The story of Zhu Yuchen's upbringing comes from a typical Shanghai family. In such a family environment, the idea of "patriarchy" is deeply rooted, which also lays a complex foreshadowing for his growth.
As the only boy in the family, from the moment he was born, he became a treasure in his mother's heart, however, this seemingly lucky favor gradually became a shackle that he could not get rid of when he grew up.
Zhu Yuchen's sister Zhu Beibei is a few years older than him. Before her brother was born, Bei Bei was the baby of the family. However, even so, at a young age, she could still feel her mother's expectations for the boy.
Her mother often whispered in her ear: "Daughter, if you were a boy, why are you a girl" Although these words are sad, Bei Bei was still the darling of the family at that time.
However, Zhu Yuchen's birth completely changed the pattern of the family. In order to take care of her son wholeheartedly, Zhu's mother resolutely resigned from her job in the art troupe and chose to stay at home all day to accompany her son.
Since then, the daughter seems to have become the invisible person in the family, all the delicious food and fun, and it is always the younger brother who takes precedence, and Zhu's mother has taken full control of her son's life, including but not limited to daily life, diet and friendship circle.
Zhu Yuchen recalled: "From childhood to adulthood, I couldn't drink two sips of pure water a day. My mother would boil me all kinds of nourishing herbal soups and juices every time, and I couldn't drink purified water if I wanted to.
This extreme care made the young Zhu Yuchen feel suffocated, and he even had the dangerous idea of secretly touching the electric door for a while, hoping to escape his mother's control.
At the same time, Zhu's mother also strictly controls her son's social life, and she does not allow Zhu Yuchen to play with some children who are too naughty and naughty, for fear that they will bully her son or make him hurt.
This overprotection caused Zhu Yuchen to lack true friends since he was a child, and his personality became more and more withdrawn.
Zhu Yuchen's college visit was his first chance to try to break free from his mother's control. In order to avoid his parents, he secretly enrolled in the Central Academy of Drama in Beijing. When she received the admission letter, Zhu's mother cried when she thought that her son was leaving home.
She even thought of renting a house in Beijing to take care of her son, but was forcefully prevented by Zhu Yuchen and other family members.
However, even so, Zhu Ma still tried to continue her control through various means. When sending Zhu Yuchen to report to school, Zhu's mother's behavior made her son feel deeply embarrassed. Not only did she help her son clean the dormitory and make the bed and fold the quilt, but she also wanted to douse boiling water to kill the creeper because she was worried that the small insects on the creeper would bite her son.
Zhu Yuchen had to make up a lie, saying that he would be expelled from school for doing so, so as to stop his mother's absurd behavior.
These extreme actions made Zhu Yuchen gain the title of "Ma Bao Man" among his classmates, and he was ridiculed. However, after leaving his mother, Zhu Yuchen felt unprecedented freedom for the first time.
He began to do a lot of things that he had never thought of before, and even had an enviable relationship.
Zhu Yuchen's upbringing vividly shows that excessive maternal love may stifle the child's normal growth space, and at the same time lay hidden dangers for his future interpersonal relationships and emotional life.
This childhood and youth, full of depression and struggle, has become the key to understanding Zhu Yuchen's later life trajectory.
Zhu Yuchen walked out of the campus with the dream of being an actor and stepped into the film and television industry full of opportunities and challenges. When he first started acting, he, like many rookie actors, participated in many TV series, but none of them had much repercussions.
Although this time of obscurity was difficult, it accumulated valuable experience for his future success.
The turning point of Zhu Yuchen's acting career appeared in the hit drama "Struggle", in which he played a role called "Huazi". There is a great contrast between his previous image and "Huazi", and this feeling of ruffian has won the love of the audience.
Zhu Yuchen's accurate portrayal of this role and his own excellent acting skills left a deep impression on the audience, and his acting career began to get on the right track.
However, just as Zhu Yuchen's career began to take off, his mother's overprotection once again became a stumbling block for him to move forward. Zhu's mother insisted on accompanying Zhu Yuchen into the group to film and take care of her son at all times.
This decision brought a lot of trouble to the crew and also troubled Zhu Yuchen.
Every time Zhu Yuchen needs to shoot some scenes with rival scenes, especially when it comes to action scenes such as "fighting", Zhu's mother will rush up to stop other actors regardless of the occasion, even if she knows that it is just acting.
Zhu's mother's behavior of protecting the calf seriously interfered with the normal filming order, and also made the other cast and crew feel very uncomfortable.
What's even more troublesome is that whenever the director makes some harsh but pertinent suggestions for Zhu Yuchen's performance, Zhu's mother will feel that the director is bullying her son, and even threatens to sue the director.
This excessive desire for protection makes more and more directors shy away from Zhu Yuchen, and a director who has worked with Zhu Yuchen privately sighed: "Zhu Yuchen is an excellent actor, but the presence of his mother makes people feel suffocated."
Zhu Yuchen's acting career reflects the dilemma faced by "Ma Bao Nan" in the workplace. Excessive maternal love not only did not pave the way for him, but became the biggest obstacle to his career development.
In this case, Zhu Yuchen has to face a cruel reality: his excellent acting skills and dedicated attitude are being covered up by his mother's behavior.
