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People have a strong mentality, and they naturally like people who are better than themselves.
But why do excellent people, people who are much stronger than you, fall in love with you, have you analyzed the real psychology behind this?
As we often see in our lives:
The man is much better and more handsome than his girlfriend, while his girlfriend is very ordinary.
Or maybe the woman is very good and perfect, but her partner is very average.
We will also wonder: how can a good person fall in love with someone so much worse than himself?
It is easy for people to "fall in love at first sight" with beautiful and beautiful people, but what really makes fate last and makes love stable is to get along for a long time.
After all
Heartbeat is the ripple of hormones for a minute, too easy.
Only when partners can provide "value" to each other, this relationship can be long-term and stable.
Therefore, people who are better than you only love you, and they must want these two things from you.
01
Emotionally stable
What does a good person look like?
Have the ability to make money, have a stable economic foundation, have a good image, and have excellent skills and academic qualifications.
He sparkles in the eyes of outsiders and lacks almost nothing.
There must be many people who like him and take the initiative to chase him.
Then why does he only love you and choose only you?
Two people have been together for a long time, and their shortcomings will definitely be exposed over time.
A near-perfect person who can fall in love with you and rely on you,
It must be that you can give him value other than material value, and that is - emotional value.
Your emotional stability is exactly what he lacks.
With you, I can feel the quiet years.
When he is frustrated, your gentleness and sobriety can soothe his uneasiness and loss.
When he is irritable, your calm patience, like a fire extinguisher only for him, will always shock him quickly.
When he is fragile and negative, your optimism can bring him hope.
A woman who is emotionally stable is a treasure.
Because emotionally stable women have a very strong core, always sober and independent, neither humble nor arrogant, not happy with things and not sad for themselves.
She can provide emotional value to her partner very well, but she is never flattering and humble, and she is a woman with a strong spirit and a rich heart.
Just like in "My Name is Jin Sanshun", the heroine Jin Sanshun is in the eyes of outsiders, with low cultural education, fat figure, just unemployed, and her image is very average in the eyes of outsiders.
was deeply in love with the rich second generation and the president of the company, (that was played by Hyun Bin).
Even after the perfect, beautiful, and excellent ex-girlfriend returned, he still chose Kim Sanshun, who was average in all aspects.
Why?
Because Jin Sanshun's emotions are very stable and the core is very strong.
She will never give up on herself, doubt life, and hate fate because of unemployment and temporary unhappiness.
She never complains, gets up when she falls, and believes she can do it.
She never lowered her mate selection requirements because of her bad image.
She is not inferior or self-pitying, and the whole person is very self-consistent, accepting herself and tolerating herself.
She is generous, tolerant, and does not care about the faults of others, but she also does not blindly tolerate and accommodate, has problems that must be solved, and never wrongs herself.
But after solving it, he will completely turn the page, never care, and can tolerate the imperfections of others.
Even if you are hurt, frustrated, or sad, you will not allow yourself to remain silent in negativity for too long.
She can always adjust herself quickly and continue to embrace life enthusiastically and positively.
This kind of full emotional value is exactly what the other party needs, just like spiritual food, once you experience it, you will never quit.
02
You can illuminate him
No one is perfect, and no matter how good a person is, there will always be corners covered with "dust".
When I was alone, I could only hide alone in a corner where I couldn't see the light, and my heart was missing a corner.
Once he meets that person, the person who can illuminate the dark corner of his life, he will cherish it for a lifetime and never let go.
In "Why Sheng Xiaomo", everyone doesn't understand,
Why did He Yichen, a high-achieving student, a great talent in the legal field, and an urban elite, fall in love with Zhao Mosheng, who is ordinary in all aspects?
He Yichen explained in one sentence: She is my sunshine.
Zhao Mosheng's optimism, heartlessness, infinite tolerance, enthusiasm and initiative, kindness and tenacity, are like a strong beam of sunshine, arrogant and unreasonable into He Yichen's heart.
illuminated the darkness in He Yichen's heart, and let him be bathed in the sun for a long time.
After enjoying the beauty and warmth of the sun, everyone around him became a general.
So no matter how many and excellent suitors there are around him, he only needs the one who "illuminates" him.
Between men and women, it's too easy to get excited.
But if you want to make love last, you want to be tired of it for a long time, and even the more you understand, the more you rely on it, and the more familiar you are, the more you love each other.
It must be that you complement each other, and you can provide "value" to each other, which is the secret of the eternal stability of love.
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