In a family, the trivial tasks of taking care of the children's eating, drinking, and going to school are basically pressed on the mother.
The reality is so cruel, mothers are not just raising their children, they are shaping their future.
A mother's choice, even a small decision, can invisibly affect a child's life.
Her education style, attitude towards life, and even her handling of marriage are all imperceptibly affecting the trajectory of her children's lives.
This responsibility is too heavy to ignore.
01
Influence on children's learning attitudes.
The education method of some families is simply a high-pressure policy, and the internal motivation of the child is not considered at all.
In order to pursue the so-called "good grades", parents overwhelm their children's lives, and as a result, bad grades become sinners in the family.
Reporting to class every day and forcing them to study seems to be responsible for their children on the surface, but in fact they are educating in the wrong way.
Instead of pushing your child, it is better to stimulate your child's enthusiasm for learning in the right way.
Grades are important, but a child's growth mindset and intrinsic drive cannot be ignored.
Education is not made by pressure, and the final effect of relying on external supervision and forced learning is often very poor.
A really good education is about finding a way that works for children and helps them generate motivation to learn from within.
02
Will communicate.
There is also a type of mother, who is even worse educated and does not know how to communicate at all.
They always feel that they are right, they are stubborn, and they force their children to live their lives according to their ideas.
In such a family, the child has no freedom of his own at all, and the mother has to control the child's every move to the death, and the result is that the child's personality is pressed and distorted.
I have seen many mothers who always "educate" their children in an abusive way, thinking that this will make them obedient.
But in fact, this kind of education will only make the child more and more disgusted, the relationship becomes more and more stiff, and finally he is not even willing to communicate with his mother.
Whether the mother is good at communication or not directly determines the child's personality and development.
If mothers can understand their children and respect their choices, children can find their own way in freedom and develop better.
In reality, it doesn't matter whether the mother has a good educational background, the key is whether she can guide the child correctly.
Always suppressing children with their own stubbornness and not allowing them to have room for free choice will only ruin the child in the end.
Education is a complex project that cannot be solved by simple control and suppression.
03
What kind of person to choose to be the father of the child.
In reality, a woman's choice of spouse almost determines the future direction of her children's lives.
Do you choose a literate and talented person, or a man who is emotionally irritable and careless about his family?
These choices not only affect the relationship between husband and wife, but also directly affect the development of children.
If you choose a person with a flawed personality, such as the kind of man who usually never communicates and is often cold and violent, then the role of the father is almost absent when the child grows up.
In the long run, children will be indifferent to their father's feelings, and even in future interpersonal relationships, they will copy this cold and violent model, bringing more trouble to their lives.
The father's income, social status, family environment, etc., will leave a deep imprint on the child's life.
These are all issues that need to be carefully considered when choosing a mate.
When a woman chooses a mate, she can't just decide on a lifelong partner for the sake of love impulse.
It's not just about personal well-being, it's about the future of children.
Choosing a suitable partner is not only responsible for your own life, but also a solid foundation for the fate of your children.
Therefore, women must think long-term when choosing a mate, and not just look at the emotional impulses in front of them.
Let my words come into your heart
#秋日生活打卡季#