On a dimly lit night, in a café in the town, Li Ming sat alone by the window, with a cup of coffee in front of him, his eyes sometimes looking out the window at the hurried pedestrians, sometimes bowing his head in contemplation. His friend Zhang Wei pushed the door in, and walked straight to Li Ming with a somewhat ridiculous smile.
"Hey, Great Love Sage, are you thinking about life events again?" Zhang Wei deliberately said the three words "Great Love Saint" very loudly, attracting curious glances from several tables of customers around him.
Li Ming smiled bitterly and looked up at Zhang Wei, with a little helplessness in his eyes: "Don't be funny, I'm about to become synonymous with 'single dog'." You say, how come I can't find a girlfriend? ”
Zhang Wei pulled over the chair and sat down, and said seriously: "This matter has to be analyzed from many aspects. Come on, I'll give you a list of 'top 10 characteristics that you can't find a girlfriend', let's compare them one by one to see if you are 'unfortunate enough to be shot'. ”
1. Narrow social circles
"First of all, number one, the social circle is narrow." Zhang Wei counted his fingers as he spoke, "You usually stay at home except for work, and you don't go out to socialize on weekends, how can you meet new friends, let alone meet the girl you like." ”
When Li Ming heard this, he nodded secretly in his heart. He is indeed a typical otaku who prefers to immerse himself in a sea of books or games alone, except for necessary social activities.
2. Lack of self-confidence
"Second, there is a lack of self-confidence." Zhang Wei continued, "Every time you see a girl you like, you want to stop talking, for fear that you are not good enough and will be rejected by the other party. With this kind of mentality, how can you have the opportunity to show your charm? ”
Li Ming chuckled in his heart, recalling countless moments when he mustered up courage but flinched, and couldn't help but feel a pang of remorse.
3. Poor expression
"The third is not good at expression." Zhang Wei sighed, "You have a bunch of good words in your stomach, and when it comes to the critical moment, it will get stuck, or the words that come out are confusing." Feelings have to rely on communication to warm up. ”
Li Ming smiled bitterly, he is really not good at expressing his emotions in words, and he is always worried that saying the wrong thing will mislead the other party.
Fourth, being too picky
"Also, the fourth, too picky." Zhang Wei said earnestly, "You always say that you can't find a suitable one, but in fact, you have a perfect standard in your heart, but you forget that there is no absolute perfection in love." ”
Li Ming's heart was shocked, he did have a lot of fantasies about the other half, but he never really considered whether he was also in the other party's expectations.
Fifth, ignoring the image
"Fifth, ignore the image." Zhang Wei looked Li Ming up and down, "Although you are not required to be like a star, you still have to be basically clean and tidy, right?" What girl would like you with a scruffy beard? ”
Li Ming touched his chin, it was indeed a little prickly, he really didn't pay much attention to these details.
6. Lack of common interest
"Sixth, lack of common interest." Zhang Wei continued, "You always say that you can't find girls who have a common topic, but have you ever thought about taking the initiative to learn about each other's interests and hobbies, or cultivate some new hobbies? ”
Li Ming was silent, he really rarely took the initiative to understand other people's worlds, and always stayed in his own small circle.
7. Over-reliance on the Internet
"Seventh, over-reliance on the Internet." Zhang Wei shook his head, "You spend all day soaking on the Internet, meeting people through social media, but you forget that face-to-face communication is the most real." ”
Li Ming smiled bitterly, the Internet has indeed become a safe haven for him to escape from reality.
8. Lack of humor
"Eighth, lack of humor." Zhang Wei patted Li Ming on the shoulder, "Humor is the lubricant in interpersonal communication, which can make the atmosphere relaxed and pleasant. You're too serious, you have to learn to make a joke at the right time. ”
Li Ming thought about it, he was really not very good at joking, and he was always worried that he would not be able to grasp the proportions.
9. Lack of initiative
"Article 9, lack of initiative." Zhang Wei said seriously, "Love is not waiting for it, but needs to be actively pursued." You're always waiting for girls to come to you, how is that possible? ”
Li Ming sighed, he was indeed a passive person, always hoping that others would take that step first.
10. There is no plan for the future
"Finally, there is no plan for the future." Zhang Wei said earnestly, "Girls want to find a partner who is responsible and responsible. You don't have a clear plan for your future, how can you give girls a sense of security? ”
Li Ming was silent, he never seriously thought about his future, and always went with the flow.
"It seems that I was really 'unfortunate enough to be shot'." Li Ming smiled bitterly, but his eyes flashed with unprecedented firmness, "However, it's not too late to change from now on." Thank you, Zhang Wei, I will try to become a better version of myself. ”
Zhang Wei smiled, he knew that Li Ming had taken an important step. On this night full of possibilities, the two friends made a beautiful vision for the future together, and Li Ming officially embarked on a journey to find love.