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In old age, after going through wind and rain, people should be more transparent and wise, and enjoy a quiet and peaceful time. However, there are some "stupid things" that can easily make people fall into unnecessary troubles and troubles.
Entangled in the past, self-internal friction. Looking back, who hasn't had some regrets and mistakes? Some people miss an opportunity for promotion when they are young, some hurt their relatives and friends by saying the wrong thing on the spur of the moment, and some people leave some regret in their children's education. However, time cannot be turned back, blindly immersed in the haze of the past, repeatedly chewing on those pains and regrets, it is like falling into a bottomless black hole, constantly consuming one's energy and mental strength. It's like climbing a mountain with a heavy stone on your back, the more you go up, the more difficult it becomes, and eventually you will be exhausted. The past is gone, and no amount of regret can change it. It is better to let go freely, let the soul be liberated, travel lightly, and meet the beauty of the moment.
Live with married children and become a free babysitter. Many elderly people choose to live with married children out of love for their children, and willingly take on all the housework and take care of their grandchildren, busy from morning to night, but neglect their own lives. However, such efforts may not necessarily lead to the desired results. The differences in living habits and concepts between the two generations can easily lead to contradictions and conflicts. Children may feel constrained, elderly people may feel ununderstood, and both feel depressed and exhausted. It's like two hedgehogs getting too close together, but they will stab each other. The elderly should give their children space to grow up independently, and they can also have a sense of tranquility and freedom.
Stick to your self-containedness and stop learning and personal growth. The wheels of the times are rolling forward, and new knowledge and new technologies are emerging one after another. Some old people think that they are too old to learn and refuse to accept new things. As everyone knows, this will disconnect you from society and make your life monotonous. Learning is not the preserve of young people, but older people can also enrich their inner world through learning. You can learn to use a smartphone and make video calls with distant relatives and friends; You can learn a new language and feel the charm of different cultures; You can also learn photography and record the beautiful moments of life with your lens. Maintaining a passion for learning is like injecting fresh blood into life and making life full of vitality in later life.
Excessive savings, I don't know what enjoyment is. I have worked hard for most of my life and accumulated some savings, but I am reluctant to spend them. You have to hesitate to buy a new dress, you feel like it's a waste of money when you go out to travel, and you don't go to the hospital even when you're sick to save money. This kind of life seems to be frugal, but in fact it treats oneself badly. Life is too short to enjoy when you should enjoy it. Savoring a delicious meal once in a while, going for a walk around the desired place, and buying yourself something you like can bring great satisfaction and happiness. Money is for people, not human shackles.
Interfering in children's lives and worrying blindly. Children grow up and have their own ideas and choices. But some old people are always relieved and have to meddle in everything. From the choice of work to love and marriage, you have to do it according to your own wishes. The result is often resentment by children and tension between parents and children. Everyone has their own path in life, and children need to grow up through setbacks. The elderly should let go appropriately and trust that their children are capable of handling their own lives. Let them fly freely, and silently bless themselves on the side, this is the best care.
In old age, people should live a sober and comfortable life. Abandon these "silly things", cherish the present, care for yourself, keep an appropriate distance from your children, keep pace with the times, and enjoy the fun of life. Let the later life be like a gorgeous picture, colorful, full of warmth and happiness.
Author: Lao Pang
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