Text | The wind stops at night
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The pillow person is the name of an intimate relationship established between two people who have nothing to do with each other for a belief called "love", and a person who makes them sure that they will not be wrong!
It is both a pillow person and an intimate relationship, which means:
Each other, not only sharing a bed, but also a person with a common heart and deep feelings, facing life, both parties have the ability to solve problems at the same frequency and the perseverance to take responsibility for problems.
However, under the reality of human nature, even intimate pillow people will not get along completely ideally, and the occurrence of centrifugal phenomena is always so unguardable.
But so what?
A truly centrifugal person can't rebuild the harmony of the relationship!
Sometimes, when fate is over, it is pointless to force it! Instead of forcing it, let it go.
Pillow people, often do these 3 things, represent: centrifugal, don't force it!
1: When you encounter a problem, just be silent! The wind is calm and there is nothing to say
The best way to get along with people next to the pillow is to talk nonsense when the wind is calm, and to quarrel in order to solve the problem when you encounter a problem!
Nonsense is a necessary bridge between husband and wife to get closer! Effective quarrels are an important form of enhancing relationships!
When there is a problem between the people next to the pillow, just be silent! The calm and calm sea and the lack of words means that the distance between the hearts has long been widened.
In this state of getting along, two people will gradually lose their desire to share, lose their desire to suggest, and lose their empathy!
In this situation, if you have tried to communicate correctly but to no avail, and you have a clear conscience and go all out in self-examination, then you might as well try to let go!
2: Ignoring your needs and being indifferent to you for a long time
Between men and women, love and care at first sight is a spontaneous reaction that can't help but happen!
However, there is a saying that the joy at first sight does not last long!
Many men and women, from love to marriage, everything has gradually changed! Even, before entering the marriage, one party has already felt the indifference and disregard of the other!
As the length of the marriage increases, this indifference and disregard becomes clearer and clearer. The original sheltered home also makes people feel like they are leaking everywhere......
So, I advise you:
If it weren't for the fact that you had done something to maliciously hurt the other party and needed you to atone for your sins, choose to let go and start a new life!
Just imagine, what you pay wholeheartedly in exchange for the other party's cold attitude, are you really not worthy of a marriage that is relatively easy to experience?
People who really care about you and are worthy of your companionship may be ugly, unsightly, and have a worrying IQ, but they will definitely not be too bad for caring and caring for you.
The heart is no longer with you, so ignore your feelings and needs, let it go.
3: Often do not come home at night, and are unwilling to explain the reason, and angry at you to ask the reason
If there is no trust and loyalty between the people next to the pillow, then the continuation of the relationship is a game between the wicked and the victims!
When the person next to you frequently does not come home at night and is unwilling to explain the reason to you or be asked why, it is undoubtedly a great test of your relationship.
The behavior of the pillow person who does not return home at night and has no reasonable reason is likely to have other people to talk to and rely on outside, or the pillow person's feelings for you have changed fundamentally, and they do not return home at the same time to avoid it.
In the face of this situation, instead of asking questions, suspicions, and doubts, it is better to calm down and examine the relationship.
If you have talked about the person next to you countless times about not returning home at night, the other party is either cold and violent, or emotionally excessive, or even physically violent......
Remember - leave this toxic lover!
Of course, facing the centrifugal situation of the person next to the pillow can indeed be helpless and painful. After all, I have loved, believed, and looked forward to ......
However, things between men and women are never decided by one person, and when the person next to you has already done something about it, no matter how hard you try to keep it, it is in vain.
Sometimes letting go is also a kind of love, which is the fulfillment of oneself and the other party. Remember:
When the person next to the pillow has been centrifuged, keep your last dignity and simply turn around!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, the right time and the right person can achieve positive results!
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