Preface
It is often said that fatherly love is like a mountain, and it is usually not spoken, but it is shown through action.
After watching the show "Where Are You Going, Dad", we found that dad's love can also be expressed with enthusiasm.
But in the entertainment industry, not every family relationship is so harmonious. There is such a person who has played many roles in the entertainment industry, such as the heroic Xiang Yu, and also played a shrewd strategist. He is an actor who can deeply understand the personalities of various characters, but he can ignore his son for 30 years and let him live on his own.
Now that he is 67 years old, he began to think about the issue of pension, and only then did he remember that he still had a son. Can this seemingly emotionless person repair his relationship with his son and reconcile again? If we dig deeper into his life experience, we may be able to understand why he treated his son the way he did.
Is it because his father's love is too deep and he is not good at expressing it, or is it because he really has no feelings for his son?
Debut is the pinnacle
On that day, the lights converged and the awards shone because of him. Standing at the Palme d'Or ceremony at the Cannes International Film Festival,
The high-spirited Zhang Fengyi ushered in his own highlights. said that Duan Xiaolou in "Farewell My Concubine" made him.
But I think it was his acting skills that made Duan Xiaolou successful. Zhang Fengyi's hometown is in Tanghe County, Henan Province, and when he was still in his mother's womb, he moved around with his parents. In 1956, he was born in Changsha, Hunan, and his family conditions were very ordinary.
Less than three months after he was born, he moved with his family to Dongchuan City, Yunnan Province, and it was only after arriving in Yunnan that his life stabilized. Thankfully, his parents valued education and allowed him to successfully complete primary and junior high school, which laid the foundation for his later development.
At the age of 15, Zhang Fengyi was favored by the local art troupe and joined the art troupe, which opened the door for his later acting career. He has been in the art troupe for 6 years, and during this time, his acting skills have improved a lot.
In 1977, Zhang Fengyi was 21 years old, and many of his colleagues were already married and had children, and they were living a family life. His parents also advised him to start a family early, but Zhang Fengyi didn't listen to them, he felt that he was still young and didn't want to be bound by his family too early. It was in that year that the college entrance examination resumed, and Zhang Fengyi saw hope.
In the second year of the resumption of the college entrance examination, he was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy, which was an important turning point for him. In his sophomore year, 24-year-old Zhang Fengyi was favored by the director of Hong Kong Phoenix Pictures because he was tall and handsome, and starred in the leading role of "Treasure Hunting". Although this movie didn't make him a hit, his performance left an impression on many directors.
In his junior year, he starred in "Camel Xiangzi", which made him famous in China this time. In 1983, Zhang Fengyi graduated from university and was assigned to Emei Film Studio and lived a stable life.
But this comfortable life made him a little confused, and he did not participate in any works for three years. In 1986, he returned to the spotlight with "The Adventures of a Pigeon Fan", which also won him his first award.
In 1988, 32-year-old Zhang Fengyi married Lu Liping, who graduated from Chinese opera. Soon after their marriage, their son Zhang Boyu was born. But then comes the question of reality: who will take care of the children? For the sake of her family, Lu Liping gave up her acting career and became a housewife.
Zhang Fengyi's career is getting better and better, but he is also getting busier and busier, and he is often away from home. Lu Liping hopes that he can spend more time with his son and herself, but Zhang Fengyi is always busy with work and socializing. Lu Liping once talked to him calmly, hoping that he could reduce some ineffective social interactions and spend more time with his family.
But Zhang Fengyi always said: "If I don't work hard and socialize, who will support my family?" Every time, Lu Liping was blocked by this sentence and had nothing to say. She once thought that her efforts would be recognized by her husband, but now she finds that after becoming a housewife, she and her husband have less and less common language.
When his son Zhang Boyu was 2 years old, Zhang Fengyi filed for divorce, and the two broke up peacefully, and since then they have gone their separate ways.
Fatherly longing and thanksgiving
After the divorce, Zhang Boyu's mother Lu Liping lost her financial resources and had to return to the entertainment industry. As for Zhang Fengyi, not long after the divorce, he found a new love again and married dance teacher Huo Fan.
He was very good to Huo Fan and took care of him carefully, compared with his previous attitude towards Lu Liping, it was really 108,000 miles worse. This makes people have to sigh, the speed at which men change their minds is so fast.
Zhang Fengyi started a new life soon after the divorce and married Huo Fan. And Xiao Zhang Boyu followed his mother Lu Liping to live. Fortunately, Lu Liping later met Sun Haiying, and the two soon became husband and wife.
Sun Haiying always supported Zhang Boyu's ideas, and Sun Haiying's encouragement and support were never absent on Zhang Boyu's growth path. In this loving environment, Zhang Boyu was successfully admitted to Chinese opera.
Zhang Boyu was full of gratitude to Sun Haiying, and after work, he took his mother and Sun Haiying to participate in "Traveling with My Parents". At this time, Zhang Fengyi suddenly appeared and began to point fingers at Zhang Boyu as his "biological father". Zhang Fengyi even made a lot of nonsense at Zhang Boyu's wedding, criticizing the extravagance and waste of the wedding, saying, "Can you use 27 tables for marriage?"
One table is enough. It's unbelievable that such words come out of the mouth of a father. Zhang Fengyi seems to have forgotten that over the years, he has not fulfilled his responsibilities as a father. His disregard for his son made Zhang Boyu more and more estranged from him. Zhang Boyu crossed the barrier in his heart and regarded Sun Haiying as his father.
Zhang Boyu was admitted to the Chinese opera, and he played the leading role in the graduation drama, and happily invited his father Zhang Fengyi to come to the play, but Zhang Fengyi not only did not encourage, but said coldly: "You are the leading actor, can you still watch this play?" ”
These words pierced Zhang Boyu's heart like a needle. Zhang Fengyi didn't support his son's desire to be an actor at all, and felt that his son was not good enough to be suitable for mixing in the entertainment industry.
This is like pouring cold water on Zhang Boyu's enthusiastic dream, and the contradiction between father and son began. What made the father-son relationship completely cold to the freezing point was when Zhang Boyu got married. This was a day of great joy, but Zhang Fengyi, who was a father, did not appear. His reasoning sounded particularly far-fetched.
He said that Zhang Boyu had just graduated, and it was too wasteful to have 27 tables for the wedding; also said that the weddings he attended were divorced in the end, and he was afraid that it would have a bad impact on his son. Who doesn't feel uncomfortable after hearing this kind of talk?
Everyone fried the pot all of a sudden, and they all said that Zhang Fengyi was too cold-blooded, and the relationship between father and son also fell to the bottom.
The deep reasons for the failure of paternal love
The failure of the father-son relationship between Zhang Fengyi and Zhang Boyu stems from Zhang Fengyi's dereliction of duty as a father. At every important stage of Zhang Boyu's growth, Zhang Fengyi's absence is particularly obvious.
His indifference and neglect not only made Zhang Boyu feel extremely deprived emotionally, but also made him bear undue pressure psychologically. In the big family of the entertainment industry, Zhang Fengyi can play various roles, but he has not been able to play the role of a father.
As time passed, Zhang Fengyi's neglect of Zhang Boyu gradually evolved into a habit. Even in the face of a major event such as his son's wedding, he still chooses his own concept rather than his son's happiness. This self-centered attitude eventually led to an insurmountable gap between him and his son.
In Zhang Boyu's heart, there is no place for his father for a long time, but Sun Haiying, who has been silently supporting and paying behind his back, occupies the position of his father in Zhang Boyu's heart. All this is the result of Zhang Fengyi's own choice, and it is also the inevitable consequence of his dereliction of duty as a father.