Some people say that marriage is the biggest bet in a woman's life, and it is true, whether a woman can reap happiness in this life really depends on whether she is blessed or not, and can meet a good man who is willing to hold you in the palm of his hand and protect your life.
However, in real life, some men have successful careers, but their wives have suffered a lot of grievances in their marriage, and they have nothing to gain except tears and pain.
Although some men come from modest families, their wives are equal and respected in their marriage, and they can live happily every day.
Let's talk about the four characteristics of a man's "pampering wife", accounting for one, you are all blessed people.
01
In his spare time, he shares housework with his wife, is responsible for his wife, and is attentive to his family
"Home is a harbor for two people, not a battlefield for one person." This sentence speaks to the true meaning of shared responsibility in marriage.
A man who really spoils his wife will not regard housework as his wife's patent, but will take the initiative to pick up a broom or go into the kitchen in his spare time to share the hard work for his wife.
remembers that in the drama "Parents' Love", Jiang Defu and An Jie's married life is enviable. Although Jiang Defu is a big boss, he treats his family extremely carefully.
Every day when he comes home from work, he will help take care of the children, and when his wife is sick, he takes care of all the housework, so that his wife can recuperate with peace of mind. This kind of silent care is the most affectionate confession to his wife.
As the France writer Montaigne said: "True love is single-minded, and the field of love is very narrow, so narrow that it can only accommodate two people; If you fall in love with several people at the same time, it can't be called love, it's just an emotional game. ”
Therefore, in housework, a man's willingness to fight side by side with his wife is a manifestation of his single-mindedness and responsibility for this love.
02
Trust your wife, respect your wife, and be willing to let her manage her finances
"Trust is the cornerstone of marriage, and respect is the lubricant of love." A man who dotes on his wife knows the importance of these two points.
He will trust his wife unconditionally, respect her decisions, and even be willing to put the financial power of the family into her hands, which is a great trust and recognition of his wife.
Just like in a TV series I watched, the male protagonist is a rich big boss, he has special trust in his wife, usually, he is not only completely transparent to his wife financially, but also encourages his wife to learn financial management and make her the financial director of the family.
This kind of trust and support also made his wife feel full of happiness and security.
United States writer Stephen · Covey mentioned in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People": "First seek to understand the other person, and then strive to be understood by the other person." ”
In marriage, this way of understanding first and then communicating is the key to building trust and respect. When a man is willing to listen to his wife's ideas and respect her choices, he will naturally win her trust and dependence.
03
Actively reconcile the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, do not pull the bias, and do not let the wife be wronged
"The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for the ages, but love can resolve everything." A man who favors his wife, in the face of the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, will not choose to escape or take sides, but will actively reconcile the contradiction and protect his wife from grievances.
My friend Xiao Li's husband is such a wise man. Whenever there is a small friction between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he always stands up as soon as possible and uses humor and patience to resolve the misunderstanding between the two parties.
Xiao Li said that her husband never listened to and believed in the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but analyzed the problem fairly and looked for a solution acceptable to both parties.
Now, with his efforts, the relationship between Xiao Li and her mother-in-law has become more and more harmonious, and the family lives happily together.
"Home and everything is prosperous." This old saying speaks to the importance of family harmony. The key to family harmony is to have a responsible and wise man to maintain this balance.
04
Never bother, loyal to feelings
"Loyalty is the most beautiful language of love." A man who dotes on his wife is absolutely loyal to his feelings. Because he knows that love needs to be managed and maintained by both husband and wife, and loyalty is the most valuable asset in this relationship.
In the colorful and tempting world of the entertainment industry, the marriage story of actor Tong Dawei and his wife Guan Yue is like a clear stream, proving that true love can transcend all distractions and remain pure and long-lasting.
Since the two of them entered the palace of marriage hand in hand, Tong Dawei has never had any scandals, and his relationship with Guan Yue has always been consistent, sweet and happy, and has also become a recognized model couple in the entertainment industry.
In today's society, temptation is everywhere. But a man who really spoils his wife will always remind himself to stay sober and self-disciplined, and not to be moved by the outside world. He understands that only by cherishing the people in front of him can he have true happiness.
05
In the unpredictable world of feelings, it is a great luck to meet a man who is willing to spoil you as his life. Maybe he is not usually good at words, but his actions are more real and warm than any sweet words.
If you have any of the above four characteristics, or even all, of them, then please cherish this hard-won happiness!
Because in this world, it is really rare to meet someone who loves you, respects you, and trusts you so much.
I've seen a sentence like this:
The reason why marriage will become the grave of love is mostly because the husband and wife do not know how to manage and cannot be considerate. When the little love between each other is consumed little by little, all that remains is quarrels and cold wars.
Therefore, men must understand that love is not just a matter of moving the lips, it is a natural outpouring of our hearts. Promises and sweet words are indeed an expression of love, but only by putting these vows into practice can a woman see that you love her with a true heart.
In short, if a man has the above four characteristics, then he is definitely a man who "spoils his wife", and a woman marrying him is absolutely wrong.