Parents install cameras in their sophomore daughter's bedroom, and parents who are too controlling, are suffocating!

Teacher Zhou talks about education

2024-07-26 15:01Published in Jiangxi

There is a good lyric, "There is a kind of love called letting go", but there are many parents who don't know how to let go, don't want to let go, and want to control everything about their children. They are worried about whether their children will encounter storms and waves when they get involved in the ocean of social interaction; Worry about your child's ability to resist unknown temptations and challenges when he embarks on a journey alone; I am even more worried about every step of my child's participation in social practice, for fear that the innocence will be hurt by the edges and corners of reality.

What's more, even when the child is at home, the silent gaze of the camera in the bedroom weaves a net called "overprotection" for the child, making it difficult for the child to spread his wings and fly high.

It is true that parental care is necessary when children are young, but when children grow up, parents' excessive shackles can only limit the possibility of exploring higher and farther places. Not letting go at this time is not only difficult to achieve children's independence and strength, but may provoke their inner rebellion and alienation.

Recently, a sophomore girl with a dream of freedom, because of her dissatisfaction with family constraints, resolutely embarked on a part-time journey to Beijing. Because of the conflict with her parents, she cut off contact with her family, and reported the case in order to avoid her parents not being able to find her, causing unnecessary trouble, she walked into a police station in Beijing and filed with the police.

Under the questioning of the police, the girl expressed her disgust with her parents' overly controlled education methods, especially when she said that she was a sophomore and that her parents had installed cameras in their bedrooms, making her feel as if she was living in a transparent cage, with every breath and every action being hidden.

In the face of this confused girl, the police listened patiently and enlightened with the gentleness of spring breeze and rain. After some in-depth communication, the girl's parents finally realized that excessive attention and protection may have quietly become a shackle to their child's growth.

They promised to remove the cold camera immediately, and proved their respect and trust for their daughter's growth with their actions. Eventually, in the light of understanding, the rift in family affection is mended, and the girl agrees to embark on the journey home and paint a warm picture of the future with her family.

Once this matter was fermented on the Internet, it quickly became the focus of public opinion, like a boulder thrown into the lake, causing ripples at all levels. Netizens have uncovered the hidden corners of their hearts and poured out similar experiences, revealing an indescribable depression and helplessness between the lines. Someone described: "In that small world that should belong to the free flight, but a pair of 'caring' eyes have quietly grown, so that the soul has nowhere to hide, and the frustration of learning and the deprivation of privacy are intertwined into a web, which is suffocating." ”

In the comment area, the torrent of emotions was surging, and some people complained: "I feel like I am in a transparent fish tank, every breath, every turn, I am exposed to the scrutiny of others, poor learning has become an excuse for self-denial, and the deprivation of mobile phone password is ironclad evidence that privacy has been ruthlessly trampled on." ”

There are even more angry voices, which go straight to the core of the problem: "When will the Chinese-style 'good for you' break free from the shackles of selfishness and understand the dignity and boundaries of children as independent individuals?" Especially when this 'caring' blade stabs at the most private space of girls, its cruelty and absurdity are outrageous! ”

Parents may not have expected that their "good intentions" would become such a heavy burden in their children's hearts. The authority of those "guardians" is used as a shield to ignore the child's feelings, and the sentence "I am all for your good" is like a cold chain, which binds the child's soul in pursuit of freedom and understanding.

The consequences of parents' excessive restraint on their children are far from being as simple and simple as the damage to the parent-child relationship. It is like an invisible pair of scissors, quietly cutting off the wings of a child's personality growth. This heavy control not only stifles children's self-exploration and creativity, but also makes their minds bound in an invisible cage, lacking the courage and strength to fly freely in the vast sky.

Over time, under the excessive protection of their parents, children gradually transformed into "flowers in the greenhouse", although they seem to be delicate, they are actually fragile, and they have lost the tenacity and courage to grow up independently in the wind and rain.

They are like "giant babies" forgotten by time, looking out of place on the stage of life, and the lack of self-care ability and the loss of independent personality make them lose their way in the ocean of interpersonal communication and find it difficult to find their own island.

True love is one that lets go, not grasps. Parents should be the guides, not the stewards, of their children's growth. They should learn to listen, to enter into the child's inner world with equality and respect, and to understand their dreams and confusions. Under the bath of love, guide children to learn to think independently, bravely face challenges, and cultivate that precious self-confidence and sense of responsibility.

Unfortunately, many parents have fallen into the wrong place in the expression of love, and they do not hesitate to invest heavily in various training courses, but ignore the precious time to communicate with their children's hearts. This practice of replacing emotional communication with material accumulation is tantamount to quietly violating the privacy and dignity of children under the guise of love. True love should be the touch and resonance of the heart, and a wonderful journey of mutual growth in respect and understanding.

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