In the journey of love, we always long to meet the harbor where the soul can dwell, but sometimes, walking with some people is like embarking on an endless exhausting journey, which is too hard.
There is such a partner, their love seems to be warm and deep, but in fact it is like a lighthouse in the fog, although the light is bright, it makes people feel confused and aggrieved when they get closer. They are not good at introspection, and they are not good at listening to your inner voice. Even if it is obviously wrong, you can weave a series of reasons and wrap yourself tightly, as if the victim is always them, and you become the impersonal character.
After the quarrel, they seem to have the superpower of instant forgetting, and after a good night's sleep, everything is as usual, leaving only you, licking your wounds alone in the dead of night, tears and grievances intertwined into a river. The outside world, on the other hand, is often confused by their appearance, thinking that you are the one who is unreasonable and does not know how to cherish it. Such a contrast makes people feel chilled, as if the whole world is against you.
He is good at building characters, he is a warm man praised by everyone outside, and when he is side by side with you, he is a model couple in the eyes of everyone. But behind closed doors, that gentleness and thoughtfulness vanished, replaced by indifference and disdain. Every little flaw of yours is infinitely magnified in his eyes and becomes a reason for him to dislike you. He forgets that it is these shortcomings that he thinks are your unique charm in the eyes of others.
He always likes to define you by "you are like this", but he never admits that he has never really tried to understand and accept you. Your dreams, your efforts, your vulnerability, with him, don't seem to be worth mentioning. He is accustomed to being absent when you need it, silent when you crave comfort, and drifting you away from disappointment and loneliness.
What's even more terrifying is that he never thinks anything wrong with his actions, but instead blames everything on your sensitivity and suspicion. He didn't understand why you were suddenly silent, why you were resentful, and he didn't understand what kind of struggle and despair you experienced when you decided to let go. What he thought was "turning the page" was just the self-protection you finally learned after countless chills.
In this relationship, you seem to have become the character who is always catching up and giving. Every time you compromise, in exchange for not his cherishment, but more unscrupulous neglect. You begin to wonder if you are really as good as he says you are. But remember, you deserve to be treated gently by the world, and your worth never needs to be defined by anyone.
True love should be a journey of mutual understanding, support and growth. It is not the endless efforts and sacrifices of one side in exchange for the indifference and disregard of the other side. If you are in such a relationship, be brave enough to speak up about your feelings and learn to protect yourself because you deserve better.
Love is not the whole of life, and it should not be the source of your pain. When you find yourself getting tired and losing yourself in the relationship, you might as well stop and re-examine the relationship. Sometimes, letting go is also a kind of liberation, a kind of redemption for yourself.
In the days to come, may you meet someone who is willing to listen to you, understand you, and cherish you. He will give you a hug when you are sad, share with you when you are happy, go through the ups and downs of life with you, and write a happy chapter for you together. Until then, love yourself well, because you deserve all the good things in the world.