#头条创作挑战赛#首先, I would like to say that each of us wants each of our relationships to last a long time and spend a lifetime with our partner. But in the world of feelings, we have to face two realistic concepts: long choices and short choices.
So what is a short choice, to put it bluntly, a man just wants to be with you for a while, maybe he wants to talk to you about love, or more directly, he is hungry for your body, wants to roll a sheet or something with you, and enjoy that short-term happiness.
It's like if you buy a pair of shoes that look stylish, and after wearing them for a few days, you feel uncomfortable and even wear your feet.
At first you thought that these shoes would be your favorite and would accompany you for a long journey, but what happened?
I couldn't stand it after wearing it for a few days, and finally I had to throw it aside. Some men are like this, they are very nice to you at first, making you feel that you have met true love, but it doesn't take long for them to lose interest in you, and even disappear without a trace. This short-lived "love", like those shoes, looks good, but it is uncomfortable to wear, and in the end it can only disappoint and make you miserable.
The long-term choice is that the man has identified you and wants to be good with you for a long time, so it is best to get married and live together. It's like finding a good-looking and easy-to-use umbrella that can accompany you in any weather, and it's always there when you need it. Such a man, once he chooses you, will always be good to you, face problems with you, and plan your future life together.
So, how can you tell if someone is committed to you for a long time or a short-term relationship?
It's all about what you're worth. If your value is mainly reflected in your appearance and figure, or you are particularly good at sultry, then short-term dating is relatively more likely.
But mind you, I'm not saying that being in good shape and looking good is wrong. So, what is the root cause of wanting him to invest in you for a long time? That's your intrinsic worth. Therefore, what we want to focus on today is the intrinsic value of these three aspects.
Be understanding and inclusive
This is actually a point that men value very much, especially in relationships. That is to say, the kind of feeling that a man sometimes needs is that you can understand him and tolerate some of his small emotions and situations. It's like the initial stage of a relationship, you have to understand him before you can develop it further.
I'll give you an example: if one day, your husband is lying at home because he is uncomfortable, and he is listless and doesn't want to talk. At this time, don't ask, "What's wrong with you?" Why don't you speak? What's wrong? "Men sometimes want to be quiet, to adjust their mood and body.
You gently walked up to him and touched his forehead with the back of your hand, feeling a little hot. You whispered, "Husband, you seem to have a fever?" Then, you dim the bedroom lights to make the environment more comfortable.
Then, you prepare some hot water and medicine, and when he finishes taking the medicine, he says, "Lie down, I'll go and make you some porridge, and it will be more comfortable to drink some hot porridge later." "After that, you leave the room, let him have a good rest, don't bother, just check on him from time to time.
Your series of careful actions, although not much, made him deeply feel your love and care. This kind of silent care is really more touching than any sweet words.
For another example, he encountered some setbacks at work and was very depressed. At this time, you don't need to say too much big truth, just tell him: "I know you're sad right now, but no matter what happens, I'll be there for you." In this way, he will feel your understanding and companionship, and he will trust and rely on you more.
In general, understanding and tolerance are things that men need very much in their relationships. Just like a pair of well-fitting shoes, they don't have to be beautiful or expensive, but they must be comfortable and suitable.
Affirmation and recognition
Growing up, we all cared a lot about what other people think, right? When I was a child, I studied and got a good score in the exam, and my heart was happy, why? I just hope that my parents can praise "awesome", and the teacher can also praise it, that feeling is really good. Just like when you were a child, when you helped sweep the floor and wipe the table at home, you hoped that your parents would see it and say "the child is really sensible", which is the power of affirmation and recognition.
Men, they need this kind of affirmation and recognition even more. For example, if you say to him, "Husband, the food you bought today is really good!" With such a simple sentence, he can be happy and feel that what he is doing is right and worthwhile.
I'll give you an example: sometimes, affirmation and recognition can also be reflected in everyday chores. For example, he took the initiative to wash the dishes and did it very cleanly. At this time, you can say appreciatively, "Wow, husband, your dishes are so clean!" Thank you for taking such good care of our home, I really feel so blessed. ”
So, affirmation and recognition are really important for men. If you give him enough affirmation and recognition, he will feel that you are his bosom friend and his backing, and he will be even more inseparable from you. That's why affirmation and recognition are also important factors in maintaining relationships.
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Let's talk about worship. Do you know what worship feels like?
It's the kind of person you look at him, there are stars shining in your eyes, and you think he's really amazing, you can look up at him, and your heart is full of admiration and respect. If he finds out that you adore him so much, then he will be able to truly feel worthy.
For example, for example, your husband shared some common sense with you, such as how to choose fresh fruits, or how to deal with problems with water pipes at home.
After listening to it, you feel that this knowledge is really practical, and you also think that he really understands a lot! At this time, you say to him: "Husband, you are so amazing!" You know so much! That way, he will feel your adoration and approval for him.
This sense of worship has greatly satisfied his heart and fully reflected his value. He will feel that, in front of you, he is an all-powerful hero.
In this way, he will be more willing to present himself in front of you and show his abilities and wisdom. Why? Because you're his emotional value provider! If you make him feel the joy of being adored and needed, he will naturally be attracted to you, and he may only be attracted to you in this life.
So, girls, don't be stingy with your praise and adoration! Praise your husband more and let them feel your love and respect, so that your relationship will be sweeter and more stable!