Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
When some love blooms, it is like a mirage, which makes people marvel and make people feel beautiful.
However, it could not stand the test of time, and suddenly, it disappeared again.
When love fades, a woman's heart will wither quickly like a plant.
Once, I promised to love each other for the rest of my life, but later I became strangers who didn't want to see each other again.
Men, you know what, when a woman despairs and no longer loves you for the performance, there will be a behavior: it doesn't matter.
02. If you are deeply hurt, you will have enough despair in your heart
I have a neighbor who lives with a couple who recently divorced.
The woman belonged to the distant marriage, and when she married him, all the people around her were against it. She is the only one who firmly believes that as long as she is with him, she can overcome all the trials.
But after getting married, the man took her to live with her parents, and she couldn't do anything in the family.
She does as much housework as possible, takes care of the children, and compromises his parents everywhere, but there will still be endless conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The man was at home, didn't do housework, and didn't protect her, and she gradually became sad.
In desperation, she took her children and chose to divorce him. I didn't ask for anything, so I packed up a few sets of clothes and left the home that left her in vain.
Yishu said: "People's hearts are getting colder day by day, the leaves are turning yellow day by day, the story is slowly written to the end, and love becomes unlove because of too many disappointments." ”
Despair never comes naturally.
It is transformed from a pile of things, a piece of trivial things that are ignored, a thing that is promised but not fulfilled, and a disappointment.
If there are more disappointments, more neglect, and more times of disrespect, a woman's heart will be broken.
There is more despair accumulated in the heart, and a woman's belief in love will also be shaken. After a long time, she will lose the courage to love and will retract her true heart.
03. It doesn't matter about the development of feelings
When love is passionate, no matter how far the future is, no matter how slim happiness is, women dare to run to the man and walk hand in hand with him.
For her, with him is the future.
As for how much hardship she will have to endure in the future, and what kind of life will be difficult, she doesn't care.
At that time, she only had him in her heart, and her world was filled with him. She will continue to look forward to what kind of life she will live with him.
When a woman is desperate and doesn't love, her feelings between two people become indifferent.
When the two people were together, there was a conflict, and she no longer explained, nor did she deal with the feelings between the two people. Even if the two people face separation, she doesn't care.
The man misunderstood her, and she was no longer willing to make efforts for the sake of her feelings and make compromises.
She doesn't love him anymore, where the two of them will go, how many misunderstandings have arisen, and whether they can still accompany each other, she feels that it doesn't matter.
If you don't love it, you will have an indifferent attitude towards the development of your feelings. I don't love it, so I let it go and don't cherish it.
04, everything a man has, she doesn't care
In "Ink Rain and Clouds", Xue Fangfei originally loved Shen Yurong very much, and she was desperate to marry him.
After marrying him, his family was very poor, and she sold all her valuable things just to support him in gaining fame.
However, when he really became famous, he ruined her reputation and framed her.
She didn't die, and by chance, she returned to Jiang's Mansion as "Jiang Li".
After that, she met Shen Yurong, but she didn't care about everything about him. The burning heart that once loved him has died completely.
Zhang Ailing said: "The real disappointment is not scolding, not crying, not losing your temper at you, but being silent, what you do I feel has nothing to do with me anymore." ”
The woman is desperate, and everything a man has, she will no longer be in her eyes. In her mind, he had become everything that didn't matter to her.
No matter whether the man is doing well or not, whether he eats on time, whether he has taken a detour, or is injured, she will never be moved by him again.
She doesn't care about him anymore, she doesn't love him anymore, she doesn't spend a little bit of energy on him anymore.
If she doesn't love him anymore, she won't care about everything about him anymore, and she won't remember it in her heart anymore.
05. Summary
Love is like a garden, if two people don't take care of it after being together, it will be overgrown.
If a man does not care about maintaining his relationship and no longer takes into account his wife's feelings, she will gradually become disappointed in the relationship and lose hope for the relationship. Eventually, she will choose to leave out of despair.
If you want a woman to love you more and follow you with all her heart, you must learn to love her and learn to manage the relationship between you.
A woman can feel the love and feel your care, she will walk with you through thick and thin, and walk with you to a farther future.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.