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Some people say that forty years old is a hurdle for women, and when they have passed, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and the years are quiet; If you can't get over, you can only gradually lose yourself in the triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt and the life of chicken feathers
In the circle of friends, Xiaoli posted a photo of her and her husband in the lavender field of Provence, with the caption: "Thank you husband for giving me a birthday gift, he said that I will always be as romantic as a girl," In the photo, she is wearing a white dress and has a bright smile, where does she look like she is over forty?
Just a few years ago, Xiaoli also experienced a period of gloomy days, when the child was in adolescence, rebellious and disobedient, and the relationship between husband and wife also fell to freezing point due to a long-term lack of communication, she felt like a trapped beast, breathless under the double pressure of family and career
"During that time, I felt very tired every day, but I didn't know what I was busy with or what I wanted," Xiaoli recalled, "until one day, when I looked in the mirror, I suddenly found that I had become haggard, completely lacking the confidence and vitality of the past, and I realized that I couldn't go on like this, I had to make a change"
Change, where to start? Xiaoli's first thought was to improve herself, she signed up for yoga classes, flower arrangement classes, used her free time to learn baking, photography, and also participated in reading clubs, and met many like-minded friends
"Learning new things made me feel energized and regained my self-confidence," says Li, "and more importantly, I found that in addition to being a wife and mother, I can also have my own hobbies and pursue my dreams"
With the broadening of her horizons and the fullness of her heart, Xiaoli began to re-examine her marriage and family, she tried to communicate with her husband, share her feelings and needs, and also try to understand her husband's pressure and difficulties
"In the past, we used to complain about each other, but we rarely really calmed down and listened to each other's thoughts," Xiaoli said, "Now, we have learned to empathize, learn to understand and tolerate each other, and the relationship between husband and wife has become closer than before"
Xiaoli's change has also affected the friends around her, and everyone has learned from her, hoping to live the confidence and excitement of a middle-aged woman like her
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"Actually, age is just a number, the important thing is the mentality," Xiaoli said with a smile, "as long as we don't give up on ourselves and always keep a young heart, we will definitely be able to live a wonderful life of our own"
> netizen "Yezi": I feel the same way! When a woman reaches a certain age, she really can't just revolve around her husband and children, she must give herself more time and space to learn, grow and discover a better self!
> netizen "The sunshine is always after the wind and rain": That's great! I also want to learn from Xiaoli and live my own wonderful life!
Middle age is a necessary stage of a woman's life, and it is also a stage full of challenges and opportunities.
Perhaps, we can find some inspiration from Xiaoli's story
Instead of putting all her energy into her family, she chose to set aside some time and space for herself to learn new skills and develop new hobbies, which not only gave her happiness and a sense of accomplishment, but also allowed her to find a sense of self-worth outside of her family
> netizen "coffee without sugar": That's right! I used to be at home, but I was physically and mentally exhausted, and my husband didn't appreciate it, but then I started to learn to draw, and not only did I feel happy, but the atmosphere at home also improved
> netizen "Girls who love to laugh won't be too lucky": Learning can really make women more attractive! I signed up for an English speaking class, and now I don't feel afraid to communicate with foreigners!
Many times, the anxiety and confusion of middle-aged women is not because of age, but because they gradually lose their enthusiasm for life and focus on themselves in the trivial life day after day
When they dedicate all their time and energy to their families, but neglect their own growth and needs, it is easy to fall into a whirlpool of self-doubt and self-denial
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> netizen "Breeze Xulai": I have a deep experience! I used to feel that I had paid so much for my family and deserved the understanding and gratitude of my husband and children, but it always backfired and made me very aggrieved
> netizens "do it and cherish it": Women must be kind to themselves! Don't spend all your time with your family, but also set aside a little time for yourself to do what you love, so that you can live a happier and more rewarding life!
In fact, middle-aged women can live a more wonderful life, they have rich experience and life wisdom, they are more mature, stable, rational, and know how to love themselves and life
The key is that they dare to break the shackles of traditional concepts, bravely pursue the life they want, and live their true selves
> netizen "Fly Freely": That's right! When a woman reaches middle age, she must live her own style! Don't be bound by age and worldly vision, and be brave enough to pursue your dreams!
> netizens "Life is like a play": Praise for all middle-aged women who work hard to live! You are all the most beautiful!
So, how can middle-aged women live their lives to the fullest?
Learn to love yourself, don't put all your energy on your family, and set aside time and space for yourself to study, travel, develop your hobbies, and keep yourself happy
> netizen "Happiness First": That's right! Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance! Women should be willing to invest in themselves, whether it is the external image or the inner cultivation, they must constantly improve themselves to make themselves more confident and beautiful!
> netizens "If the heart is sunny, there is no fear of sadness": love yourself, start by insisting on exercising every day! Exercise not only makes the body healthier, but also makes the mood more enjoyable and the whole person is full of energy!
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To maintain economic independence, economic independence is an important guarantee for women's independence and self-determination, and it is also an important prerequisite for them to pursue self-fulfillment
> netizen "independent woman": financial independence is too important! Only when you are financially independent can you have the confidence to pursue the life you want and live more freely and confidently!
> netizen "The woman who makes money to support her family is the most beautiful": Women must have their own careers, even if they are not to make money, they must have a job of their own, so that they can maintain their connection with society and make themselves more worthy!
Thirdly, it is necessary to maintain the enthusiasm for learning, live to be old, learn to be old, learning can broaden horizons, improve cognition, allow women to remain competitive in the changing times, and also make their lives more colorful
> netizens "Knowledge is power": learning is the best investment for women! No matter when and where, you must maintain your enthusiasm for learning, and constantly improve yourself to become better!
> netizens "have poetry and books in their belly": Reading can make women more temperamental! Read more books and read good books, not only to improve your connotation, but also to make yourself more calm to face various challenges in life!
Be brave enough to pursue your dreams, don't set limits on yourself because of your age, and don't give up on your pursuits because of the eyes of others
> netizen "Dream Chasing Pure Heart": Dreams know no age! As long as you still have a dream in your heart, be brave enough to chase it!
> netizens "live a wonderful life": life is only once, don't leave regrets for yourself! Be brave to try, to challenge to create your own wonderful life!
Middle age is a new starting point for women's lives, and it is also a new stage for them to shine
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Let's praise all middle-aged women who work hard to live a life, and may they all live their lives to the fullest!
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