Despite facing such a predicament, Zhu Yuchen still did not give up his dream of acting, and still interpreted every role with enthusiasm and all-out spirit, in order to win more opportunities through his own strength.
However, how to find a balance between career development and his mother's expectations has become a major problem he has to face.
In his love life, Zhu Yuchen encountered a lot of troubles because he was labeled as a "mom treasure man". He has experienced three relationships, but each time they are broken by his mother's intervention, which makes him go further and further on the road to happiness.
Zhu Yuchen's first love happened when he was in college, and his girlfriend was his classmate Tang Wei. The meeting between the two was very romantic - when he took the Chinese opera exam in Hangzhou, Zhu Yuchen was attracted to Tang Wei at a glance.
After the exam, he plucked up the courage to ask Tang Wei for his contact information, and through frequent chats, the two soon fell in love.
However, this seemingly beautiful relationship soon cracked. When Zhu Yuchen's mother learned of the news, she insisted on meeting the future daughter-in-law. When Tang Wei came to visit, she was severely interrogated by Zhu Yuchen's mother, and was asked whether she would do housework and whether she would make soup and a series of questions.
Zhu Yuchen's mother is more like choosing a free nanny than a qualified daughter-in-law Faced with this situation, Zhu Yuchen did not stand up to stop it, which eventually caused Tang Wei to be disheartened and chose to break up with Zhu Yuchen peacefully.
Zhu Yuchen and Huo Siyan started their second relationship when the crew was filming "Love Is Perfect If You Are Perfect". Zhu's mother was very satisfied with Huo Siyan's appearance and personality, and even took the initiative to match them.
However, this relationship did not last long, as Huo Siyan gradually understood Zhu Yuchen's "mother's treasure man" nature, she chose to break up without hesitation, and Zhu Yuchen tasted the bitterness of falling out of love again.
Having learned the lessons of the first two times, Zhu Yuchen became more cautious in his third relationship. This time, he and his partner Jiang Yan fell in love with each other during the filming process and had a good impression. In order to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past, Zhu Yuchen chose to fall in love secretly first, and then inform his mother after the relationship was stable.
For this, he was even well prepared.
However, when Kang Yeon meets Mama Zhu for the first time, the situation gets out of control again. Although Jiang Yan was carefully dressed for this meeting, Zhu's mother still felt that her dress was too revealing and not appropriate enough. Under the strong opposition of Zhu's mother, Zhu Yuchen failed to stop it in time.
Zhu's mother's fierce attitude led to the failure of this relationship.
Zhu Yuchen has experienced three times of love, but all three times failed, and each time he fell more deeply into the predicament of "Ma Bao Nan". He once asked bitterly in an interview, "Why doesn't anyone want to stay with me?" This sentence expressed his inner confusion and helplessness.
However, he never seemed to realize that it was his over-reliance on his mother and his failure to draw a clear line in time that was the root cause of the relationship failure.
Zhu Yuchen's emotional experience vividly reveals how excessive maternal love can ruin a person's emotional life. Each failure took its toll on him emotionally and made him less and less confident in his relationships.
This tragic cycle seems impossible to break and has become a true portrayal of many "mom boys", warning people that over-reliance on their mothers can lead to emotional problems.
In 2018, Zhu Yuchen and his mother participated in the variety show "My Boy". This show not only brought important changes to Zhu Yuchen's life, but also made the public deeply aware of the real struggle in the heart of "Ma Bao Nan".
In the show, 44-year-old Zhu Yuchen finally couldn't control his emotions and cried bitterly. He choked up and said, "Why doesn't anyone want to stay with me?" This sentence makes people feel sad. At this moment, Zhu Yuchen took off all his disguises, showing his inner vulnerability and helplessness.
He confessed that his mother's love was too heavy and made him feel suffocated.
This emotional catharsis not only touched the audience, but also made Zhu Ma aware of the seriousness of the problem. In the show, Zhu's mother said that she finally realized the damage caused by excessive maternal love to her son.
She solemnly promised to work hard to change and give her son more freedom and space.
This moment is both a turning point in Zhu Yuchen's personal life and an opportunity for many families in similar situations to reflect, revealing the dangers of excessive maternal love and the possibility of change.
However, it remains to be seen whether a single outburst of emotion and verbal commitment can truly change the patterns of getting along that have been developed over the years. The story of Zhu Yuchen and his mother gives us a vivid lesson about parent-child relationships, and provokes us to think deeply about how to find a balance between love and freedom.
Now 44-year-old Zhu Yuchen is still in the state of "lonely family", which is embarrassing. Although Zhu's mother said in the program "My Boy" that she wanted to change her behavior, the relationship patterns and personality traits formed over the years cannot be changed overnight.
Zhu Yuchen's story vividly shows us the damage that excessive love can bring. Every family needs to find a balance between caring and letting go to ensure the healthy development of their children, which is still a question worth pondering.
For a "mom boy" like Zhu Yuchen, it is undoubtedly a long-term life topic to reinvent himself and establish healthy interpersonal relationships in adulthood. His experience warns us that when choosing a partner, we need to carefully consider the other person's family relationships, especially the pattern of interaction with parents.
Zhu Yuchen's story continues, and we hope that he can truly get rid of the label of "Ma Bao Man" and find his own happiness.