As the saying goes, "people rely on clothes", and what kind of clothes you wear will leave a lasting impression. To put it another way, if people are wearing the same clothes, it is difficult to see the difference between people.
However, this is not entirely true, because although the children in the school wear the same uniform, there are still some differences.
Homeroom Teacher: Even if you wear the same school uniform, you can see the difference in family background at a glance
A friend of mine is a homeroom teacher in an elementary school, and in my spare time, I accidentally mentioned that the children wear school uniforms: "The students are wearing school uniforms, can you recognize who is who?" "Of course, I knew he would recognize him, and I said that just as a joke.
"Not only can I recognize them, but I can also tell their family background," my friend said with a smile.
I have no doubt that the class teacher can recognize each student, but from a bunch of children wearing the same school uniform, I can see the children's family background, I am a little unconvinced: "You know how to look at it?" I continued to tease.
"It's not a joke, you think the children are all wearing the same uniforms, but in my opinion, there are a lot of differences, and from these different details, you can judge what the children's family background is."
My friend was talking in a good way, and he didn't look like he was joking with me.
Subsequently, he also pointed out to me 3 of the most classic details:
The first: physiognomic features
"The children are wearing the same uniforms, but they look different," my friend said.
"That's for sure," I glanced at my friend.
"I'm not just talking about appearance, I'm talking about some physical details."
Children from good families have a relatively better living environment, and parents have stronger economic strength, time and energy for personal health maintenance, so often children from good families have better skin characteristics, such as relatively fairer skin and finer skin, which are caused by high-quality living conditions.
And those children from average families, not only are their economic conditions more average, they have no time to invest too much time, energy and money in personal maintenance, and their attention to personal maintenance will be weaker.
Of course, this is not to say that the average family is not able to eat, but it is just that they will focus on other places instead of personal maintenance.
Therefore, children with a good family background tend to have better skin and other appearance characteristics, while children with an average family background tend to be relatively mediocre and may be very clean, but it can be seen at a glance that they usually do not pay attention to maintenance.
The second: personal items
"Although the children wear the same uniforms at school, you must know that the children also have stationery, personal items and other items, and you can also see the quality of the children's family from these aspects." As a class teacher, the observation is indeed delicate.
In addition to school uniforms, children wear shoes, and if they are short-sighted, then there are glasses, and some girls will also bring some hairpins and other accessories.
In addition, when children are learning, the stationery used is also different, children with good family backgrounds generally use more expensive big-name stationery, or even customized stationery, while children with average family backgrounds often use ordinary stationery.
And these things can intuitively reflect the child's family background, after all, as long as the economic conditions can keep up, parents will naturally let their children use the best stationery.
So, if you find a child wearing expensive shoes and using unusual stationery, then his family is generally not bad.
And those children who are very ordinary, whether it is stationery or clothing, often have a relatively ordinary family background.
The third: personality habits
"The quality of the family background also has a key impact on the child's personality habits, so the child's personality habits can also directly reflect the family situation."
My friend seemed to be confident, and I didn't have any intention of retorting, after all, he had a point.
After the child is born, it will be affected by the living environment, living in a certain living environment for a long time, being exposed to certain objects for a long time, and adopting a certain behavior mode for a long time, etc., will make the child form a unique character habit of his own.
For example, there is a classmate Xiao Ming in the child's class, his family background is very good, and his performance can obviously see the difference from ordinary people, he is more geographical, calm, and atmospheric.
Because his parents are like this, and there is no lack of material conditions in the family, such an environment has created his character and some daily habits.
However, Xiaobin, another child in the class, is different, at best he is clever, at worst he is naughty, but sometimes he is inferior and cowardly, which is actually related to his family background.
His family background is not good, his parents have no time to accompany him when they go out to work, and the family's economic conditions are also very limited.
Chatting with my friends, I began to ponder, "Do you say that a child's family background will affect his future achievements?" ”
The implication of my words is actually "If the family background is not good, it will be difficult for the child to have a future in the future." ”
As a teacher, my friend naturally understood what I meant, and I originally thought that he would feel the impact of my child's poor family background on the road of growth like me, but he told me: "There must be an impact, but the family background is not necessarily proportional to the child's achievement." ”
In other words, children from good families may not develop better and better, and children with average family backgrounds may not be successful.
The key to a child's future achievement depends on the education of parents
The better the family background, the more life resources and learning resources can be brought to the children, so many people think that children with good family backgrounds will have a good life, and children with a bad family background will have no interest. But in fact, the development of children is more directly related to the education of parents.
1) Whether parents understand the characteristics of their children's development at different stages
As a qualified parent, at least we must know the characteristics of the child's development at different stages, because only by knowing the child's developmental characteristics can we be able to raise and educate the child correctly.
For example, it is not recommended to give water to your child in the first few months of life, and if you give your child water frequently, it may lead to water poisoning. Whether it is a family with a good family background or a family with a bad family background, if parents feed the newborn with water, it may lead to neonatal water poisoning.
For example, when the child reaches 7~10 months, he should learn to crawl, but some parents mistakenly think that crawling is just an unnecessary process before the child learns to walk.
Therefore, some parents do not guide their children to crawl exercises, and some parents directly buy their children walkers so that their children can start to learn to walk, etc. If parents do this, then the child will face a lot of problems that may be irreparable later on.
For example, sensory integration disorder due to not being able to crawl, abnormal leg development due to early use of a walker, and so on.
Therefore, regardless of the family's background or bad, if you want to raise a child well, you need to know the child's developmental characteristics and seize these periods.
2) Whether parents can have the right educational philosophy
It is very important for parents to have the right educational philosophy. For example, in the old era, "stick education" was mostly implemented, as the saying goes, "filial piety comes out under the stick".
However, with the development of the times, people have gradually found that the disadvantages of this educational concept are very great, and it may seriously affect the healthy growth of children.
Therefore, many people now gradually like to "encourage education" to promote the healthy growth of children in a positive way and maintain their physical and mental health.
Therefore, regardless of the family's background, the parent's educational philosophy is the key to determining whether the child can become excellent.
and 3) whether parents are able to implement the right educational methods
When parents educate their children, they also need to make the right educational means.
Some parents, although they have the right educational philosophy, do not know how to implement it, and sometimes the child may be negatively affected after using the wrong educational methods that are not acceptable to the child.
For example, parents originally intended to educate their children to be thrifty, but they used the wrong educational methods to "cry poor", which led to the children being too stingy and unable to achieve a real thrifty state, but produced the wrong thinking of "as long as you don't spend money".
Another example is that parents originally intended to educate their children to "anti-bullying" and not to be bullied, but as a result, after receiving the education of their parents, the children became "bullies" and so on.
In fact, these are all caused by the improper education methods of parents.
If you want to implement the correct educational methods, the most important thing for parents to do is to examine the acceptability of educational methods from the perspective of their children, and feel for themselves whether they will think and develop in the direction they expect after receiving their own educational methods.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to the acceptability and effect direction of their own educational methods.
epilogue
When many children have poor academic performance, they will feel that it is caused by "family background", and even some parents have the same idea, feeling that their children's "unproductive" is caused by their inability to give their children a good family background.
But in fact, these ideas are wrong, whether a child will be successful in the future depends on what education he has received, whether his parents have brought him the correct three views, full support and respect, and so on.
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