Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Love is like a flame. When you are in love, its firelight illuminates your whole world and warms your whole heart.
You think that as long as you take good care of yourself, it will continue to radiate light and warmth.
Love, it can deteriorate, and it is also unpredictable.
In the dull years, men walked and walked, and they lost their original intentions. once said that you would love each other for a lifetime, but in the end it became that you walked alone.
Man, who has long since lost his love for you, has given up the appearance of marriage, one behavior: it is not his business, hang high.
02. He turned a blind eye to trivial matters at home
In "Hong Kong Love Story", there is a scene that I still remember vividly.
In the play, there is a husband and wife, and the man works hard outside and supports the family for many years. The woman became a full-time wife for the sake of her children.
Men always look down on their wives in every way, are used to being angry with her, and are used to leaving all the things in the family to her to face alone.
The woman has endured most of her life, and she has long looked down on him in her heart.
In her eyes, the man is a very irresponsible husband. When he came home every day, he would always throw peanut shells everywhere and never do housework. No matter how busy he is at home, he only cares about watching Marseille......
In the end, the woman was also chilled and filed for divorce. Because, she can't feel love in marriage.
Du Yuesheng said: "Learn to help women do housework. A man who comes home and just lies on the sofa and waits for his wife to cook will make his married life lighter than boiled water. ”
Families are run by men and women together.
If a man turns a blind eye to the trivialities of the family, the woman will inevitably feel that she is running the family alone.
When encountering difficulties, men cannot be relied on; When he is tired, men don't care about family affairs......
Over time, a woman will also feel that not only does a man not love her, but also that he is worthless at home.
03, the child's problem, he turned a deaf ear
The family is built by the husband and wife together, and naturally, the responsibilities of the family and the housework should be shared by the two people.
The more a man cares about his family and his children, the more he loves his wife.
After work, no matter how tired he is, he will find time to spend with his children; No matter how busy his career is, he will share the burden of taking care of the children and let his wife rest more.
The most obvious change for a man, if he doesn't love his wife anymore and wants to give up his family, is that he turns a deaf ear to the problems of his children.
Where the child is studying, whether his academic performance is good or not, he can't do what he promises, and he doesn't care how disappointed he is.
The child is in his heart, as if it has nothing to do with him, and it is not important.
In life, he only cares about himself and whether he is doing well.
All his thoughts are not in the family, nor in the children. Such a man, probably because he has long been out of love and is ready for divorce.
04. He never solves the problems between you
I have a buddy who started to dislike coming home a few years ago.
After work, he would often ask us out for dinner or drink, or work overtime in the office, or often go on long business trips.
He and his wife have a very poor relationship, and they will quarrel when they meet. We often advised him to talk to his wife when he got home and not to quarrel with her.
However, he said, the problem between them could not be solved, and he did not want to solve it. If you can't get by, just divorce.
His wife can't stand him and never solves the problem, and the contradictions between them are like snowballs, and she is very desperate. Eventually, the decision was made to divorce.
When love disappears in marriage, men will no longer use their hearts to solve each other's problems.
His wife wept in front of him, and he would not ask why; His wife was angry with him, and he wouldn't ask why.
The problems between him and his wife were accumulated little by little, and finally the two of them became strangers, and neither of them wanted to pay attention to the other.
Scarlett · Johansson said: "Marriage is created and run by two people, but it also requires the efforts of both parties. ”
The man no longer solves the problems between you and allows you to despair in the marriage, which is actually the act of giving up the marriage and forcing you to leave.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Whether a man loves or not, life and time have actually given you the answer a long time ago.
A man doesn't love you, he treats his family, his children, and you like he doesn't care about himself, and he hangs high.
It's as if everything in the family has nothing to do with him.
George · Clooney said: "Marriage needs to be repaired and managed, but sometimes it needs to be let go. ”
Women, if a man really changes his mind and ignores you and his family, then he must learn to plan early and stop losses for himself.
Don't let yourself, in the wrong love and affection, be hurt to the ground.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.