all the policy of marrying at a young age, as early as the Western Zhou Dynasty, the age of marriage for men was 30, and for women it was 20.
At that time, the Western Zhou Dynasty wanted to kill two birds with one stone, men were thirty and twenty were just the golden age, so it was stipulated at this age.
It's just that the wheel of history is rolling forward, and the age of marriage has regressed, and in the Spring and Autumn Period, the age of marriage for men has become 20, and for women it has become 15.
Considering the general direction, this is feasible, Qi State relies on such a policy in a timely manner, and the national strength is strong, of course, this is only a regulation, and it is not mandatory.
However, the people who saw the benefits went more and more astray and deviated, and the king of Yue, Goujian, introduced a policy of punishment if they did not get married, and if a girl was not married at the age of seventeen, her parents would go to prison.
In the period of Emperor Hui of the Han Dynasty, considering that the criminal law was too cruel, it was introduced that if women did not marry at thirty, they would have to pay five times the tax, and the Jin Dynasty was seventeen years old and did not marry, and they would be assigned husbands.
The quality of nature is incomplete, depending on luck, and if you don't get married at the age of 15, the whole family will be happy to be imprisoned in the Northern and Southern Dynasties.
It can be said that each dynasty has its own rules for marrying, some of which are commendable, and some of which are incredible.
Information sources:
Jingbian Court [November 4, 2012] "The Content and Reflections of the Ancient Chinese Marriage System"
Jiefang Daily [April 12, 2013] "In ancient times, there were few leftover men and women, and the Han Dynasty stipulated that girls would be fined 600 yuan if they did not marry"
Global Network [August 21, 2017] "Can the ancient system of three wives and four concubines really allow everyone to have a group of wives and concubines? 》
Henan Satellite TV [June 24, 2022] "Why did the ancients get married so early? 》
Guangming.com [April 5] "Ancient Marriage Law: No "Left Men and Leftover Women" Tang Dynasty Widows Can Remarry"