Wen smiled slightly
By chance, I opened "My Grandmother Never Suffers Internal Friction".
was deeply fascinated by the author's Li Weichen, the lovely, wise and transparent grandmother.
I really wish I could have such a guide, just like Nobita can have Doraemon, how nice it would be.
Of course, there has never been a savior in this world, and if you want to be diligent and rich, you have to rely on your own understanding, try more, don't give up, take your time, and there is no other way.
The grandmother in the book is petite, but as tall as a mountain, full of power, especially advanced independent thoughts, which is not inferior to the current women of the new era.
And one of the deepest feelings is the sentence "let others live more".
In just five words, it carries the wisdom and experience of her life.
01. The wisdom of life to "let others live more".
When he was a child, the author lived at his grandmother's house during the holidays.
Soon after, I found out that my grandmother's house had some special "rules".
For example, after drinking milk, shake the bottom of the bottle with boiled water and drink it; Also, the leftover scratch paper and old newspapers should be sorted out and stacked together......
After accumulating for a while, my grandmother would take the author and cousin to sell the scrap and then give the money to the author for safekeeping.
It is worth mentioning that the grandmother never let the author and cousin pick up the waste outside.
I remember one time, my grandmother took the author and my cousin to take out the garbage.
The author saw that there were a lot of paper shells in the garbage heap, and he was about to pick them up, but was stopped by his grandmother.
She gently pointed to the shack next to her and said, "Let others live more." ”
At that time, there were many waste pickers in the city, some living under bridges and holes, and some with rudimentary plastic sheds next to garbage dumps.
Yes, maybe these waste items are the food expenses of the waste pickers for the coming week, or the "supplies" for survival.
At that time, the author thought that the enthusiastic grandmother would remind the waste pickers to pick up the waste.
But unexpectedly, my grandmother took the two of them home directly and said lightly:
"We can only take care of ourselves, we don't take it, but whoever takes it is his own luck."
Seeing this, I was impressed by my grandmother's appropriate kindness.
As "My Grandma Never Wears Off" says:
"'Let others live more', this sentence allows us to give ourselves more understanding, compassion and even calmness in the face of failure and inadequacy: people cannot have everything. There will always be someone higher than you, and there will always be someone who is inferior to you. Look at what you already have and forgive yourself for what you can't do. ”
No one is an island, let others live more.
Having good thoughts, taking only what you need, not being jealous, not being greedy, is the way to relax.
02. Do not fight for or intervene in the cause and effect of others
I once saw such a story:
There was a boss who was angry that his mother was always out picking up scrap.
Of course, it is very common for old people to pick up waste, and many people persuade: What is there to be angry about, your mother is also idle when she is idle.
In this regard, the boss said: "She can choose to do a lot of things to pass the time, instead of competing for other people's living space." ”
Instant tears.
It's the same as the grandmother's "live more when someone else" in the book!
Yes, I especially agree with the concept conveyed by "My Grandma Never Suffers Internal Friction":
"The most powerful force in this world is not confrontation or conquest, but understanding and transcendence after allowing and accepting."
It is worth mentioning that my grandmother has the kindness of "letting others live more", and she also has the sense of boundary and transparency of "managing yourself" and not participating in the cause and effect of others.
Leave the waste to the waste pickers, but don't take the initiative to inform them that there is waste here, don't intervene in their lives, and just take care of yourself.
The wisdom of this grandmother in the book always makes me reflect on whether we are too ourselves and others in our daily lives.
Each person has their own circumstances, causes and effects, and is burdened with their own issues.
We can't force others to understand us, and we can't take too much responsibility for other people's problems.
My grandmother said that treating others is also a practice, always respecting the feelings of others, setting your own boundaries, changing your mind with the situation, and letting go of things when you are done. Only in this way can we find inner peace and ease in the chaotic life.
When my grandmother said, "Let others live more", she was not only reminding me how to treat others, but also teaching me how to face my own life.
The world has its own rules, and each of us has our own life trajectory.
Respecting other people's choices and cause and effect, and letting go of obsessions with the outside world, is the real strength of the heart.
03. Write at the end
Grandma's words, crying blood.
It contains the most profound wisdom of life - let others live more, and you can live a relaxed life.
Inspired by her, I learned to accept, tolerate, tolerate others, and more importantly, forgive myself.
In this fast-paced society, we often fall into endless internal friction and anxiety, but forget the true meaning of life, which is to allow ourselves to let go of our obsessions and live as we like.
Maybe you're constantly blaming yourself for your imperfections, or maybe you're exhausted trying to please everyone.
Listen to your grandmother's advice: "Let others live more." ”
It's not just an understanding of others, it's also a relief for yourself.
If you often feel anxious and internal friction in your life, and don't know how to deal with stress and challenges, then I highly recommend you read the book "My Grandma Never Suffers Internal Friction" (the same name: You don't have to be a flower).
"Heaven and earth are so big and boundless, you can be whatever you want to be. Flowers are just your insignificant embellishments, it's okay if they don't bloom, you don't have to make a flower. ”
Life doesn't have to blossom to be successful, just be yourself, you can be a seed and take root downward.
This book will allow you to find the true meaning of life, stay away from anxiety and self-blame, live the way you want, and find inner peace and strength.
You don't have to be a flower My grandmother never wears a female survival that takes you to untie the shackles of thought ¥29.8 Buy
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