When people reach their fifties, the marriage of their children often becomes a heart disease.
When many people reach the age of 50 and start to worry about their children, why don't they find a partner to marry?
I feel like I haven't completed my life task, as if I'm missing a piece.
In fact, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren.
There are some things that you can't worry about by yourself. The marriage of children may be predestined.
01 Support at home
In reality, it is not the people in the family, urging to introduce two blind dates is to support the marriage of the children.
That's still too small for marriage.
Everyone knows that the prerequisites for marriage are a house, a car, who else to watch the children, pension and other issues.
It's all a very real problem, a problem that requires a lot of money and energy.
These things are all solved by young people themselves, which is simply a fool's dream.
Therefore, the marriage of children is sometimes directly related to how many of these things are in the family.
For example, some families just pay lip service to urging their children to get married. But in fact, there is nothing to provide for the marriage of children.
Or, even if there is a offer, it is very limited, and in the marriage market, it is not possible to attract high-quality partners at all.
This may make the children delay their marriage.
Children sometimes don't say it, just because they don't want to break their parents' hearts.
In reality, most parents hope that their children will finalize their marriage as soon as possible, or marry the opposite sex with good conditions.
But in reality, if there is no adequate support from the family, the children will be very isolated and unable to fight for a good marriage.
This is a very realistic situation.
02 What is the marital status of the people around you?
As people, we are all influenced by the people around us. It's almost, no doubt.
Suppose that the children's families are all families with harmonious marriages and harmonious sounds. It's a good example.
Then the children will naturally yearn for this kind of life and will actively prepare for marriage.
On the contrary, if there are not a few positive examples in a family, it will not be convincing.
For example, the elders in some families have marriages that are all chickens and dogs, and there are few harmonious ones.
Pour bitter water all day long, and all kinds of troubles are frequent. Infidelity, rough treatment of a partner, etc. These things are very worrying.
Then, it is very unconvincing for these people to urge marriage.
Children are not stupid. When they reach the age of talking about marriage, they have long been able to discern.
They are not people who can be fooled with two sentences.
Therefore, if the marriage in the family is not harmonious and the quality is not high, it is very dissuading to discourage the children's marriage and make them not interested.
03 Children's emotional outlook
In reality, parents can urge their children's marriages. But in the end, it is often the children themselves who decide.
If they can't lift their spirits, then no one can persuade them.
For example, children go to school and work outside the home. Over the past few years, the people and things they have experienced will greatly change their views.
It is very unrealistic to use the old ways in the family to discipline them.
Children are influenced more by their peers than by their parents.
As a parent, you have to be transparent.
Marriage, even if you get married, you don't have completed the task.
The quality of the subsequent marriage and whether it is happy or not is the real test.
Instead of rushing in your heart, it's better to be down-to-earth, don't get married in a hurry, and regret it.
Back then, it was harder to deal with, wasn't it?