Over the course of life, everyone's experience is unique. For some, the hardships and poverty of life can be an unavoidable part of their growth.
However, long-term experiences of poverty are not only materially imprinted, but can also have far-reaching psychological and behavioral effects.
For women in particular, chronic poverty may lead them to exhibit in some ways a pattern of "generosity" that is not motivated by genuine generosity, but by a deep sense of need and insecurity.
1. "Poverty and generosity" in material consumption
Oscar · Wilde said:
"Poverty is not shame, shame is the loss of dignity because of poverty."
Women who have been poor for a long time often show an ambivalent mentality when it comes to material consumption.
On the one hand, they know that money is hard to come by, and they are careful about every expense; On the other hand, they may not hesitate to give generously when confronted with certain goods that seem to enhance their self-image or social status.
This kind of "poor and generous" behavior often stems from a deep sense of inferiority and insecurity. They hope to make up for their inner lack through outward material performance, so as to win the recognition and respect of others.
However, this superficial glamour does not really change their living situation, but can lead them to deeper financial difficulties. True dignity and self-confidence do not come from external material accumulation, but from inner strength and fulfillment.
2. "Poor and generous" in interpersonal relationships
Carl · Rogers said:
"In relationships, the most important thing is not giving, but understanding."
Women who have been poor for a long time may also show a kind of "poor generosity" in interpersonal relationships.
They may care too much about the opinions and evaluations of others, and do not hesitate to sacrifice their own interests and time in order to maintain the so-called "friendship" or "family relationship".
This over-giving, not out of true love and respect, but out of fear of loneliness and fear of abandonment.
They may think that only by giving and giving consistently can they win the affection and recognition of others.
However, this unhealthy pattern of relationships can not only leave them feeling tired and powerless, but it can also cause them to be seriously hurt emotionally.
True friendship and affection should be based on mutual understanding and respect, not one-sided efforts and sacrifices.
3. "Poor and generous" in self-improvement
Malcolm · Aix said:
"Education is the key to changing your destiny."
While women who have been poor for a long time may be "poor and generous" in terms of material and interpersonal relationships, they are often overly stingy when it comes to self-improvement.
This is not to say that they are unwilling to invest in themselves, but that they may have taken the opportunities and costs of self-improvement too heavily and missed out on many life-changing opportunities.
They may think that learning new skills and improving themselves requires a lot of time and money that they can't afford.
However, it is precisely this short-sightedness and stinginess that makes them sink deeper and deeper into the quagmire of poverty.
True self-improvement is not only an investment in the future, but also the realization and affirmation of self-worth.
summary
Women who have been poor for a long time may exhibit a "poor and generous" behavior pattern in terms of material consumption, interpersonal relationships, and self-improvement.
This generosity is not born out of true generosity and self-confidence, but from a deep sense of need and insecurity.
In order to get out of this predicament, we need to learn to face up to our inner needs and establish the right values and outlook on life.
We should understand that true dignity and self-confidence come from inner strength and fullness; True friendship and affection are based on mutual understanding and respect; True self-improvement is an investment in the future and the realization of self-worth.
Let's face the challenges and opportunities in life with a more open and inclusive mind, continue to learn and grow, and become more confident and independent women.
Remember, poverty is not our destiny, but an experience along our way. Only by bravely facing it and surpassing it can we usher in a better future.