There is a good saying, "Not all feelings can have the best of both worlds".
In real life, some people seem to be able to come together, but in fact they don't make it to the end.
When you give your heart and don't get the same amount in return, you will have doubts and anxiety.
Actually, this is also a normal phenomenon.
After all, love is a complex process. It's sweet when you're together, and it's sad when you're apart.
Especially when you give your heart, but the other party chooses to hurt you.
Even if it's not that obvious, you can feel that the other person doesn't care about you.
When a person no longer contacts you, you should understand. Not all efforts are rewarded, and not all efforts are worth cherishing.
After understanding some truths, we can better treat feelings and cherish the people in front of us.
- Not all the effort is worth it
In fact, in a relationship, the effort is proportional to the return.
If you give a lot and the other person doesn't give you something in return, it will be very disappointing.
But no matter what you do, it won't end well, and the other party just doesn't want to be with you.
So, don't feel that you can get a return for what you give, not all the effort is worth it.
If you want to truly get a love, you need to treat it with your heart.
If the other person doesn't care about your feelings, no matter how much you give, it's useless.
In this case, the harder you try, the more disgusting the other person will be.
So, don't always think about getting love. When you give your heart, the other party chooses to leave.
Instead of struggling like this, it's better to let go in style. After all, no matter how much you try to recover, it is useless, it is better to stop the loss in time.
After all, everyone has their own choices and lifestyles, and we can't force others to change.
But we can change our attitudes and behaviors. After all, the end of a relationship is not a person's fault.
You just have to take responsibility for your actions.
- The other party has already chosen to give up
Although it is said that in this world, everyone is selfish, but love is not.
If two people really love each other, they will choose to give for each other. Even if you don't get the same reward, you'll be satisfied.
When you are sincere in your efforts to someone, but the other person chooses to give up, don't doubt your own efforts. Because you don't get the same return, it means that the other person doesn't love you.
Even if it's not explicitly shown, there will be some details that make you feel. Like, he doesn't care about you anymore; He is reluctant to share the bits and pieces of his life with you; He started to get busy and waited.
In short, it seems to you that the other person no longer cares about you. This shows that the other person doesn't love you anymore.
So, when a person is no longer in contact with you, don't bother the other person anymore. After all, being abandoned is a painful thing.
Since you have chosen to give up, don't continue to entangle, and letting go of the other party is also letting go of yourself.
- Don't grieve yourself anymore
When a person doesn't contact you, it may be because he has better options.
Many times, we are also silently loving each other, even if we don't say a word, just to leave good memories for each other.
But in love, there is never a saying that anyone owes anyone. When two people are together, they should be considerate and understanding of each other.
If you blindly wronged yourself, it will only make the other party feel that you are very humble, and thus look down on you even more.
If the other party really doesn't care about you anymore, then no matter how much you give and please, it is meaningless.
In this world, the most useless thing is to wronged yourself. As long as he doesn't care about you anymore, don't grieve yourself anymore.
Love is a two-way process, don't always think about changing each other, let alone forcing each other.
Maybe you're giving so much that you've lost yourself. It made the other party have the idea of leaving.
Therefore, in the relationship, you must learn to love yourself. When you learn to love yourself, you will meet better people and things.
When a person no longer contacts you, don't grieve yourself anymore and be the one who takes the initiative to leave!