There is an old saying: "Husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes."
In these years, it is not only poverty that can break marriage, but also illness.
Imagine if your significant other is paralyzed in bed for many years shortly after you get married.
Are you willing to take care of him for the rest of his life?
In 2015, a man named Chen Xiliang had a sudden accident that caused him to "cerebellar atrophy".
The whole body is paralyzed, and he has to spend the rest of his life in bed.
This forced the burden of the family to be pressed on Chen Xiliang's wife Luo Youhua, who had to take care of her husband's food, clothing and daily life.
"I said I would find a nanny to take care of me, but in fact, I ran to someone's bed at night, and I lost my dignity and felt heartache."
This is Chen Xiliang's cry on the phone to his own brother.
A hard-working wife, but her husband says that she is worthless, what is the truth of the matter?
And did his wife Luo Youhua really betray her husband Chen Xiliang?
The husband is paralyzed, and the wife becomes the main head of the family
This year is the 24th year that Luo Youhua has married her husband Chen Xiliang, who is not from Guangdong, and her hometown is from Guizhou, which is full of mountains.
The two got to know each other by chance, and Chen Xiliang fell in love with the "beautiful fairy" woman in front of him at a glance.
At first, Luo Youhua was not interested in Chen Xiliang, but she couldn't stand his persistent pursuit.
The two still came together, and even married far away in Guangdong.
As the saying goes: "Don't persuade others to be kind without others suffering", Luo Youhua can be regarded as a poor person.
originally thought that marrying Chen Xiliang was to come to enjoy the blessings, but I didn't expect that Chen Xiliang fell ill within two days of happiness.
This illness is 12 years, and he has to spend every day in bed.
And Luo Youhua was also "bound" by her husband Chen Xiliang because of this, except for taking care of him hard.
I also had to find a way to maintain the family's daily expenses, and started the life of going to work during the day and going home from work to take care of my husband Chen Xiliang.
At the beginning, Luo Youhua was able to take care of the past, but in the long run, Luo Youhua's body and mind will be greatly unbalanced.
After all, who wouldn't want their husband to be a tall, able-bodied man?
Rebellious son
If the husband's paralysis is an important cause of his wife's "cheating", then the rebellious son is the fuse of this incident.
Chen Xiliang and his wife Luo Youhua have a son named Xiaoqin.
Under normal circumstances, sons who grow up in a family like this will be more sensible.
Especially seeing Luo Youhua working so hard every day, she feels sorry for her mother.
As the old saying goes, "a noble son comes out of a poor family", and that's how it came about.
However, his son Xiaoqin is not only not as well-behaved and sensible as other children, but also very rebellious.
didn't take his mother Luo Youhua in his eyes at all.
When I was in elementary school, I didn't learn anything, maybe it was because of the lack of parental discipline, or maybe it was not the material for learning at all.
His son Xiaoqin stopped going to school early, and he didn't go to work to make money when he was young.
It's just that the main task is to play games all day long, and when I run out of money, I reach out and ask Luo Youhua for it.
Children at the age of junior high school are at the time of immaturity of their minds, and if they are not strictly disciplined.
It will be like what broke out on social platforms some time ago: the man punched and kicked his mother because his mother didn't give him money.
Sure enough, Xiao Qin is the same.
As long as Luo Youhua doesn't give Xiao Qin money on time and on point, he will be hit by Xiao Qin's fist.
It's a mother who gave birth to herself, and because she didn't give money, she fought a lot, which is really unacceptable.
After countless nights of tossing and turning, Luo Youhua also shed tears for what happened to her.
Many times she thinks that it would be nice if she hadn't married so far in the first place.
Anyway, there is someone in my own family who can help, and now I have to rely on myself no matter what happens to my life.
originally thought that Xiao Qin would be able to be admitted to college one day and get ahead, and take the whole family on the right track.
I didn't expect this to be the case.
Neighbor becomes a "male nanny"
Almost none of the neighbors who live near Luo Youhua don't know about the situation in her family.
Many people expressed deep sympathy for Luo Youhua.
Because the house they live in is similar to a "snail house", and the area of the whole house is only 40 square meters.
It can be seen how difficult Luo Youhua's life is in ordinary times, and he is frugal.
And all this, the neighbor "Wang Jianqun" seems to see it.
Wang Jianqun is a bachelor who separated from his wife very early.
Watching Luo Youhua take care of her husband every day, she also felt pity.
When he saw that Luo Youhua was interested in recruiting a nanny, he suddenly stood up.
Wang Jianqun thinks that he can take care of Chen Xiliang.
This can not only make her less tired, but also be by Luo Youhua's side at all times, in fact, he is still selfish.
At first, the husband didn't care about the appearance of the neighbor, but after a long time, her husband Chen Xiliang began to look for trouble, intentionally or unintentionally.
Maybe he couldn't see his wife getting closer and closer to others, so he dialed his brother Chen Jianquan's phone.
told Chen Xiquan about the pain in his heart, saying that he had seen the wrong wife.
But in fact, Wang Jianqun just couldn't see Luo Youhua's strong appearance.
was sympathetic in his heart, and at the same time provided Luo Youhua with a lot of emotional value.
The relationship between the two has always been delicate, but Luo Youhua didn't want to cross that gap.
It's just that there is suddenly one more person who cares about him, and he is moved.
The three of them live under the same roof, and Wang Jianqun helps Luo Youhua take care of her husband in an orderly manner, but her husband is indeed a little jealous.
From Chen Xiliang's mouth, he scolded his wife for taking care of him for many years for being worthless.
forgot who worked hard every day for this family, and Luo Youhua felt very chilled about this.
epilogue
If it doesn't happen to you, you can't really empathize.
It is undeniable that the appearance of Wang Jianqun has indeed made this seemingly "deformed" three-person family better and better.
But many people still don't approve of Luo Youhua's approach.
thinks that her "cheating" is "cheating", why bother with too many words to excuse herself.
Of course, some people understand Luo Youhua's approach.
Taking care of a sick number is not a simple matter, and it cannot be solved with a single mouth.
What is needed is enough money and time to spend with you.
Some netizens even said: "It's not bad that Luo Youhua didn't slap her ass and left, she is still picking and choosing here, have you ever thought about others?
Do other people live their whole lives for you? ”
The words of netizens are very sharp and realistic.
We can't judge who is right and who is wrong.
No one has a God perspective.
But I believe that one thing worth affirming is that Luo Youhua is still willing to work hard to take care of her for so many years, which is already very good.
From the beginning to the end, she never thought of leaving her husband alone.
Think about it from another perspective, if you were the Luo Youhua in front of you, what would you do?
Information source: Anhui Science and Education Channel "Emotional 8 Points": "Husband's Male Nanny"
Western Civilization Broadcast: "Husband has been sick and paralyzed for 12 years, and his wife has no choice but to find a neighbor to be a "male nanny", husband: My heart hurts so much"