The city gradually returned to tranquility, only the light of the street lamps still shined through the curtains, casting a soft halo, Xiaoya and her husband finally ended a busy day, and enjoyed the world of the two of them rarely, but this silence was broken by a rush of footsteps, and the 5-year-old son rubbed his sleepy eyes and pushed open the bedroom door
Seeing their son suddenly appear, Xiaoya and her husband were stunned, the expressions on their faces were a little unnatural, they subconsciously wanted to hide something, but found that everything was in vain, and the child's innocent eyes were full of doubts and curiosity
Why are you crying? Did Dad hit you? The child asked in a milky voice, with a hint of concern in his tone
Xiao Ya's heart chuckled, she didn't know how to explain the scene in front of her to the child, and her husband also seemed a little at a loss, so he could only smile awkwardly, trying to hide the past in a relaxed tone
How could Dad hit Mommy? We're playing games too! ”
The child's intuition tells him that things are not so simple, that he witnesses the intimacy between his parents, and although he does not understand what that means, he can feel the strangeness of the atmosphere
This sudden incident made Xiaoya and her husband realize that the topic of sex education is unavoidable, and the growth rate of children is always beyond their parents' expectations, and they need to guide their children in a more positive and scientific way
Under the influence of traditional ideas, many parents are ashamed to talk about sex with their children, and even regard it as a flood beast, sex education is not a flood beast, it is an indispensable part of children's growth
From the moment the child falls to the ground, sex education begins, and parents' gender cognition, physical contact, and emotional expression of their children will subtly affect their children's sexual concepts and attitudes
Parents should use natural and scientific language to explain the structure and function of the body to their children, satisfy their curiosity, and help them establish a correct gender identity
As they grow older, children's sexual curiosity will become stronger and stronger, and they may obtain sexual information through various channels, including the Internet, books, film and television works, etc., if parents cannot give correct guidance in time, children will be easily misled by bad information, and even make wrong behaviors
Around the age of nine, children are in the budding stage of puberty, they begin to have a good impression of the opposite sex, and they also begin to pay attention to their physical changes, parents should help their children understand the physiological and psychological changes of puberty, guide them to correctly understand sex, and establish a healthy concept
When a child accidentally encounters a parent's intimate behavior, parents do not need to panic, and it is best to explain it to the child honestly and naturally
Parents can tell their children that this is a natural way for parents to express their love, and that it is a natural thing for husband and wife, and also tell their children that everyone's privacy should be respected, and they should not enter other people's rooms at will, nor can they touch other people's bodies at will
Sex education is a step-by-step process, which requires parents to choose the right time and way to guide their children according to their age and cognitive level
In daily life, parents can pass on sexual knowledge to their children through picture books, stories, games and other forms, help them understand the mysteries of the body, and establish a sense of self-protection
Parents should also maintain good communication with their children, solve their thoughts and confusions in a timely manner, answer their questions, and help them grow up healthy and happy
Sex education is not a flood of beasts, but a bridge of love, and only when parents take the first step bravely can they help their children take every step of life
Every child is unique, and their growth trajectory is also different, that is, with love and companionship, to hold up a clear sky for children and let them fly freely
Xiaoya and her husband began to reflect that they are trying to give their children the best material life, but they ignore the important topic of sex education, and they must change their previous evasive attitudes, face their children's questions honestly, and guide their children in a scientific way
Sunlight poured into the living room through the window, Xiaoya and her son snuggled together, flipping through a brightly colored picture book, this picture book tells the origin of life with vivid and interesting pictures, from the combination of sperm and egg, to the development of the fetus in the mother's body, and then to the birth of a new life, every link is explained clearly and easily understandable
Did I grow up in your belly? The child asked curiously, pointing to the picture in the picture book
Your mother stayed in her belly for ten months before she came into this world," Xiaoya explained patiently as she gently stroked her son's head
"Then how did I get into your belly?" The child asked reluctantly
Xiaoya took a deep breath and decided not to avoid this question anymore, she pointed to the picture of her parents hugging in the picture book, and told the child: "When Mom and Dad love each other, they will hug each other like this, and a little seed of Dad will run into Mom's belly and combine with Mom's little seed.
The child nodded as if he didn't understand it, although he still couldn't fully understand the meaning, but he felt the love of his parents and was full of awe of life
This picture book reading opened the door to communication between Xiaoya and her son, and they began to read some books on sex education together and watch some related cartoons
Xiaoya and her husband also began to consciously guide their children to establish gender awareness and a sense of boundaries, telling them that boys and girls have different body structures and should respect each other's differences, and they also taught their children that everyone has their own privacy and that they should not touch other people's bodies at will, nor should they let others touch their own bodies at will
In the child's kindergarten, he saw a little boy lifting a little girl's skirt, and he immediately ran to stop it and told the little boy that it was not right to do so
Xiaoya and her husband are relieved to find that their children have begun to know how to protect themselves and how to respect others
Sex education is a long process that requires parents' patience and wisdom, and in this process, it is inevitable that they will encounter various problems and challenges, but as long as parents insist on guiding their children with love and scientific methods, they can help children establish correct sexual concepts and grow up healthy and happy
The story of Xiaoya's family of three is just a microcosm of thousands of families, sex education has become an increasingly important topic, and more and more parents realize that sex education is not only about their children's physical health, but also about their integrity and future happiness
Let us join hands to hold up a blue sky of love for children, so that they can love to fly freely under the sun