Can anyone take care of the harassment of summer workers?
Recently, a student reader complained to us in the background: many students in the class did part-time jobs in the summer, and they were sexually harassed before they could earn the money.
When I entered the factory to work, I encountered a worker's hands and feet.
Entering the store to shake milk tea, surrounded by the manager's yellow cavity.
No one thought that the first lesson they learned when they entered society was how to protect themselves from harassment.
So today, let's talk about it:
Why did a place with a summer job become a hunting ground for hooligans?
"If a girl goes out to work for a short time, she will either say that she is married and has a baby, or that her boyfriend is a police officer."
"Your face must stink, so that others think that you don't look good to mess with."
This is the advice that many summer workers who have already joined the company give to their future generations.
Behind a reliable empirical statement, there is often an outrageous reality experience.
Don't believe it, harassment starts from the moment you look for a job.
The company asks about the relationship before the interview to assess the risks.
Recruiting summer workers to ask people if they have a partner is to facilitate their own singles.
This kind of thing is not the most offensive, some people come up and talk about support, and they don't have the financial resources to pretend to be hard.
Even if you haven't joined the company yet, you will be lucky, and you will only reach the most exciting stage of opening the blind box after you actually go to work.
The seniors who seem to be steady and kind, in private, may be a greasy uncle, taking advantage of language, and devoting themselves to carrying out the nausea to the end without dead ends in 306 degrees.
When I was in school, I was confessed: It's really because of charm.
After working part-time, he was confessed: I can't be guilty of this.
They grasp the students' psychology that it is not easy to defend themselves against their colleagues and bosses, thinking that if they call a few words of treasure and say that they have something to discuss with you, the young girl can be fooled immediately.
If they don't get a response, they will also break their defenses in an instant and blame others for the fault.
In places like electronics factories and machinery factories, where the ratio of men and women is unbalanced, there are many single men, and after their jobs are stable, their biggest task is to find a wife.
As a result, summer jobs that have just entered the society have become their first choice for choosing a mate.
Their tactic is to recognize a girl when they see it, and replace it with another one when they are rejected.
On the first day someone entered the factory, he was sent a small composition confession within a few minutes of adding the WeChat of a male colleague.
It is said that sincerity is nirvana, but this trick really can't be used in a relationship that has just met for three hours.
Some big brothers are teenagers until they die, and they continue the courtship drama during the killing of Matt until 2024.
They thought they were using a romantic approach, imagining that a bold courtship could coax an ignorant girl into a lull.
But I don't know that I have exposed the shortcomings of no culture.
Don't beat all the men who want to get rid of the single.
Pursuing love is everyone's right, but if you talk about sexual experiences in a few words, then you have an unhealthy purpose.
The revised draft of the Law on the Protection of Rights and Interests of Women clearly states that verbal expressions with sexual connotations and sexual innuendo have reached the level of sexual harassment.
The pursuit of a single man is not the most terrible existence, and the opening of a married man is outrageous, and her mother opens the door outrageously.
An experienced summer worker said: Setting yourself a married and childbearing personality cannot 100% eliminate harassment.
Some men know that you have a family, and he is even more excited.
I can do both work and bed, and I can't wait to drag people directly into the rental house.
Once you explicitly refuse, within a few days, the yellow rumors surrounding you began to run rampant in the factory.
One might think: there is no perfect victim, flies don't bite seamless eggs.
It's really not, some men seem to have peach blossom madness, thinking that if you blink an eye, you will discharge him.
once passed by in a hurry, he could make up a "Beautiful Colleague Falls in Love with Me" by his brain.
I thought about it for a week.
Even if you don't give him a chance to talk, they will create opportunities themselves.
First of all, "tempting" you by opening up sexual topics, your refusal to refuse, in their eyes, is equivalent to consent.
I have a younger student majoring in food quality and safety, and the school organizes a factory to study.
Her immediate boss brainwashed her every day, and the conversation was all about "It's useless for you to go to college, you might as well marry me." "I have a high salary as a factory leader, and whoever follows me will enjoy happiness."
Young people like to talk about poor words.
Therefore, many older bachelors want to have a relationship with a young girl, and the unified rhetoric is "I will spend all my money for you".
When they were rejected, they changed their minds and inadvertently revealed their wealth, thinking that the girls had changed their minds because of money.
The school girl told me that even if the other party is really generous, young girls should be vigilant.
Many men who have been single for a long time will spend money on sex.
In the eyes of this group of people, spending money is just to solve needs, but to package one's purpose in front of female colleagues.
"They treat girls' feelings as trophies and show off their achievements to each other."
For these empty men who are not popular in the marriage market.
Getting the affection of young girls makes them more confident, even though they are confident themselves.
Summer jobs are not only the hardest hit by harassment.
It is also a blank space for rights protection.
Because it is a short-term job, some people feel that these girls do not need to have deep friendships except for harassment.
At the boss level, no one wants to lose a regular employee because of your report, and the biggest punishment is nothing more than transfer from the post.
Even so, many summer workers who are harassed will have the idea that they are "already considered a blessing in misfortune", because they can at least get out as soon as possible.
Many people don't fight back against harassment because offending a group requires weighing the pros and cons.
It is not easy to find another job, and it is even more difficult to face the pressure of public opinion.
And once you resist, it's easy to fall into the group's judgment system.
"I'm just expressing my affection for you, you're too sensitive, aren't you?"
"He just won't chase girls, he's too anxious to use the wrong method."
Chizuruko Ueno once said of sexual harassment, "Sometimes it is the negligence of the perpetrator who is punished."
The perpetrators are unaware that what they see as "this little thing" has caused serious harm to the victim.
Even when they realized the other party's disgust and received a clear refusal, they still chose to ignore it.
The polite and polite refusal of others became the reason for them to continue harassing.
It also happens in life to express a good impression of others, and after being rejected, it also happens in life.
In the workplace, the other party uses power to retaliate;
In life, the other party threatens with the information they have.
This has led us into a cycle where harassment happens all the time, but we can't protect ourselves more effectively.
In order to avoid greater harm, we can only tolerate the petty evils of others.
Not only women, but also many men are experiencing the same thing.
Sexual harassment is not gendered and can be a victim of any gender.
When the pursuit has been against the will of the other person, then the harassment is a fact.
It is not irrepressible love, but soft violence that causes harm to others.
Interestingly, in the process of looking for materials, I found that all the posts about the harassment of summer workers were basically dissuading them to quit.
"It's better for everyone not to go out to work in the summer, it's really messy."
"Don't just give a casual flirt to a stranger, or the other person will mistakenly think that you can joke."
I know that most people have good intentions to avoid harm.
But if this goes on for a long time, how should we deal with it when we are struggling and there is no way to avoid it.
We must be clear that the focus of criticism should always be on the perpetrator, not the victim.
Even if it's their unconscious behavior.
We must know that the difference between pursuit and harassment is the purpose of the behavior and the feelings of the other person.
It's not about age or gender.
Rather than admonishing one party on how to protect themselves, it is better to discipline the other party not to harm others.
"My politeness is not a reason for you to harass me."