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My name is Li Wenli, I am 41 years old this year, I was a proper love brain when I was young, and I got married as soon as I graduated from college.
My ex-husband was my college classmate, and when they fell in love, they only used flowers to coax me sweetly, making me feel like a princess.
As a result, within two years of marriage, her ex-husband's various problems began to be exposed. Gaming is his main business; The house was full of dust, and he sat calmly; You can feast on a cockroach-infested table. On top of that, he is also cheating/flirting/sassy.
During this period, I struggled in pain, and my ex-husband often apologized on the front foot, and relapsed on the old illness on the back foot. Being stabbed in the back by someone I love deeply, the damage to my soul can be imagined.
In the end, under the persuasion of my best friend and parents, I ended up divorced in embarrassment.
Because I invested too much in my first relationship and was hurt too deeply, I directly broke off my idea of remarrying.
As soon as a woman is fascinated by love, both IQ and EQ will return to their places. I was frustrated in love, but I sang all the way in the workplace, and I became the core layer of the company in a few years.
Wang Wenjie jumped to our company last year, and he was 12 years younger than me. Although he is not very old, he has excellent technical skills, and I admire him.
After getting acquainted with me, Wang Wenjie showed me all kinds of favoritism, and some cared more than colleagues. I knew it, but I wasn't moved.
Until one day, I continued to work overtime and collapsed at my job.
Wang Wenjie took me to the hospital as soon as possible, and only after my condition was stable did he call my parents and promise them that he would take care of me.
During that time, my body was too exhausted, and the doctor hospitalized me for a few days to recuperate.
During my hospitalization, Wang Wenjie often came to the hospital to take care of me in the name of taking care of my parents. Reporting to me on the progress of his work, he also changed flowers to make nutritious meals for me.
People are most likely to show weakness when they are vulnerable, and I suddenly germinated the idea of marrying Wang Wenjie, which is not bad.
So, when he proposed, I didn't say no.
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I agreed to Wang Wenjie's marriage proposal, but the first time I met his family, he directly persuaded me to quit.
In the workplace, I am known for being vigorous and resolute, and I never drag my feet. Daily wear is to take the route of a strong woman.
The first time I saw Wang Wenjie's family, looking at the clothes in the closet, it still made me hesitate.
Actually, I know that it's not about clothes at all, it's mainly about the age difference between us. I ended up choosing a set of younger, more casual ones.
Wang Wenjie had already seen through my thoughts, and he deliberately ridiculed my dress, saying that I was sweet and sweet. He also said that he hoped that after getting married, he would be able to see me dressed like this every day when he didn't go to work. I scolded him for wanting to be beautiful.
Seeing that the atmosphere was relaxed, Wang Wenjie solemnly said to me that his family is very talkative, and besides, if there is him, I just have to be myself.
Unexpectedly, the initiative after meeting was not in our hands from beginning to end.
It is estimated that Wang Wenjie greeted his parents in advance, and after seeing me, they did not act surprised, but her mother praised me for being small.
His parents were polite to me, talking and laughing. But after eating, his father's fluttering words made me angry.
Wang Wenjie's father said to me: Love is free, feelings are not old-fashioned, and we respect your choice. It's just that we have a condition, you must have children before you get a license.
Her mother nodded and agreed, "yes."
Listening to their words, I felt very uncomfortable, and sat down for a while, and then took my leave.
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Wang Wenjie chased me out, and when he saw that my face was displeased, he apologized to me vigorously, saying that his parents had no intention of offending me. But I gave up the idea of getting married.
At first, when I heard Wang Wenjie's parents say this, I felt angry and incomprehensible. Just to meet, they are not optimistic about this marriage, and I didn't say that I must get married.
After calming down, from the standpoint of Wang Wenjie's parents, I gradually calmed down the anger in my heart.
I, second marriage, this is nothing. But at the age of 41, he has not given birth to a child, and it is inevitable that parents will think about it more.
Since the divorce, my parents have been trying to persuade me to find another one, so that I can have a child as soon as possible and have something to rely on in the future.
