The germination and realization of the musical dream, Alan Tam was born in Hong Kong in 1950 and is the only boy in his family. As a rebellious man, he frequented the cabaret, where he developed a love for music.
In order to pursue his music dream, he formed the band Losers with Chen You and others despite his father's opposition. The name comes from the entry slip they picked up in the "Music on the Beach" competition, which means "loser" but brings them unexpected good luck.
The Losers won the competition, but soon after their members went into business. Unwilling to let the dream dissipate, Alan Tam joined forces with Chen You, Zhong Zhentao and others again to form the "Wynners" (Wenner Band).
As the name suggests, the band quickly became "winners" and made a name for themselves throughout East Asia with just a few albums. After the disbandment of the band, Alan Tam successfully flew solo with the support of his wife Yang Jiewei, and eventually became one of the most popular singers in Hong Kong.
At the peak of his career, Alan Tam took the initiative to withdraw from all awards in order to maintain his friendship with Leslie Cheung. This move has become a good story in the Hong Kong entertainment industry, and it has also won Alan Tam the reputation of "both virtue and art".
Despite this, his private life became the focus of controversy in the future.
The sweetness and bitterness of love
Alan Tam's love path has ups and downs. His first romance began with his time in the band, with a girl named Angela.
However, shortly after the band disbanded, Alan Tam found out that Angela was also in an intimate relationship with another man, and broke off contact in grief. In 1974, in the song hall, Alan Tam met Yang Jiewei, who had an outstanding temperament, and fell in love at first sight.
Under his fierce pursuit, the two came together. In order to support Alan Tam's career, Yang Jiewei did not hesitate to quit her job to help her wholeheartedly. When the Wenner band disbanded and Alan Tam encountered setbacks in solo flight, it was Yang Jiewei's companionship and support that helped him get through the difficulties.
In order to maintain Alan Tam's image, Yang Jiewei took the initiative to get married in secret, and even gave up the wedding and diamond ring. However, Yang Jiewei's mother revealed the relationship between the two in her obituary when her father died, which exposed the relationship.
In the face of criticism from fans, Yang Jiewei stepped forward and took responsibility to protect Alan Tam. After marriage, for the sake of Alan Tam's career development, Yang Jiewei agreed to Dink's request.
For years, every time she had an unplanned pregnancy, she had to have an abortion for this engagement. Yang Jiewei's dedication and sacrifice seemed sweet at the time, but it laid the groundwork for the bitterness in the future.
This marriage eventually led to tragedy due to Alan Tam's betrayal.
The betrayal of marriage and the rebirth of a new life
In 1991, Alan Tam met Zhu Yongting at his fan club, and this young and beautiful female college student quickly captured his heart.
Zhu Yongting promised Alan Tam that as long as he was with him, he did not need to abandon his wife, which made Alan Tam deeply fascinated. The two began frequent private meetings, and finally Zhu Yongting became pregnant with Alan Tam's child.
Although there was a Dink agreement with Yang Jiewei, Alan Tam chose to let Zhu Yongting give birth to their son Tan Xiaofeng. What's even more shocking is that he brought Zhu Yongting's mother and son back to his home.
This move is undoubtedly a huge betrayal of Yang Jiewei, especially considering that Yang Jiewei has repeatedly aborted in order to comply with the Dink agreement. At first, Yang Jiewei, who loved Alan Tam deeply, acquiesced to Zhu Yongting's existence and did not choose to divorce.
However, things took a turn for the worse at one of Alan Tam's birthday parties. At that banquet, Alan Tam insisted on giving Zhu Yongting's mother and son official titles despite the opposition of others.
This move completely shattered Yang Jiewei's heart and became the fuse for her to give up this marriage. After Alan Tam and Zhu Yongting's relationship was publicly recognized, the two started a new life.
The media once photographed that when they went out together, Zhu Yongting carried a bag worth tens of thousands of dollars, showing Alan Tam's generosity to the new family. However, this new life also brought challenges to Alan Tam's public image and moral controversy.
The price of emotional entanglements
Alan Tam's marital betrayal took a heavy toll on everyone. After suffering such profound injuries, Yang Jiewei chose an unexpected path.
She gave up her worldly life and chose to escape into the void. The media once photographed Yang Jiewei having shaved her hair and living a life away from the hustle and bustle in the temple. What's even more poignant is that she also erected a monument for her unborn children, which is undoubtedly a silent indictment of her past married life.
However, Alan Tam's troubles did not end with a new life with Chu Yongting. At the end of 2021, Alan Tam, who is 69 years old, fell into an amazing "sleeping fan" rumor.
A netizen accused Alan Tam of having an improper relationship with his 25-year-old girlfriend, causing an uproar. Although Alan Tam's team has denied the allegation, the incident still largely damaged his public image.
The impact of these negative presses goes far beyond that. When Alan Tam sang on stage again, despite his good singing skills, the audience focused more on and commented on his private life than on his musical works.
This situation is undoubtedly a huge blow to an artist. In the end, Alan Tam publicly apologized to Yang Jiewei in a radio program. He admits that this complicated relationship has caused his wife to suffer too much and hopes that others will not repeat his mistakes.
Although this public apology came a little late, it also showed that Alan Tam was beginning to reflect on his past behavior.
Reflections and lessons from life
Alan Tam's emotional experience has become a thought-provoking case.
In a public apology on a radio show, he called on others not to repeat his mistakes, reflecting his deep reflection on his past actions. Alan Tam admitted that this complicated relationship made Yang Jiewei suffer too many grievances that should not be bearable.
Yang Jiewei's experience has become a profound lesson. She has paid too much for this relationship, repeatedly endured it, and even gave up her unborn child many times.
However, these sacrifices did not end well. Her story teaches us that even for the people we love the most, we should not blindly give and endure. From this relationship, we can draw an important life lesson: while loving others, we must learn to love ourselves.
Excessive sacrifice and forbearance can lead to a loss of self-worth and ultimately hurt both parties. A healthy love relationship should be based on mutual respect and equal treatment for both parties.
Alan Tam's experience also reminds us that fame, fortune and lust can disorient people and do things that hurt those around them. Therefore, no matter what stage of life you are in, it is extremely important to maintain your original intention and moral bottom line.
Finally, the story also teaches us that everyone is responsible for their own choices. Whether it is Alan Tam's betrayal or Yang Jiewei's forbearance, it has had a far-reaching impact.
When making important decisions, we need to be thoughtful, taking into account all the people that may be affected.