Text: Kapok
"Because I can't get married, I have now become a thorn in my parents' eyes, a thorn in the flesh, my mother said that she doesn't dare to play mahjong with others now, my dad hasn't played chess with others for three years, and my parents haven't attended anyone's wedding banquet and full moon banquet for 5 years, they feel that having an older leftover girl like me at home is the most embarrassing thing, so they can't hold their heads up!" 38-year-old Wang Panpan (pseudonym) said.
Recently, Wang Panpan's parents have made up their minds and said that as long as anyone can marry Wang Panpan, they don't want a bride price, and they can also post a dowry of 600,000 yuan.
Her parents' decision made Wang Panpan both resentful and distressed, and she didn't know why she, who had once made her parents proud, was so ashamed because she couldn't get married.
Next, Wang Panpan told about the process of being left behind.
01, my 26-30 years old, I can't love.
Wang Panpan introduced that she was born in the countryside, is the only daughter of the family, and is also the best child in the village, at the age of 18, she was admitted to a key university with excellent grades, and she fell in love in college.
When he graduated, his boyfriend proposed to get married, Wang Panpan took his boyfriend home, and as soon as his parents heard that his boyfriend was from the countryside and the economic conditions of the family were very poor, they immediately resolutely objected: "We don't agree, you went to such a good university, stay in the city to work in the future, find a city person, have a house and a car, how good, you marry such a person, you can't live in your own house for half your life, and you have to take care of his parents, and you will suffer for the rest of your life." ”
But Wang Panpan didn't listen to her parents' advice at all, and followed her boyfriend to her boyfriend's house to meet her parents, she thought that her boyfriend's parents would be very enthusiastic about her, but the truth was the opposite.
When I was having dinner with my boyfriend's parents, my boyfriend's mother mentioned that there was a boy in their village who graduated from college two years ago and found a girl from the city to marry, the girl was the only daughter in the family, and her parents both worked in a bank.
Finally, the boyfriend's mother also emphasized that the boy was shorter and uglier than her son, and that the school he graduated from was not as good as her son's college.
Wang Panpan's boyfriend's father also took over the conversation and said: "Panpan, you have also seen that the conditions of our family are not very good, mainly because we use all the money for our son to go to college, and there is so much money, he went to college, so we didn't save money for him to get married, and we all counted on him to save money to get married." You either get married a few years later, or it is the current condition, there is no bride price, no wedding room, no wedding car, wedding banquet, you can get a certificate and forget it. ”
Although both parents are opposed, Wang Panpan is still very confident in the relationship between herself and her boyfriend, if she can't get married for the time being, then wait, anyway, the two are not old.
In this way, after graduation, the two rented a house together, looked for a job, ran into walls everywhere, and the most difficult time was when the two ate instant noodles for 7 days in a row.
2 years later, Wang Panpan changed his third job, working as a clerk in a state-owned enterprise, and her boyfriend went to a real estate company as a sales manager.
A month after the breakup, Wang Panpan learned that her boyfriend was engaged to the daughter of the owner of the real estate company he worked for.
At this time, Wang Panpan was 26 years old.
A year after breaking up with her boyfriend, Wang Panpan met Li Tao, Li Tao is from the city, his family has good economic conditions, a house and a car, and he is waiting for a girlfriend to get married.
A year after falling in love, Li Tao took Wang Panpan to meet his parents, but Li Tao's parents were not satisfied with Wang Panpan, when the parents of the two sides met, Li Tao's mother proposed: "We bought the wedding house, and your woman is responsible for decoration and buying furniture and appliances, it is like this in the city, men and women are equal, and ah, the cost of the wedding banquet should also be AA, or we will do it separately, save trouble!" ”
Wang Panpan's father timidly asked: "How much does it cost to decorate and buy furniture and appliances?" ”
Li Tao's mother smiled and said: "We are a house of 1.7 million, and it takes 400,000 yuan for decoration, furniture and household appliances to be worthy of such a price." ”
Wang Panpan's parents didn't have so much savings, but in order to let Wang Panpan marry Li Tao, who had good conditions, they began to borrow money when they returned to their hometown, preparing to decorate the wedding room for Wang Panpan.
At this time, Wang Panpan was 29 years old.
Half a year after breaking up with Li Tao, another colleague who was 7 years older than Wang Panpan pursued her, the two fell in love, very sweet, the two also looked at the house together and booked a new car, but the man just never mentioned marriage, after being together for half a year, Wang Panpan finally found out that the man has a wife and children, but the wife and children are in the field.