In the past two years, they suddenly stopped talking, I know that one is that I am iron-hearted, and the other is that I am old, and the more I have children, the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
I thought of my best friend telling me some time ago that her menstrual affairs were starting to be abnormal, and I was anxious about whether she would age off a cliff.
Wang Wenjie is different from me, he is unmarried, and he has been passed down for several generations, how can any parents not want to hold their grandchildren. According to my observation of him, Wang Wenjie also likes children.
Every time there is a winter and summer vacation, as long as a colleague brings a child to the company, Wang Wenjie will take a hand when he sees it. He doesn't usually eat snacks, but he buys a lot of them in those days, and I know it's all for the little ones.
I was moved by these details of Wang Wenjie's life and had a good impression of him. I've always rejected him, and that's what I think about it.
The age difference between the two of us is too great, and it is okay to fall in love, but marriage must be implemented in firewood, rice, oil and salt. Age alone raises a lot of questions.
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After knowing what Wang Wenjie's parents thought, I began to take the initiative to distance myself from him.
Wang Wenjie understood me very well, he didn't explain again, and the days seemed to be back to the past. But unlike before, he began to make frequent overtures to me, and the degree and concentration of goodness doubled.
Once people are tempted, they will be distracted. may be getting older, and in the face of Wang Wenjie's offensive, I began to pull inwardly.
Because I didn't dare to face the reality, I was timid, so I transferred Wang Wenjie to a farther place. In the face of my difficulties, he did not flinch, but was willing to do so.
It's just that my operation has affected his life.
Once, in the wee hours of the morning, I was awakened by a ringing phone, and my heart was on fire. found out that it was Wang Wenjie, and before I could ask, his anxious voice came from there.
He said that his father had a heart attack, and his mother was untouched. He had already called an ambulance and taken him to the hospital, but still wanted me to come and see what was going on.
In the final analysis, it all started because of me, even if it was an ordinary colleague, I couldn't sit idly by and watch the phone call.
On that day, I stayed in the hospital all night, accompanying Wang Wenjie's mother. When she heard that his father had turned around, his mother folded her hands and prayed sincerely.
When I left, I saw Wang Wenjie with a haggard face. At that moment, a place in my heart collapsed.
After Wang Wenjie's father was discharged from the hospital, he took the initiative to invite me to dinner and solemnly apologized for the unhappiness last time.
He said he understood my feelings and hoped I could forgive him. He also took the initiative to show favor to me, saying that he was old, and let the young people decide the affairs of young people.
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Afterwards, I took the opportunity to transfer Wang Wenjie back.
The catastrophe of the hospital made me think more about life, and our relationship continued.
Wang Wenjie's parents also acquiesced to this marriage, which may have opened the knot, and his parents were very good to me.
Knowing that I was away from my parents and working alone. They usually have something to eat, and they cling to me. If I have a conflict with Wang Wenjie, they will definitely help him or not.
What's even more commendable is that we are both only children. Every Chinese New Year, his parents drove us to my house, saying that I usually accompany them, and if I have time during the holidays, I should accompany my parents more.
People are like this, and it may not matter if others have to be tough. But once they open up to you, you can't be at ease.
I know that Wang Wenjie's parents really want a grandson to comfort their old age. Aren't my parents?
Wang Wenjie likes children, but he cares more about me.
In the face of doubts in various public settings, he was firmly on my side. He even took the initiative to say to me, don't let me use this as pressure, reproductive rights are in my hands, he respects my choice and will not force me.
Love is fluid and mutual.
Although I have always advertised myself as an independent woman, I also hope to have a crystallization of love with my lover in my heart. We can raise him together and watch him continue our love.
Now, I'm finally planning to have a baby. Because, from Wang Wenjie, I saw his tolerance and love for me, although he is younger than me, but I think it would be better if we had a child.
And what about Wang Wenjie?
Since I was loose, he dragged me to get my certificate the next day. He said, "Give me a sense of security."
Now I am very happy.
I think that no matter what the future holds, I am very happy now, and I want to cherish it.
As for the child, when he comes, it is fate, and I will love him well. For the rest, I don't want to think about it that much. Grasp the happiness in front of you and live your own life!