It is said that this summer, after the Olympic champions were born in Paris one by one, many Chinese children were disliked.
The easy sentence of being a parent, "Look at others, look at you", instantly nailed many ordinary children to the pillar of shame.
Sorry, my old mother, may be an exception.
The more I watched the growth history of Olympic champions, the more shameless I disliked my own ordinary child.
If you don't believe it, I'll have a good fight with you-
Zheng Qinwen, who just won the championship, everyone knows that the winner of China's first Olympic tennis singles championship has an annual commercial value of up to 40 million yuan before winning the championship, and it is predicted to exceed hundreds of millions of yuan after winning the championship.
It's very red-eyed, why is it that other people's daughters have been cultivated so well, brave and golden?
The answer is:
My parents are tougher than we are.
Zheng Qinwen was born in Shiyan, Hubei, in order to take her to play and embrace the tennis dream, her parents took her all the way from Shiyan, Wuhan, Beijing, to the world.
Just to receive the best training, find the best coach, recruit the best opponents, and achieve the highest glory.
Under Zheng Qinwen's wheat-colored skin, her vigorous body, her bright smile, her powerful aura, and the sentence "I don't care who my opponent is, I don't care who I fight with, I fought a Grand Slam champion when I was 19 years old", all of which are inseparable from the hard work of her parents.
After Zheng Qinwen won the championship, there were two stories in the rivers and lakes, which were widely circulated.
One is that in order to let his daughter train with Li Na's former coach Yu Liqiao, Zheng's father knelt down directly to ask for a teacher (the famous coach is very strict in accepting apprentices, of course, Mr. Yu must be proud of Zheng Qinwen's beloved apprentice today).
The other is that in order to let his daughter receive international training abroad, Zheng's father raised 20 million, and even did not hesitate to sell his family's house to gamble on his daughter's future.
Of these two rumors, the first was unconfirmed, and the second was admitted by Zheng Qinwen himself.
After winning the championship, Zheng Qinwen said:
"When I was fourteen or fifteen years old, my dad even sold his house to play for me, and he wanted to do everything he could to fulfill my tennis dream...... Dad, I've finally glorified my ancestors this time! ”
When we poor people talk about supporting our children's dreams, we like to use the word "smashing pots and selling iron".
However, don't forget, the premise of "smashing pots and selling iron" is that we are poor, and our family is originally surrounded by walls and has no long things.
It reveals that the poor have nothing to lose, and that even if the last pot investment fails, it is only the cheap cost of a pot.
But Zheng's father's sale of houses for his daughters is different.
First of all, you have to mix up and have a suite in the city, and secondly, you have to have the courage to gamble on the house, and in the end, you won't regret losing the bet.
Compared with "smashing pots and selling iron", selling a house for a woman actually requires more courage:
Because its sunk cost is greater, it needs to gamble on the lion's share of an average family's assets.
Ask yourself, how many of us are willing to kneel down and beg for the sake of our children's uncertain dreams, and to sell our houses?
I asked myself, I can't do it.
I was afraid of losing everything I had worked so hard for, and I was afraid that I would be depressed if I didn't win the championship.
I'm afraid, I don't dare, so I don't deserve to have a child like Zheng Qinwen.
Some friends may be more serious:
"If my daughter is really as talented as Zheng Qinwen, I am willing to sell the house to support her."
Well, dear friend, then it's necessary for us to talk about another female champion -
Hong Kong fencing champion Jiang Minxian was pampered by the whole network because he cried a mess after winning the championship and looked quite like Lin Chiling.
Beauty is only the most insignificant one of all Jiang Minxi's shining points.
She received her bachelor's degree from Stanford University, her master's degree from Minmin University of Chinese, and her Ph.D. from Chinese University of Hong Kong.
In addition to fencing, she is proficient in taekwondo, figure skating, ballet, and piano.
If there is a perfect child in this world, Jiang Minxian should be counted as one.
It's just that such children also have extraordinary parents.
Her mother is a TVB senior artist mentor, her father is a famous photographer, she was taken to Canada by her parents at the age of 2 to study, and after returning to Hong Kong at the age of 6, she is a famous school:
From primary school to middle school, I studied in famous universities.
These prestigious schools have two distinctive features:
First, it is expensive, and the tuition fee is often hundreds of thousands of dollars a year.
The second is strict, the admission conditions are extremely strict, and the cultural literacy of the students' parents is extremely high.
Do you think Jiang Minhan's gold medal is just talent, hard work and luck?
No, no, no.
There are also parents' cultural literacy, social status, economic strength, trial and error costs, vision pattern, and rich education.
Let's tell a true story.
Jiang Minxian only learned fencing at the age of 11, and before that, she had been in various money-burning interest classes, such as ice skating, ballet, taekwondo, piano, and track and field......
Later, by chance, she became obsessed with fencing.
After she fell in love with fencing, her father not only invited her the best fencing coach from the mainland, but also sponsored the coach to open a fencing gym in Hong Kong-
In order to let the coach teach his daughter in Hong Kong with peace of mind, and also to let his daughter compete with more fencers.
Such intentions, such strokes, and such strategies can only be done by gifted parents?
It is also a plan of parents:
Keep burning money, keep trying and making mistakes, keep looking for opportunities, keep building platforms, and keep lifting children from one high ground to another.
After winning the championship, Jiang Minxin thanked his parents with a smile and tears and announced his retirement.
For a time, public opinion was in an uproar.
According to a person familiar with the matter, Jiang Minxian left the arena and will go to the United Nations to take up his post.
She is well-versed in the three different judicial systems of the United Kingdom, the United States and China, and she is an Olympic gold medalist, and the United Nations welcomes her to join.
What I see is that since she was born, her parents have used long-term planning to take her to climb the peak and win the crown little by little.
As a parent, I am ashamed of myself, ashamed of myself, ashamed of myself.
Compared with other parents, what face do I have to demand that my child be excellent?
Looking back on the years of raising a baby, in addition to holding a few homecoming meetings, I have been immersed in my work for a long time, and I have never planned anything for the long-term of my child.
It is already a great blessing for me that the child does not grow crooked in the free-range.
I don't say this comfortingly, but from the bottom of my heart—
My brother's son, who is also my nephew, is now in high school and his grades are a mess, but the child is open-minded and happy every day.
My brother was angry because of the child's poor grades, and even beat the child.
I refuted him to his face:
"What kind of face do you have to dislike the child, you went out to work and do business when the child was one year old, you were always absent when he needed you the most, you didn't accompany him or even knew him, but you dared to beat him, why did you?"
Of course, I know that my brother is also not easy, and he has been busy making a living.
I just wanted to remind him to compare his child to other people's homes, and when he raises his fist at his child, please stop for five seconds and think about whether he is a good enough parent.
Speaking of which, I have to mention one of my girlfriends.
Her son took the college entrance examination this year, and she met us and generously shared her son's admission colleges.
"I really think it's not easy for my child, I'm busy with work every day, his father is busy with business every day, and my child hasn't been to cram school for a day, I'm really grateful to be able to get into the exam like this."
Yes.
Zheng Qinwen and Jiang Minxin are excellent, scarce and inimitable very few.
As an ordinary majority, we applaud the brilliant champions, and we must also understand this truth:
Karma is self-admitted, cause and effect are true, and good fortune is not happy.
Ordinary us, who expect excellent children from heaven, are lazy and greedy.
Accept the child's ordinariness, and when you dislike your own child from above, please lower your arrogant head and think about your own ordinariness.