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Betrayal is malicious and premeditated!
There is never a forgiveness that should be forgiven, only what is rightfully made up!
It's a pity that when faced with betrayal, too many original partners ignore that forgiveness is a choice, rather than forgiveness that can be sincere.
Therefore, when the betrayer denies, violently, or even coerces and blames the original partner, the original partner will be mired in internal friction!
In the face of betrayal, the original partner just remembers:
The betrayer is fully responsible, you don't need to blame yourself and question yourself, just use all your strength to do realistic self-interest operations like the betrayer!
Forgetting self-interest is the root of your internal friction!
After experiencing betrayal, self-interest is divided into the following two situations:
1: In the case of no divorce, grasp the dominance of the marriage relationship, so that the betrayer does not dare to make another mistake for the sake of self-interest; At the very least, not to the point of being vicious.
2: In the state of divorce, the self-interested interests of material, property, resources, and connections are maximized. If you can't let the betrayer out of the house, you have to let the betrayer not take advantage of it too much!
Putting aside the continuation of marriage, when we only talk about "divorce", you will find that too many original partners have made the mistake of being impulsive, blind, and not knowing how to calculate selfishly!
Even, there are some original partners, with the self-fantasy of "letting the betrayer taste loss", and doing a "great good deed" that seems to be simply but actually allows the betrayer to take advantage!
Really, if you have experienced betrayal and decided to divorce, it is pointless to advise you not to be a "great good person" to the betrayer!
Facing the betrayal of the person next to the pillow: If the original partner decides to leave, make these 3 preparations! There are benefits:
1: When you accept that you are not loved, do a good job of psychological adjustment to recognize the facts
Why did you see the true face of the betrayer and decide to divorce, but still be painful, angry, and confused?
Let me tell you, all these negative emotions are because you are unwilling to accept the fact that you are not loved, and you can't psychologically adjust to face the truth!
So, think of divorce as a way to solve the problem of being betrayed!
In fact, divorce is the last way to solve the problem of betrayal!
If you regard divorce as the only way to solve the problem of betrayal, then you are not solving the problem, you are escaping, and you are using incompetence to refuse to open your eyes to reality!
The person who loves you will not betray you, and the person who betrays you will not love you for a long time!
Only by seeing this fact clearly and adjusting your mindset to accept the truth can you quickly return to your senses, take divorce as a realistic goal for self-interest, and establish all effective target behaviors for this goal!
2: Before you can't be financially independent, even if the betrayer files for divorce, you don't have to agree
Some betrayers will coerce their original partners to compromise when they are determined to divorce!
Some of the original partners saw the fact that they were not loved, so they started the operation of being slaughtered by others!
In the end, people and money are empty, and the moment before the loss is swallowed, they are still hating!
There are also some original partners, who use emotional cleanliness to "protect" their dignity, so they simply turned around!
However, because such an original partner does not have the ability to be financially independent, he simply turns around but is never gorgeous!
Divorce often involves the division of property, so before divorcing, we need to have a clear understanding of our financial situation. This includes:
Find out about your family's assets, liabilities, and daily expenses.
At the same time, the original partner also needs to consider the financial risks that they may face after the divorce. Common risks are:
What about child support? What if I don't have the financial means or the income is not enough to support myself?
In order to avoid potential risks, the original partner should use the duration of the marriage to improve his professional skills and competitiveness, and prepare for possible career changes in the future.
It's not too late to think about divorce when you're independent!
3: Prepare for legal advice on property division
Divorce is never as simple as you nod my head and I agree!
Divorce is the end of the relationship, but it also involves many legal issues, such as the division of the joint property of the husband and wife, the ownership of child custody, the payment of alimony, etc.
In order to avoid unnecessary disputes and losses during the divorce process, we need to consult a professional lawyer in advance to understand the relevant laws and regulations and the protection of rights and interests.
In the process of legal consultation, we also need to pay attention to the rights and interests of ourselves and our children. We need to make sure that the divorce agreement clearly states things such as custody of the children, how to pay for child support, and visitation rights.
At the same time, you should also pay attention to the protection of your rights and interests after divorce, such as:
Protection of personal property, right to remarry, etc. Only by ensuring that the rights and interests of ourselves and our children are fully protected, can we live and work with peace of mind after the divorce.
Remember – prepare ahead of time to win!
Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
About the Author:
He is a high-quality author in the field of emotion, a professional counselor, and has provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
Topic discussion: Are you an original partner who has experienced betrayal and faced the problem of divorce sensibly? Let's talk about it in the comment section.