We often say that men chase women over the wall, and women chase men on the veil, and even think that this sentence is the truth in love.
Actually, that's because the man you're chasing happens to like you too, and if he doesn't like you, the distance between you is not a veil distance, but a Great Wall distance.
Because men reject women they don't like, they often tell you directly, then, at this time, you will definitely be embarrassed to get into the cracks.
Therefore, in life, many women try their best to improve the success rate of chasing love, and even rack their brains, and they pay a lot of price.
Therefore, anyone's success in love is not so accidental and easy. So, how can you successfully chase a mature man?
I hope you can remember: women chase men, there are "3 don'ts", especially chasing mature men.
01
Don't stalk
First of all, we have to make a clear concept: love is not something that can be obtained by chasing hard, especially against those mature and stable men.
You know, those mature men, they tend to value personal space and freedom more than they like to be tied too tightly.
As Alan · Pease said, "Love is a graceful dance, not a fierce chase." ”
Stalking will not only make the other person feel breathless, but also make you look very cheap.
On the contrary, maintaining a certain sense of mystery and independence will make him curious about you, which is the smart way to do it.
So, try to snub him once in a while and make him realize that there is not only him in your world, but also your own life, interests, and pursuits. In this way, he will cherish the time he spends with you even more.
02
Don't confess directly
Once many girls are attracted to a male god, they will desperately want to confess their hearts directly to the male god. However, listening to my advice, especially in the face of mature men, it is not a good idea to confess directly.
Why? Because mature men tend to pay more attention to the natural outpouring of feelings than to this sudden confession shock.
Love is cultivated slowly, not overnight. If you confess directly, you may catch him off guard, and even wonder if you are usually an unreserved woman? Once these doubts arise in his heart, they will be difficult to dispel.
So, instead of confessing directly, it is better to penetrate slowly. Through daily interactions, let him feel your goodness, and let him slowly discover your goodness. In this way, when he realizes your heart, he will naturally take the initiative to approach you.
03
Don't be kind to boys without a bottom line
This point should be emphasized. Many girls, once they fall in love, lose their minds and are infinitely good to their other half, even to the point of having no bottom line.
But, you know what? Doing so, not only will it not make him love you more, but it will make him feel that your contribution is taken for granted.
Moreover, for a mature man, he values the excellent qualities of a girl more than a little woman who only knows how to revolve around a man all day long.
What's more, in love, the most important thing is balance. The over-giving of one party often leads to contempt on the part of the other. If you treat him well without a bottom line, he will get used to it. When the time comes, no matter how much you give, he may turn a blind eye.
So, girl, remember to love yourself a little more.
Of course, be good to him, yes, but have a bottom line, let him know that you give because of love, not because of who he is. In this way, he will respect you more and cherish your efforts more.
04
Don't be indifferent
This point is actually somewhat similar to the above point, but the emphasis is different. Being courteous about nothing often makes the other party think that you have other plans.
Especially mature men, they value sincerity and naturalness more. If you are suddenly very nice to him, he may suspect your motives and even think that you are trying to please him.
In love, the most touching thing is often those inadvertent small details. So, you don't need to do anything deliberately, you just need to be yourself and show your true side. Your sincerity, kindness, and optimism are what attract him the most.
So, don't always think about how to please him, how to make him happy. You just need to be true to yourself and let him see your shining good, and he will naturally be attracted to you.
05
Don't just throw yourself into the arms
This last point is a mistake that many girls make. I feel that as long as I take the initiative, I can get his heart faster. But, you know what? Throwing yourself into a hug often makes the other person think you are frivolous.
Mature men, they value women's self-esteem and self-love more. If you throw yourself into your arms directly, he will feel that you are exchanging your body for love, how long can such love last?
As Javier · Hendricks said, "In love, the most important thing is mutual respect and understanding." "If you respect yourself, he will respect you. If you love yourself, he will love you more.
So, don't rush to give him a hug, let him see your value and charm first, which will naturally make him interested in you.
06
In short, girls try not to use routines and techniques when pursuing mature men. While skill can make things easier, more is insincere.
In love, sincerity is the best routine and the most powerful weapon.
If a girl just blindly uses skills, then it will make the boy feel that she is a very superficial person with no real connotation and thoughts.
No man likes a scheming girl, and even more so a mature man, because such a girl will only make people feel tired and bored.
On the contrary, if a girl can sincerely express her feelings and thoughts, then the boy will also be more likely to be impressed.