Although the man repeatedly emphasized that he would divorce within 3 years and marry Wang Panpan again, Wang Panpan still resolutely broke up with the man.
At this time, Wang Panpan was 30 years old.
02. My 30-35 years old, an expiring commodity.
After the age of 30, Wang Panpan's biggest feeling is that he is like a temporary commodity, and he is about to sell himself, otherwise he will expire and be scrapped.
In the marriage market, Wang Panpan has very little choice, and when he goes on a blind date, he is often humiliated.
At the age of 32, Wang Panpan met a man 4 years older than her on an online platform, and the two decided to meet after 3 months of online dating.
Wang Panpan dressed up carefully and arrived at the date place an hour early, but the man was scruffy and sloppy, and arrived half an hour late.
Seeing Wang Panpan's dress, the man couldn't help laughing: "When a woman is over 30 years old, she looks old, and she can't cover it with makeup!" ”
Wang Panpan was embarrassed and couldn't say a word, and the man asked again: "If you get married, what conditions do you require?" ”
Wang Panpan said embarrassedly: "There must be a house, it doesn't matter if it's big or small......
Wang Panpan wanted to say more, but was interrupted by the man's laughter: "Girl, you are in your 30s, and you still ask for a house?" I don't have a house, if I have a house, I'll marry a 20-year-old, why are you in your 30s! ”
The man finished speaking and left.
When he was 34 years old, a colleague introduced Wang Panpan to a private business owner, who had 3 houses, 2 cars, divorced, and 2 children.
Thinking that the conditions were good, Wang Panpan broke through his bottom line and went to meet the boss of the private company, the boss was very straightforward and said bluntly: "I will talk about my conditions, you think about it, if you can agree, we can get married immediately." ”
The boss of the private company asked Wang Panpan to resign after marriage, and concentrate on taking care of the two babies born to the boss of the private company and his ex-wife at home, one is five years old and the other is three years old, and he has to take care of the boss's two parents who cannot take care of themselves.
Of course, the bride price given by the owner of a private company is 680,000 yuan, and there is a new car of 280,000 yuan.
After thinking about it for half a month, Wang Panpan asked the boss of a private company: "Can I have my own children after marriage?" ”
The owner of the private company replied: "No, I already have a son and a daughter, and I am old, and I don't have the energy to have another child." ”
Wang Panpan suddenly realized that the owner of a private company was not looking for a person he loved to marry, he was just looking for a free nanny who could sleep with him.
Wang Panpan decisively refused.
At this time, Wang Panpan was 35 years old.
03, my 35-38 years old, the shame of my parents.
After the age of 35, Wang Panpan feels like a vegetable that has begun to rot, and if he wants to give it to others for free, he still needs others not to dislike it.
At the age of 37, Wang Panpan went on a blind date with a 42-year-old bachelor, and the old bachelor asked Wang Panpan directly: "If we get married and buy a house, how much down payment can you make?" How much dowry did your parents prepare for you? ”
Wang Panpan couldn't cry or laugh, and fought back: "I have never heard of a man asking a woman to bring a marriage house and a dowry when getting married. ”
The old bachelor also humiliated Wang Panpan unceremoniously and said: "It also depends on the age of this woman, if you are 18 years old, the marriage condition must be that you have the initiative, but now that you are 38 years old, what else can you ask for?" I guess you're almost menopausal, and you can't have children after menopause, right? If a woman can't have children, what's the use of a man marrying her? You have to recognize the reality, there is not much time left for you! Women are different from men, men can still have children at the age of 70! ”
Wang Panpan's humiliated face was red and white, and he didn't know what to say.
04. I am 38 years old, I have to make a choice between getting married or buying a house.
After the age of 38, Wang Panpan made her own choice, she no longer got married on a blind date, fortunately, now that housing prices are falling, her savings from working for more than ten years, plus her current income level, she can make a down payment on a house of her own, and with a house, she can live by herself.
But the parents also made a choice at this time, taking out their life savings of 600,000 yuan as their daughter's dowry, just hoping to marry their daughter out, so that their daughter could have something to rely on for the rest of her life.
As a result, a fierce conflict broke out between Wang Panpan and his parents.
Recently, with the 600,000 bride price promised by his parents, someone finally introduced Wang Panpan to a blind date.
Parents asked Wang Panpan to go back to his hometown for a blind date, and his parents said that the other party was a divorced second-married man with a baby, and he had promised to let Wang Panpan have another child after marriage.
Wang Panpan burst into tears and blacked out his parents.
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