Lost love, for some people, is just a link between the process of this relationship and the next love, but for some people, it is like a corner of the sky. Last night, Xu Qin, the No. 2 male guest in Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Qianhe Zero Added Soy Sauce • New Blind Date Conference", was like this, and after each loss of love, he fell into self-denial.
But in the eyes of others, he is kind and upright, handsome, and self-motivated, and there is no reason not to be confident. But the "self-denial" after the loss of love is like a spell on him, which cannot be escaped. After the show was broadcast, "how to avoid self-denial after falling out of love" resonated with many people, and many "people who came over" offered advice to male guests!
Lost love does not mean failure!
Lost love, for Xu Qin, it feels like every time it is a blow that makes people "doubt life". Each time you lose love, it takes half a year or even a year to get out of the "self-denial" you have set.
Some of the female guests went from not quite understanding, to seemingly being carried into his negative emotions, and thus feeling a little anxious.
Star helper Yi Nengjing believes that it is Xu Qin who puts too much pressure on himself, and whether a person is successful or not, good or bad, cannot be judged by a relationship.
Although Xu Qin said that every breakup is a big growth for himself and will try to make himself better, it is clear that his emotional patterns have affected his process of restarting his new relationship - in the final selection link, he gave up the right to choose female guests, just because he felt that no one was firmly choosing himself. This kind of gain and loss is actually a missed opportunity to love again.
Grandpa Meng said that everyone should have an ability - the ability to provide emotional value to others. The premise of having this ability is that you can overcome the attack of the emotion of lovelorn and not become a slave to negative emotions.
In this regard, the audience commented one after another, "Self-benevolence, self-care, is to accept all emotions, but also to accept themselves and let themselves go." A truly gentle person is not only able to empathize with the suffering of others, but also accepts his own suffering. "I think doing something I like after falling out of love can avoid self-denial!" Some viewers believe that it is the best tenderness for the party proposed after the breakup to take the time to give a ride and not let the other party fall into a state of self-denial!
How much is it just right to pay?
The more you give, the deeper the hurt, which seems to be the "law" of love. Chen Xi, the no. 3 male guest, first paid less in his feelings and hurt others; later changed his thinking and paid completely unconditionally, but was hurt by others.
When Grandpa Meng asked him what his next feelings were, what was his plan in paying this matter, Chen Xi still chose: pay to the end. However, he also made some adjustments to this kind of payment - he will first choose to pay unconditionally, can wait for the other party's response, encounter dissatisfaction, take the initiative to communicate and communicate, keep trying, and find the most suitable communication method for the two to solve the problem. This attitude won the praise of the female guests.
In fact, when everyone encounters someone they really like, they will always give up their true heart without reservation, but they can't grasp that degree. The best feeling is to grasp the corresponding degree. I make you feel like I love you and give you enough security. At the same time, it also makes you cherish my continuous efforts and makes me feel your love and existence.
In the end, Chen Xi held hands with The No. 1 female guest Wang Yue, both of whom have experienced giving and being paid, and believe that they will open a sweet relationship with each other more compassionately.
The sixth season of Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Qianhe Zero Added Soy Sauce • New Blind Date Conference" came to a successful end, thank you for your support and love for the show! We'll see you next season!