Some relationships, in the final analysis, all hope to go on forever and live a steady life.
But on the contrary, reality is not emotional, and if you want to be perfect, how can it be so easy?
If you really have to do it, that is, you are lucky enough to survive to the end.
To put it bluntly, any relationship is the same, if you want to maintain it, there are only 6 words behind it.
01
Three views.
Between people, the most important thing is the consistency of the three views.
The three views are the same, that is, you speak, do, and have similar attitudes towards life, and you can go down the same path when chatting about the world.
This kind of friend, even if there is no big interest involved, can have a long-term relationship.
On the other hand, people with inconsistent views, even if they are relatives, are most likely annoyed when they get together, and everyone dislikes each other.
It's like wearing the wrong shoes, either sloppy or grinding feet, and it's uncomfortable.
Every holiday, do those unreasonable relatives at home give you a headache?
Not all relationships have to talk about interests, but if the three views do not agree, everyone will feel uncomfortable after a long time.
02
Atmosphere.
When you get along with people, you really don't look at blood kinship, but look at the atmosphere you have together.
Those who have a good relationship can't wait to chat and party together every day, and those who have a bad relationship feel tortured when they see each other.
Even if they are brothers and old classmates, if there are always contradictions, who doesn't want to run far away, out of sight and out of mind?
The reality is so ruthless, no matter how close the relationship is, you have to pay attention to harmony.
If every time we meet, there is a lot of noise and crying and shouting, who wants to go back and forth?
There is a neighbor upstairs in my house, who is usually very kind in front of outsiders, but every time I close the door, the quarrel can be heard from a few streets away.
Who is willing to live such a day?
03
Value.
Relationships have no value support, just like a bridge made of foam, which will fall apart with a light step.
Many times, those seemingly strong relationships are supported by value.
For example, a few years ago I went to a writing training class where there were a few writing "bigwigs" who had thousands of followers.
At that time, I wondered if I could gain some popularity and ask them to retweet a few articles for me to increase the number of followers.
But they just nodded politely, and then there was no more.
Because I don't have any value to them at all.
Why should the attention that people have worked so hard to accumulate be distributed to a person who has not contributed?
The reality is so cruel, you unilaterally ask for value, and the result can only be that the other party looks on coldly.
If you want to maintain long-term relationships in the workplace and in life, you must learn to provide equal value.
Even couples can't escape this iron law. You have to ask yourself, what can I bring to the other person? What can the other person expect from me?
If the values of the two sides do not match, sooner or later the relationship will fall apart.
It's like a railroad track that has gone off track, no matter how much you repair it, you still end up parting ways.
If the value you offer suddenly increases, and the other person is still in the same place, the relationship will quickly become unbalanced and eventually part ways.
In reality, many relationships break down, not because of quarrels, but because one party is always taking, and the other party is no longer willing to give.
Therefore, if you want to stabilize a relationship, you must first see what you can bring to the other person, otherwise, all your efforts will be in vain.
Let my words come into your heart
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