Text: Xiaowen
Love is fragile, especially once trust is destroyed, no amount of compensation may not be able to restore the original sincerity.
Men sometimes think that as long as they are kind to their wives on weekdays, occasional betrayal is irrelevant. However, a woman's thirst for love is never satisfied with the kindness of your charity, but the sincerity and trust that can make her rely on it with all her heart.
Once the betrayal happens, even the deep feelings before will gradually disintegrate in the cracks of the betrayal, and I want to say to the men, this is not something that can be repaired by any superficial "good to her".
01. Brother Bin's self-confidence
Today, I heard my mother say that about Brother Bin, the upstairs neighbor in our community, Brother Bin and his wife Xiaomei are divorced!
Why?
Brother Bin used to be recognized as a "good husband", he opened a company by himself, the company's business is thriving, his wife Xiaomei has been at home full-time, they have been married for many years, the two have a son, and the family looks very happy and happy.
Brother Bin is usually really good to Xiaomei, he hired a nanny at home in life, financially, Brother Bin is also very generous to Xiaomei, and has never let Xiaomei worry about money, what is popular in the mall, Xiaomei will wear anything, she is really nourishing.
Friends are envious of Xiaomei for having such a considerate and generous husband. However, no one knows that Brother Bin has a secret relationship outside.
He once had an affair with a female colleague, which turned out to be a real betrayal.
However, he never felt that there was anything wrong with his behavior, on the one hand, he felt that he was playing "without leaks".
On the other hand, he felt that even if Xiaomei found out, this "little thing" would not affect his relationship with Xiaomei.
After all, he is good enough for Xiaomei, can Xiaomei find a better one than him if he leaves him? It's too hard.
Brother Bin always believes in his heart that men's occasional cheating is not a big deal, and women still pay more attention to men's performance in the family and the quality of life that men can give them.
And yet he was wrong, and he couldn't have been more wrong.
02. The ex-wife chooses to divorce
As the saying goes, paper can't contain fire after all.
No matter how careful Brother Bin is, he can't escape the careful Xiaomei. Women's sixth sense has always been keen, especially when their lover begins to change, they can always detect clues.
Xiaomei has long found that Brother Bin often returns late, keeps his mobile phone in his hand, and even sometimes his attitude becomes inexplicably cold. She didn't want to think about it at first, trying to explain the anomalies with trust. But one night, when Brother Bin came home drunk and forgot to lock his phone, Xiaomei accidentally saw an ambiguous message, which instantly became like a bolt from the blue.
When she flipped through the evidence hidden in the chat logs, her heart was like a knife, and all trust collapsed in an instant. Her love, her expectations, all came to naught in that moment.
This husband, whom she had always trusted, betrayed her.
She didn't say anything, wiped away her tears, and continued to play the virtuous wife who didn't know anything, and then she silently collected all the evidence: Brother Bin's real estate, cash flow, and all the evidence of him and the woman outside.
No quarrels, no questioning.
Two years later, Xiaomei calmly put all the evidence in front of Brother Bin and calmly filed for divorce.
Brother Bin thought that Xiaomei was just a "woman with a little temper", but he didn't realize the seriousness of the matter until the divorce agreement was in front of him. However, at this time, explanations and apologies are meaningless. Xiaomei is no longer willing to continue to pay for this relationship.
And what about Brother Bin? had to be taken away from half of his net worth, and he also lost the love and family that he had always taken for granted.
Before Brother Bin could react from the reality of losing his family, he was mercilessly swept out of the house by Xiaomei. He once thought that he was in control of everything, but he didn't know that at the moment of his betrayal, he had lost the most precious thing - Xiaomei's purest love for him.
After losing Xiaomei, Brother Bin really felt what real regret and pain were.
He once thought that as long as he was kind to his wife, he could cover everything up, but when trust was completely destroyed, no amount of "good" would help. Xiaomei's heart has been completely broken.
He didn't know how hard betrayal would hit a woman.
She once loved him wholeheartedly, unreservedly gave her most precious youth and affection, she was worth everything, but the moment she learned of his betrayal, she completely collapsed and sobered up.
This pain of being deceived by someone you love deeply is unforgettable.
03. Mei Niang said
Shakespeare said:
"Trust is the cornerstone of love, and without it, all happiness collapses."
Yes, Brother Bin's story is not uncommon, and many men make the same mistake in their marriages – they think that a woman's love is unconditional and eternal.
However, a woman's love is not endless. They can give everything for love, even willing to sacrifice some of their needs, but they will never tolerate betrayal.
Once hurt, no matter how deep the love is, it will slowly turn into cold heartbreak in the reality of betrayal.
The greatest value of a woman's love lies in her trust and dependence.
Once a woman loves you with all her heart, she will willingly give you everything she has: her time, her youth, her support and companionship. She will be your strongest support when you need it and help you through the ups and downs of life. And when you betray her, all this will cease to exist.
A man may feel that he has temporarily gained momentary stimulation and happiness when he betrays, but what he has lost forever is a woman's trust, respect and dependence on him. This kind of loss cannot be reversed in any way.
So, men remember: no matter how good you are to your wife, as long as you betray her trust, she will never love you again.
Although some women may not necessarily choose to divorce like Xiaomei, even if they still maintain a family with you, their hearts are no longer with you.
The reason why they don't leave you is either because they are waiting for the right time to leave, or because they are just worried about your money, or they are just maintaining a shell of marriage for the sake of their children.
They won't love you anymore, even if they will still smile at you, but their hearts are dripping blood, even if they will still have company for you, but what they curse in their hearts is: when did you better have an accident.
If you have a natural or man-made disaster, what else can you expect from them? Impossible!
Men, please don't wait until you are sick and lonely to understand how important a woman's true love for you is.
Loyalty, trust, and cherishing are the fundamentals of maintaining a relationship, and don't wait until it's too late to understand these simple but vital truths.
A woman's love is priceless. Their tenderness, care and companionship cannot be bought by money. When you have this kind of love, be sure to cherish it. Don't let a moment of greed and self-righteousness destroy it all. Otherwise, all that awaits you is remorse and loneliness.