Recently, the short documentary "The Daily Life of an 83-Year-Old Nuclear Bomb Scientist and a 53-Year-Old Mentally Disabled Daughter" released by the "Journey" column of Phoenix.com has attracted widespread attention.
This short film reveals the deep helplessness and cruelty of an 83-year-old nuclear martial artist in his later life.
Through the lens, we see the difficult struggle of the great figure Wei Shijie in the face of family difficulties, and feel the unknown pain of a father behind his life's achievements.
01 Wei Shijie's dilemma
Wei Shijie, this name shines brightly in the history of China's nuclear weapons development. He participated in the development of China's first atomic bomb and hydrogen bomb, and also presided over a number of important scientific research projects, with remarkable achievements.
But despite his numerous accolades in the field of technology, his family life stands in stark contrast to these glories.
Wei Lao's family was once enviable, but the reality made him show deep helplessness behind this glamour in his later years.
In 1970, Wei Shijie married Chen Weiying and had a son and a daughter.
Wei Gang was mentally retarded, and his daughter Haiyan was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. To add insult to injury, his wife Chen Weiying also went insane in her later years due to years of hard work and mental pressure.
In the documentary, we see that Wei Lao almost devoted his whole life to taking care of these two special children.
Haiyan's other personality, the "old god", often influenced her behavior, and even attempted suicide: she committed suicide twice, once by jumping into the sea, and once swallowed 100 sleeping pills.
At first, Wei Gang only suffered from intellectual problems and was able to take care of himself in basic life, but later because of the large amount of food, he loved to drink drinks, and suffered from diabetes, so he was not cared for by anyone.
Wei Shijie not only has to face his own physical age, but also has to endure the physical and mental burden of taking care of two adult children who are mentally and intellectually worried.
02 Wei Shijie's love and helplessness
There is a scene in the documentary that is shocking: Wei Lao asks his son Wei Gang who will take care of him after he dies.
Wei Gang's answer is poignant: I have to find a way to find food by myself when I am gone.
There is an old Chinese saying: if a parent loves his son, he has far-reaching plans.
As a father, Wei Shijie has tried his best to make arrangements for the future of his children: appointing a guardian, buying medical and pension insurance, and leaving a property in his name.
In order to let his children have a relatively stable life after his death, Wei Lao arranged material security. This deep fatherly love seems so insignificant in the face of helpless children.
Although he made the most comprehensive arrangements for his children's future, in real life, the special needs of the children and his own sense of powerlessness made these arrangements seem inadequate.
Wei Shijie's father's love is like the sea, but in the face of life's difficulties, his efforts seem to pale and powerless. All the efforts and arrangements he made could not really eliminate the worries and uneasiness in his heart.
Wei Shijie not only has to face the aging of his body in his old age, but also has to endure the pain of watching his child live like a baby.
03 The reversal of caring and being cared for
In the niche movie "Mom", the 85-year-old mother suddenly started exercising, splitting legs, splitting forks, and even fighting with strong men, and the reason behind this is tearful.
The 65-year-old daughter took her old mother to the hospital for a physical examination, and it turned out that her mother had a common geriatric hypochondriasis, while she was found to have Alzheimer's disease.
In order not to drag down her mother, she could only send her to a nursing home. When she went to go through the formalities, her mother sat alone on a chair in the nursing home, constantly looking around, for fear that her daughter would leave her behind.
But the daughter disregarded her mother's wishes and forcibly abandoned her mother in a nursing home, but she tried every possible way to get out of the nursing home, she was like an abandoned child, and the daughter had no choice but to tell her the fact that she was sick.
The moment the mother learned the truth, she fell into deep self-blame, and all the powerlessness came to her heart. My mother said, "I wish I had this disease, and my brain doesn't need to remember so much." ”
From that day on, the mother once again took on the responsibility of taking care of her daughter, and her illness became more and more serious. Sometimes I can't tell the difference between soy sauce and vinegar, and I feel at ease when I sleep because I'm afraid of holding a screwdriver.
The mother was afraid that her daughter would hurt herself, so she carefully took the screwdriver from her hand, but unexpectedly woke up her daughter, she shouted at her mother and asked, "Who are you?" Apparently, her condition was so serious that she had forgotten what her mother looked like.
The mother began to work hard to exercise and live as long as possible to take care of her sick daughter. In order to open the door for her daughter, she would not hesitate to smash the glass, her elderly body, and climb over the windowsill full of glass shards.
When her daughter is accused of being a thief in the supermarket, her mother will rush forward and do not hesitate to protect her daughter with a strong man. It's like in the movie: every mother is a she-wolf, and it's in her nature to protect her cubs.
Even though my mother had a high fever, she refused to fall asleep. Because her daughter is no longer able to get dressed, her mother has to help her dress carefully, and when she notices that her daughter is running barefoot, she will drag her seriously ill body out of bed to put on her shoes and socks.
In the face of illness and aging, the mother becomes the mother she used to be, and the daughter becomes the daughter of her childhood, and they work hard to live and fight forgetting with love together.
Write at the end
The story of Wei Shijie and his 85-year-old mother teaches us that love is a great strength, but its limits and fragility are also evident when faced with the dilemma of reality.
Wei Shijie's family predicament is not just an individual tragedy, it reflects a broader social problem: how can the parents of the sick children continue to live when they are old?
What's even more cruel is that many ordinary families have already reached the point where their wealth is scattered when they treat their sick children, let alone provide protection for their children's material life in the future.
As Tolstoy said, "The family is the cell of society." "When every cell of the family is facing challenges, we should help these families tide over the difficulties with more love and responsibility, so that every family member can find peace and hope in love and support.
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