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It is said that "comradeship-in-arms is as deep as the sea", but in recent years, this sentence seems to be more and more like a beautiful expectation, rather than a portrayal of reality
A few days ago, I swiped a video, a veteran sighed in the video, saying that the current comrades-in-arms gathering has changed its flavor and has become a "show off wealth conference" and "spit conference".
This can't help but remind me of a August 1st party I attended last month, where several old comrades-in-arms rarely got together, thinking that they could drink and talk freely as before, but I didn't expect that the atmosphere was a little delicate from the beginning
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I believe that many people will be familiar with similar scenes, once close comrades-in-arms, but now because of differences in identity, status, and concepts, they are gradually drifting apart, and even turning against each other
What made the former "Steel Seventh Company" become today's "Plastic Brothers"?
It's time, it's distance, and it's the society that leaves a different mark on everyone
We are accustomed to thinking of camaraderie as indestructible and unbreakable, but we forget that everyone is an individual and will change over time
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When we come back together with different experiences and different positions, conflicts and contradictions may be inevitable
Some people say that the comrades-in-arms gathering is like a mirror, reflecting the true face of everyone, once, we wore the same military uniform, ate the same meals, had common goals and pursuits, there was no conflict of interest between each other, and some were just pure comradeship
But now, we have taken off our military uniforms and entered society, our identities have changed, our status has changed, our concepts have changed, and the once pure comrade-in-arms relationship has inevitably been contaminated with some secular colors
Netizen "A Rain of Smoke" said: "The current comrades-in-arms gathering has become sour, everyone is comparing with each other and showing off their achievements, who cares if you are doing well?" ”
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Although his words are somewhat extreme, they also reflect a universal social phenomenon: when people's material living standards improve, spiritual pursuits become more utilitarian and realistic
There's nothing wrong with our desire to succeed, our desire to be recognized, our desire to live a better life, but to put those desires above all else, even at the expense of once-cherished friendships, is putting the cart before the horse
At that age full of passion and dreams, we trained together, stood guard together, experienced wind and rain together, and formed a deep friendship, at that time, we didn't care about material differences, nor did we care about personal gains and losses, but only the determination to support each other and make progress together
Netizen "Veterans Don't Die" recalled: "Back in the army, our brothers in a class, whoever had difficulties, everyone would lend a hand, and the feelings at that time were real"
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With the passage of time, we are gradually wrapped up in the trivialities of life and the pressure of reality, and the once lofty ambitions are gradually worn out
We began to pay attention to our careers, families, and children, began to run around for firewood, rice, oil and salt, and began to intrigue for fame, fortune and status
Netizen "Sunny Day Doll" sighed: "I found out when I went out of society that I was still the simplest brother in the army, but unfortunately I couldn't go back"
Yes, time can't be turned back, and we can't go back to the past, but we can at least keep our original intention and cherish the hard-won comradeship
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Don't let the gathering of comrades-in-arms become a stage for comparison and show-off, and don't let conflicts of interest and differences of ideas become a sharp blade to separate each other
More sincerity, less hypocrisy; More understanding, less complaining; Be more tolerant and less calculating
Netizen "Chasing the Wind Boy" said: "The real comradeship can stand the test of time, even if we haven't seen each other for many years, we can still get together again like before, hook shoulders and talk about everything"
Indeed, true comradeship will not fade with the passage of time, nor will it deteriorate due to changes in status
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It's like an old wine, the longer it ages, the more mellow it tastes; It is also like an evergreen tree, no matter how much wind and rain it goes through, it is still tall and green
Let us work together to take care of this precious comradeship, and make it the warmest companion on the road of our lives
Maintaining comradeship-in-arms also requires a certain amount of wisdom and skill
We must correct our mentality and lower our posture
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Don't use the gathering of comrades-in-arms as a stage to show off, and don't impose your own values on others, everyone has their own way of life and value pursuit, and we should respect each other's choices, rather than blindly judging and blaming
Netizen "breeze" said: "The gathering of comrades-in-arms is just to catch up on the old days and talk about each other's recent situation, there is no need to do so, and there is no need to fight for high and low"
Learn to listen and empathize
Everyone has the desire to talk and the need to be understood, so at the comrades-in-arms gathering, you might as well give each other more opportunities to express, listen and understand more, and interrupt and refute less
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Netizen "Waiting for the Flowers to Bloom" shared his experience: "Every time I participate in a gathering of comrades-in-arms, I will listen carefully to everyone's speeches, even if I have different views, I will try to think from the perspective of the other party, so that I can better understand each other and avoid misunderstandings and conflicts."
To stay in touch and interact often
Comradeship-in-arms also needs to be managed carefully, not just by occasional gatherings to maintain, usually more contact, more interaction, in order to make the feelings between each other deeper
Netizen "Walk All the Way" said: "Several of our old comrades-in-arms have built a WeChat group, and we often chat and share our lives in the group, even if we can't meet often, we feel very close to each other."
Comradeship is a precious treasure that is worthy of our cherishing and guarding
Together, with sincerity, understanding and tolerance, we will water this tree of friendship and let it flourish!
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