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The ancients said: "Filial piety comes first". The ancestral religion teaches us to honor our parents, but this "filial piety" is not blind obedience!
People often say that parents love their children the most selflessly, we can't deny the original intention of their love, but some parents are because they have many children, love is mixed with selfish desires!
A bowl of water is slightly tilted, which is acceptable to the children. But if you can't figure it out, and you kidnap others morally in the name of love, you always put on the old man's shelf and let people obey their orders to pay for their brothers and sisters. It's really unacceptable, after all, no matter how deep the brotherhood is, everyone has their own family and responsibilities, and helping others without a bottom line is equivalent to pulling their small family into the fire pit!
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I once saw a person complaining in the comments: "Since I blocked and deleted my biological chain full of negative energy, my days have brightened up all of a sudden." ”
Although this approach is not very favorable, in real life, there are still many people who are still suppressed by the elderly in middle age. On the one hand, they work as psychologists for themselves, reminding themselves not to be too selfish and to set an example for the next generation; On the one hand, I want to insist on myself, and my dual personality suppresses myself, and I am on the verge of collapse several times!
And many more. After a few years of marriage, he was still provoked by his parents to sow discord between husband and wife, distort the facts behind his back, and find fault with his daughter-in-law or son-in-law's shortcomings, causing discord between the husband and wife of the children and the family!
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Therefore, if you have established a small family and your parents are always making waves, as a child, you must have the courage and unwavering determination to turn the tide, and don't get used to them being demons. Otherwise they will pull your whole family into the abyss!
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There is a saying: "When you love the wrong person, or marry the wrong person; When you have a serious illness, or your business fails and goes bankrupt; When you experience the life and death separation of your loved ones, or betrayal and injury; You will understand what life is. ”
I thought that marriage was a safe haven, but I didn't expect the biggest storm to come from marriage!
The most common mistake that in-laws make is to require daughters-in-law with high standards and children from local standards. I never treat my daughter-in-law as my own.
Therefore, if many women meet such in-laws, they can do their best to be benevolent and righteous with others, because the least cherished thing in this world is unprincipled tolerance and bottomless compromise, and the same is true for family relationships!
The young don't drag down the parents, the old don't drag down the children, this is the dragon and phoenix among people!
Family affection is like a blooming flower, don't think that your own children will prosper forever, and it also needs each of us to take care of and work hard!
Remember: family affection is the most valuable treasure in a person's life. Don't feel that you are still young, relying on the power of the family, favoring one over the other, being selfish and willful, and breaking the hearts of your children. Feng Shui takes turns, immorality kidnaps and suppresses children, treats daughters-in-law and sons-in-law well, and also accumulates cause and effect for oneself in his old age. Because it's not the younger generation who is unfilial, it's the thorn in the heart of the past, it's hard to do anything that didn't happen!
Everyone is responsible for the prosperity of the family and everything, and the elderly must also contribute!
People live for a lifetime, and grass lives for a spring. May all of us work hard when we are young to share the worries and problems of our parents; Don't be selfish when you're old, let your children worry!